Is jealousy good or bad?

Question

Some people like it when their partner is jealous in a relationship, but for others it is sick. What do you think, would you prefer having a jealous lover or not?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Jealousy is good to a certain extent , it shows your partner is scared to lose you and it shows that they love you. But if they are overly jealous of you then that can be a bad thing , cuz it means they don’t really trust you and they have a lot of insecurity issues they need to work on , on their own , before they can fully give their heart to someone 100 percent But , It’s always best to support your jealous partner instead of just thinking the worst case scenario that they are up to no good when really they aren’t , When you get upset at your partner for them being a little jealous and insecure, then you are the one that is more than likely up to no good and you are going to make it harder for your partner to get over feeling jealous. Why it’s always best to support your partner, , instead of just assuming the worst case scenario , Most people that are in long term relationships tend to get more jealous because they feel their is no way this person has been loyal to me this whole time , they start to feel like they must of cheated on me somewhere because how in the hell does this person really love me and staying faithful to me this whole time when everyone else I been with prior to them has just shit on my heart once they got bored of me So the truth of the matter is , we all have insecurities inside of us , whether someone says they do or not , we all have some type of insecurity that stems down from when we were kids or past relationships that failed , making it harder for us to trust in someone that gives us their heart cuz we tend to feel it’s too good to be true , When you learn to remove your inner selfishness for someone , it’s easier for them to remove it for you , When you can’t remove selfishness for your partner you my as well be a cheater even if you aren’t cheating , cuz you are only thinking of yourself and what is best for you , cuz you are only thinking of yourself , You are best not to get into a committed relationship with someone if you can’t remove selfishness for them , Most people just assume the worst case scenarios when they are really the ones that are up to no good , and the thing is if they are up to no good , the truth will eventually shine and they will siluffer
The consequences to their actions , and that’s something they will have to deal with on their own. Yes no one wants to be cheated on but you can’t live your life worrying that someone is going to cheat on you , You will never be happy. The truth is you can’t expect your partner to do for you if you can’t do for them , why communication is key to a happy fulfilling relationship instead of just thinking what is best for you. People that cheat are selfish people , they cheat because they do not know how to remove their inner selfishness for their partner , they think it’s their way or no way , they will never experience true love , they will keep continuing on a path of failed relationships because they only care about themselves , Why it’s best to always wear your partners shoes before making decisions, just because you might think something is ok , it might not be ok for your partner , Even though at times it feels like they are trying to control you it more than likely means they are trying to get you to respect them the same way you want them to respect you , Why making each other your top priority is important in a relationship if you want love to grow

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Jealousy has nothing to do with how a person feels about you. It has nothing to do with you at all. Jealousy is all about the person feeling jealous. It is merely a statement of feeling inadequate. It's saying "I feel inadequate to offer you what you want, need or deserve, or what I'd like to give you," or "I feel inadequate to acquire what this other person acquired."

When we feel jealous, our focus is external, not internal. I don't care how much we focus on others, we'll never move beyond our insecurities and inadequacies by doing so. Yes, you can make the other person's life miserable enough that they leave your life, but someone will replace them, and you'll still feel jealous. The only way to overcome jealousy is to identify what expectations we have of ourselves and then determine which are realistic and which aren't. If the expectations aren't realistic, get rid of them. If they are realistic, determine what you can do to overcome these perceived flaws, set a plan and measure your progress.

Intentionally making a partner jealous is just an immature game people play to convince themselves they are cared about. It will never take you where you want to go, but it will likely lead to the relationship's demise, as jealousy doesn't feel good, and we don't want to associate with those whose actions lead us to not feel good.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it’s bad. It make you look bad. It makes you look a little pathetic and weak. Maybe at first showing a little jealousy can show that you want him and that you don’t want to loose him. But if you keep showing throughout the relationship.

THATS JUST GONNA BE A TURN OFF 😒

And that could be a turn off wether that be a man or woman. You’re gonna look needy, you’re gonna look clingy. You’re gonna look desperate. You’re gonna look weak. You’re gonna look like you can’t stand on your two feet alone 😒.

