Is being jealous a good thing in a relationship?

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Is being jealous in the relationship good if not why

Kelley1 · Accepted Answer

Of course not!

Jealousy Versus Love

Love is trust. Jealousy is suspicion.

Love is the basis for confidence and high self-esteem. Jealousy is envy and lack of self worth.

Love is warm, tender and compassionate. Jealousy is rage.

Love is forgiving. Jealousy is unforgiving.

Men that love will lift their wives and lovers to the sky and give them freedom to be all that they can be. Jealous men control and confine, and will pull down their wives and girlfriends to their level and trample them under their feet. As a result, women that are loved will live up to expectations. Wives and lovers, who are belittled and subjected to constant defamation, tend to live down to the suspicions of jealous men.

Love gives the confidence and self-assurance for men to have pride when other men show admiration toward their wives and lovers. Jealous men are fearful and envious of the same admiration.

Men that love will risk their lives to protect their wives from any real harm. Jealous men will beat their wives and threaten other men over imaginary fears.

Now, none of the above implies that love will be blind to the facts. Nor does it mean that a loving husband will accept infidelity.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Like; jealous OF your partner?

Or jealous that someone could steal your partner?

Cause if it’s the second one I personally believe it’s a good thing.
I’ve felt jealous that someone could steal my partner or my partner could like someone else. SPECIALLY when I cared about him that much and was infatuated by him that much.
If im not attracted or interested, DUHHH, I won’t feel jealous!
Why fear their loss if you don’t care?

😂

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Being jealous is NOT a good thing. If you don’t trust your partner it’s never a good thing. You can know your partner genuinely loves you. You can see people who are super attractive and not have to worry your woman/man is going to do anything. Frankly if someone’s going to cheat they’re gonna do it…. People with low morals can’t help themselves.

Being jealous of what someone else has…. That’s another problem. Instead of being happy for your partners accomplishments, possessions, etc. You become jealous over them that’s never a good thing. I find it incredibly retarded when couples become at war with one another. When they’re supposed to be on the same side.

Jealousy and envoy are what causes relationships to end. A lot of times it happens form a gut feeling or projection.

imtiaz45 · Accepted Answer

A small amount of jealousy can be normal in a relationship, as it can indicate care and investment in the partner. However, excessive jealousy is generally harmful. It can lead to mistrust, insecurity, and controlling behavior, damaging the relationship's foundation. Healthy relationships are built on trust, communication, and mutual respect. When jealousy arises, it’s important to address the underlying insecurities and communicate openly with your partner. Working together to build trust and understanding can prevent jealousy from becoming destructive. Ultimately, while mild jealousy might be natural, it should not dominate the dynamics of a healthy relationship.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Aiming to sprinkle a little wisdom here, and let's dive into the hot waters of jealousy, shall we? Jealousy, that tricky little monster, has a bit of a spicy reputation. In small doses, it can be a signal, a nudge that says, "Hey, something here matters to me, and I might need to communicate my feelings or needs a bit better." However—and here's where the alarm bells might start ringing—if it starts turning into a feast, it can consume the very essence of your relationship like a wildfire. Jealousy often comes from insecurities or fears of losing someone, which, let's be real, is part of being human. But, when it overshadows trust and smothers the freedom to breathe, love, and grow, it turns into a red flag waving furiously. The key? Communication, darling. Talk it out, understand each other's fears and desires, and maybe, just maybe, you can transform that green-eyed monster into a cute little pet that brings you closer. Remember, too much spice can spoil the broth, so let's keep it zesty but tasty! 😉

AviatorTom · Answer

A bit of occasional jealousy is a good think, it shows you care. But constant jealousy is bad, very bad, and will destroy a relationship.

DishLady · Answer

No. It's an idiotic waste of time.

Lliam · Answer

No. If you trust your partner, there is no need for jealousy. If you don't trust them, either you have unhealthy mental issues or they are truly untrustworthy.

If they are untrustworthy, why would you stay with them? You can't hold onto them by keeping them on a leash.

I take pride in my partner. It makes me proud when she captures the attention of others for her looks. I know that she isn't interested in anyone but me. She would never cheat and neither would I.

We don't snoop on each other. We don't have to. What would be the point?

Jealousy is for immature, insecure, controlling people with anger issues and are prone to violence. They are incapable true love or healthy relationships. They may even be narcissistic. Either way, they are trouble and should be avoided.

HawkPerception · Answer

Absolutely not. There's no reason for jealousy in a relationship. I do my utmost to make my partner not feel jealous. I tell them where I'm going, who I'm with when I'm with them, and give them fingerprint access to my phone. I'm extremely communicative and make sure they know how much I love them and how committed I am to them.

A partner that truly loves and cares for you would never want you to feel negative emotions over them. Some people think it's healthy to have a little jealousy in a relationship because it shows that the other person cares, but to me that's just immaturity and a lack of emotional intelligence.

es20490446e · Answer

It's good being jealous if there is a justification for it.

Being jealous, just because your partner interacts with the complementary gender, is not a good sign.

The truth is, even when we like our partner, we always feel certain degree of attraction to other people. But even then we choose to stay with our partner, because that is way more fulfilling than a fling.

I know my girlfriend finds other men attractive, but I also know she prefers to be with me over anyone else. So I feel no jealously whatsoever.

smashleyy · Answer

In very small doses it can be sexy on occasion but too much of anything is never good. shows insecurity. overly jealous people have a tendency to be controlling as a partner just to avoid their own uncomfortable emotions which is a big no and a huge turn off for me

Agape93 · Answer

No. Because I'm not property. You don't own me. You're not entitled to me. If I'm dating you, then you have already agreed to non monogamy. So if you suddenly get a problem, that's on you. If you hid it, you're a liar and I'll drop you. It's toxic controlling bullshit.

