Does jealously have value in driving humans to improve themselves or is it a purely negative emotion?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

That's a good question I would have to say the first time you become jealous and once you break it down and think about it all it's going to help you become a better person for the next time you get jealous and you stop getting jealous

Because once you understand that you cannot control anybody you cannot stop anybody from doing what they're doing with your partner or whomever they have to be the ones to put that stop to. . And if you can't trust somebody and what are you doing with them

. When I go into a relationship before I even go into it I asked myself are you willing to take the pain if it doesn't work out is it going to be worth it and of course I always say yes.

But you can do your part in the relationship and do the best you can do to make things work to grow to become better people but it's your partner doesn't feel the same way and they do something I mean they can leave anytime they can have an affair anytime and you can't get jealous of that you can get a little bit angry over because they've been wasting your time but you just got to let it all go.

And if that does happen you have to thank them and say thank you for showing me exactly who you are and just move on

But I can't get jealous. Over something that I cannot control your partner will do whatever they want to do when they want to do it and if they are a good partner you don't have to worry about it you can just look in to their eyes. And you can hear what they're saying to you whether it's silent or just to look in the eyes but they say I love you and you don't have anything to worry about and that's what it's all about right there but jealousy destroys everything

So it's up to the partner in question to make it easier on the other person to say hey wait a minute this is not happening you know that you better believe in me

V_Injector · Accepted Answer

Jealousy is just a feeling. You're getting fucked and not in the good way... then you feel that.

So yeah, you've sacrificed your other options for a partner with the expected returns being that they will do the same for you and then you notice they didn't sacrifice shit for you... you're just jealous.

You can accept this and be some sort of cuck... or... you can listen to your biology screaming at you that you're getting the shit end of a stick in a raw deal.

Jealousy is natural and it's only there telling you the truth. The ones telling you that shit is childish or whatever is probably gaslighting you and fucking you over.

Does jealously have value in driving humans to improve themselves or is it a purely negative emotion?

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

Jealousy is behind all psychology BS just lack of power to change something. I don't think inability to act can be ever source of any motivation.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

it's needed, but we have to understand it...

mstbooblover · Answer

What's not always easy to understand is that a feeling is always authentic. You just feel jalousy gnawing your mood. Jalousy on the other hand makes you see or feel something you crave to have, and believe should be yours instead of someone else's. This means you have the capacity to see something subtle, and that capacity can be used to grasp a better understanding of the human nature and of our own deep nature.

On a more everyday scale, a little jalousy may still show how we care about someone.

At first thus, jealousy is rather negative in general, be it only because of the incredible quantity of stupid reactions one may have. But if one's deep endeavour is to improve oneself, develop compassion by penetrating into the realm of Wisdom, then no doubt, jealousy may prove to be a very useful tool.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I don't know. I was raised to believe that jealousy is a deadly sin. Which I understand the thinking behind that but any time I see someone better than me and I get that twisted knots feeling:

A. It doesn't stop me from feeling happy for them and being potentially proud of them.

B. It makes me really want to be good at that thing too and that person becomes a source of inspiration.

Is that still jealousy? I don't know.

DextroShade · Answer

Jealousy exists to protect our lineage.

Men get jealous because they don't want to be cucked and waste their resources on another man's child.

Women get jealous because they don't want another woman to take the resources and attention they are currently getting from a man.

Passerby2 · Answer

Yes It has value as long as the person feeling jealousy can do something about it. "Absolute powerlessness corrupts absolutely" because jealousy can't be dealt with constructively. The jealous person either becomes dispondant / depressed or dangerous

RingOfFire · Answer

I think jealousy at a normal level is a binding force in a relationship. It's not a bad thing for couples to feel that the other one is so into them that they are protective of the relationship against Intruders.

But like some other qualities in relationships it can become damaging if taken to an extreme. At a certain point it becomes an unhealthy obsession.

RavVid · Answer

Envy is thought to. We have more envy towards people about the same level as us but have done better/have more. We are less envious of people elsewhere and more envious of neighbors.

katiesmuff · Answer

I'd say negative emotion as I've yet to see someone use jealously to improve themselves however that certainly would be a good thing.

thatshydork · Answer

It can be both, it just depends on the person.

Luopio27 · Answer

Envy is one of the deadliest of the 7 sins. There's never anything good that will ever cone out of it!

spartan55 · Answer

100% negative, I don't think it can drive you towards anything except poor hasty decisions.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I certainly don't think of jealousy that way, but I could see how someone might reach that conclusion.

JesseP1nk · Answer

Jealousy is a desire. It is a clue what or whom you desire

Kelly6 · Answer

@laly520 It is 50/50. Jealous create competition, Competition creates improvement  Improvement creates chaose or innovation

paledreams · Answer

Hmm intriguing question ❓ hard one to answer. Could be both 🤔

nawtee_me · Answer

Jealousy stems from a lack of trust and therefore happens only to those with trust issues of some kind.

MrGSpotHer · Answer

I find people work towards what they don't truly need and jealous people usually want what's attainable to them just don't want the effort involved

Ladsin2 · Answer

I don't think any emotion is purely good or bad. Give me one you disagree with and I'll flip it.

Anonymous · Answer

jealously within healthy limits can be a good thing to prevent stagnation

jahaims · Answer

I think it is a purely immature emotion but that doesn't mean it is always useless

Nerdvana · Answer

Purely negative emotion. "Comparison is the theft of joy"

Eleni06 · Answer

I think both can get you started. Negative to point at you age quickly.

jack1924 · Answer

Nope Ambition, not jealousy, should drive us to improve.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Its sort of backstabbing feeling thats made up from the phony person

Agape93 · Answer

Negative. Covetousness has value, jealous doesn't.

Unap0logetic_ · Answer

For a majority of people, it’s all negative.

Anonymous · Answer

Jealousy makes me homicidal

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't think it ever has any productive outcome.

Dongie · Answer

Nah, jealousy is a very powerful feeling.

eagle1951 · Answer

can go either way

Does jealously have value in driving humans to improve themselves or is it a purely negative emotion?

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