Imagine a clingy guy. Not a good look. 😒

I have a pear hip shape 🍐. And women will start acting all clingy with their man when I’m around. That BS pisses me off and make me look down upon these pathetic insecure ass people. That just shows me that these cowards can’t stand on their pair of legs alone.
A lot of women want to claim theirs strong and independent. Clearly at lot of them are not 🖕They’re babies with diapers on, 🍼 who need their Boyfriend pacifier to shut them up

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

I used to say it was bad.

I think mutual jealousy is really good.

In my case, anyways. I don’t want to share my man with anyone else and I don’t want to be with anyone else.

It takes a good couple so long to find a good match. A good thing. Why should they have to share that soul of theirs with anyone else?

I wouldn’t. It took me so long to find a treat- I wouldn’t just let that treat go anywhere and everywhere without me.

When we’re mates- we’re mates for life.

End of discussion.

razelove · Answer

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, depending on what you're looking for. On the same token, I'm never going to say it's a good thing, like good things can happen from someone being clingy, or attentive. Not so much when they want to monopolize you and assume the worst though.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

There are different levels to it in my opinion. A normal level of jealousy is just normal. Then there are the freakshows that just go overboard with it. The ones that get pissed off just because you think somebody on television is pretty hawt or something stupid like that. Abnormal jealousy is where it becomes a very bad thing... I've anecdotally noticed many of those that have abnormal amounts of jealousy, desperately want to cheat on their partner themselves. They are constantly thinking about it themselves and they'll take it out on their partner.

Now if the partner is doing shit that warrants stuff like going through their partner's phone, or wondering wtf is going on... that's another matter entirely.

Screenwriter · Answer

Since jealousy is about the jealous person's inadequacy and not about the person it is directed at, it is useless. The person will state that YOU caused them to be jealous by the way you acted. Nope. They FELT jealous because they feared you were paying attention to and were therefore interested in a potential rival.

Anyone with adequate self-esteem doesn't become jealous because they trust their partner and know they're good enough in their relationship. Simply because someone else makes a play for your partner isn't a threat if you know where you stand. Simply because someone else might be an attractive person to your partner is also not a threat. A good partner won't be interested.

JDAC092299 · Answer

I think it’s bad, I hate being with a women who purposely tries to make me feel jealous too because it gets her off when I’m possessive, it’s disgusting and disrespectful to try and make someone feel like that. Furthermore I hate it when my partner is jealous too especially unnecessarily so as it can restrict your life in so many ways and forces you into an ultimatum more often than not, if someone is constantly jealous I suggest cutting ties with them. They’ll isolate you without a doubt given time.

lightbulb27 · Answer

how much jealousy is there in love?

bad emotion

ask yourself the negative consequences of jealousy. It leads to death when extreme.

bad.

read the Bible, covered that subject long ago... albeit, some of it difficult. some of it I can explain.

CubsterShura · Answer

That's like asking if happiness, sadness, anger etc are good or bad. They are emotions and they are normal and okay to feel. Jealousy is important for us to be aware of when we deserve better and are being treated unfairly.

How you deal with jealousy, what makes you jealous etc is what makes the situation good or bad.

ILoveAnime · Answer

I think some degree of jealousy is normal as long as that doesn't make you or them try to control the other person as a way to combat it. And you shouldn't get mad at your partner for your own jealousy. At most, talk to them about things if they really bother you but if their harmless, don't let your own intrusive thoughts poison a good relationship.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Yes because it still shows they have strong feelings for you, I would understand it being bad for someone that is hiding something but if you aren't then it's more adorable than anything but that depends on the person of course, some see it as a flaw.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Being jealous implies she isn't the one I'm dating but wants to steal me from another woman, so jealousy I don't like, but I think you are actually referring to being possessive, and possesiveness is good. I like the possessive type of woman who claims me as hers.