DrPepper12 · Answer

No. Being alert and cognizant of your partners needs is good. Tbh some harmless competition could improve relationships. I get a real kick out of people hitting on my wife as its truly a compliment to her for her desirability and to me for choosing her. Its great because she shuts that shit down and i get to go home and fuck her!

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

There’s nothing wrong with being attracted to a partner’s possessiveness, it’s nice to be wanted. However, there is an issue when that jealousy turns into a need for control over their partner and usually works to isolate them heavily to force codependence

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely not. It is normal, though, but you should hide it. Almost everyone takes advantage of their partner when they are jealous. Or they can get their revenge on you for that. I did that in the past too. I used to make my ex girlfriend jealous because she desired me more when she thought she could lose me to another girl. At some point, she hit back and she flirted with another guy in front of me and told my best friend, in front of me, that she would date him if she hadn’t been in a relationship with me. We had a toxic relationship. What a mess! I gave up on dating after that.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Jealousy is fine, even can add spice to an otherwise boring relationship. The issue that comes into play is how well you each handle jealousy. If one or both of you are emotionally childish and allow jealousy to consume you, then it's already doomed for both of you. Trust is essential for jealousy to be kept in check. A lot of poly and cuckold couples could tell you the same, jealousy can be hot, but can also be explosive if not handled with care.

Amy10223 · Answer

I agree with Love Doc Brad. Yes, it's a sign that something close to you is important. So just a little jealously is ok. But when it starts to ruin the relationship and you begin to mistrust your partner all together--it's a sign you have trust issues and you'll end up losing the person.

on_my_knees · Answer

There's no inherently good or bad behaviors in a relationship. What is good or bad, however, is the reward/punishment system - that needs to be well executed. If my Mistress smacks my hand with a riding whip whenever I express jealousy of her other guy friends, then I won't do it any more.

Damaged00 · Answer

No it's not good. Jealousy is just insecurities and pettiness. Lack of confidence, which is the opposite of sexy. And it shows a huge lack of trust. Jealousy is referred to as the "green eyed monster" for a reason.

idonotlikeyou · Answer

Jealousy is a sign of immaturity and insecurity. It should be your first choice if you want to destroy a relationship.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Jealousy is destructive. Appreciation is healthy. If other people hit on your person it should make you feel good you are lucky enough to have them and that they come home to you.

FreyaRed · Answer

Jealousy is childish. If someone is willing to cheat on you, the person will cheat no matter if you show your dependency in shape of jealousy or not. I think jealousy destroyed billions of relationships but didn't save any.

Miristheiss · Answer

It depends on why. If a mate spends too much time with or is too close with an opposite sex person then maybe you two should split for incompatible values/boundaries.

rosemilk · Answer

i personally don't think so. a little jealousy can be fine a guess, but it can easily get blown out and become toxic for the relationship

meepmeeperton · Answer

Too much is bad and gets toxic but a little can be cute or endearing.

bowenw · Answer

I think it's okay and normal to a small degree. If it's taking over your thoughts without justification it's a problem.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Jealous no. Reacting to someone in a possessive way if healthy yes

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

Never. Having feeling of jealousy can never lead to having a healthy relationship.

_Troian_ · Answer

To a certain level yes, as a man I am jealous and thats in a being protective level.. women who clearly likes to flirt with other men might call it insecurity, which is not even true at all.

ShadesVow · Answer

Never has been never will be. Jealousy is a lousy quality in a partner.

alatir · Answer

In my opinion, being jealous is a good thing because i don't want to share my boyfriend with other girls. I also want my boyfriend to be jealous of me. Being jealous (not restrictive) is a sign of love

Meisdipa · Answer

It's okay to be insecure. But Jealous don't lead to good end.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I see it as pointless. If I have a reason to not trust her I don't hang around, snoop, etc. I end it and move on.

ticktds · Answer

There's a difference between "I really want to be your one and only" jealousy, and "I think you're unworthy of trust" jealousy.

turk55 · Answer

I think if a man is jealous of his wife, it means he loves her very much.

Anonymous · Answer

In very small amounts. I stress SMALL! Jealousy in small amounts says you value your partner which is a good thing. But too much jealousy is overbearing. So try to keep it in check.

Anonymous · Answer

Horrible thing when it is yourself. Can easily ruin a relationship and if you live in their past, it won't last.

Anonymous · Answer

I kind of like it when my girl gets jealous. That's not to say I'd deliberately make her jealous, I wouldn't, but if she gets jealous it's kind of attractive. It shows she really likes you.

nawtee_me · Answer

No not at all. Jealousy comes from a lack of trust. Relationships are built on trust and without trust, that is a big issue.

Sweetdreams1950 · Answer

It's actually a bad thing, you're hurting yourself.

admles · Answer

A small bit of slight jealousy can be a good thing.

noohair · Answer

Adding negative emotions into a relationship is always negative.

jahaims · Answer

Being jealous is a negative immature response

Anonymous · Answer

Never. Jealousy is a destructive emotion.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Yes if it isn't over-the-top and toxic.

Likes2drive · Answer

It’s never a good thing

Ladsin2 · Answer

If you’re not jealous you don’t care.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

no, its toxic.

Anonymous · Answer

Only ugly people get jealous.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Absolutely not

youandi_ · Answer

Yes.

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