MysticDevice · Answer

A little bit of jealousy is fine. I think it can be a good driving force to keep couples together. But eventually it gets too much.

My last girlfriend in highschool would pout, give me the cold shoulder, and the silent treatment for talking with other GUY friends. And if I even aknowledged the existence of another girl... ooooh boy was I in trouble.

Needless to say I ended things pretty quick when I figured out what was happening.

Hanrej · Answer

I hate it. I don't mind sticking to one person but a jealous partner often find reasons for drama where there is none. Every female friend or even stranger instantly become competition and somehow it's my fault if she thinks I made eye contact with the waitress when she asked for our order.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Healthy level of jealous is normal.

For ex: A person touching your spouse in inappropriate places or flirting with them and they get jealous then that's normal and excepted.

Getting jealous because your spouse is talking to someone casually or being nice to them is when it gets ridiculous and annoying.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

It's a really negative emotion, more than being envious. Yes partners sometimes do get a little jealous if their partner spend some time with opposite sex which is cute to many but I guess jealous is a strong word to use here.

Kayla45 · Answer

In my absolutely professional opinion, jealousy is just a way of someone coping with the fact the person is either better than them at something, or coping over the fact that they can't out preform them in general. 😂

ChillaxingLove · Answer

I can understand why someone would like that their partner is jealous. It means they really care. However, it can get annoying pretty fast when every person you meet they get insecure over you because of every person.

molonski2 · Answer

You want them a bit jealous , but over the top , tracking everything you do , thats a pain in the arse. Its generally bad , but can be a little good.

RavVid · Answer

It is a poor idea to give your partner cause to be jealous. The consequence is they rate the relationship short term and look around for a better partner.

magiusX26 · Answer

to a degree it can be healthy, as in a motivator. one big issue is when a SO uses only this as a motivator. doung thst shows a lacking of that SO because they are limited in the basic abilities if this is their only way to motivate their partner.

Orion76 · Answer

It depends on the jealous part of the relationship, how jealous are they and how they manage it. Some jealousy is cute, some damaging and some is straight deadly.

Juneberry91 · Answer

Bad, The moment you detect it is your responsibility to digest and work it out or it will destroy what you have.

Anonymous · Answer

Not healthy. However, Personally speaking here, I got jealous over insecuriti4es caused by an ex that resulted in my sick jealousy so I finally ended it. I had to get me back again.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I think its sweet if its called for. But if they become super possessive around other men because they feel threatened then thats a bit of a turnoff

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I prefer she trust me and not worry about other women. If I am with her, other girls tend to fade in the background.

Ninania · Answer

Jealousy is a mix of emotions. Emotions aren't good or bad, but how you handle them determines whether they're healthy or pose a problem to you and/or your surroundings.

FreyaRed · Answer

It's negative emotions and showing emotional impulses especially negative ones isn't a good strategy for interpersonal relations.

melanieeeB · Answer

To some small degree, a small amount of jealousy can be good, but mostly the controlling and territorial jealousy thing is pretty bad in my eyes

MountAverage · Answer

Jealousy is just a feeling. How someone deals with their jealousy and how easily and for what reasons and to what extent they experience jealousy, that's what determines whether it's bad or not. Most of the time it's bad.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

I like it when someone gets territorial and jealous over their partner ( not in a toxic or unreasonable way lol )... It's like a form of intimacy...

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I’d say overall it’s just a little bad. If it’s just a wee bit then that is okay as long as it’s recognized and cured. If it gets to the point where the person starts murdering then I think we all know what that is.

serious · Answer

It is absolutely bad. It does not do good in any way.

Potteplante · Answer

I don't want a jealous partner. I want a partner that trusts me.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

In moderation, it can be rather cute, but if too extreme can completely derail your life and the relationship. Some is healthy, but when they're actively treating you like a prisoner, no.

parangat · Answer

Jealous patner is cool only till a limit if they're being overprotective or maybe they are raging over it or overthinking about such stuff the relationship might be affected. And making your patner jealous is fine but only once or twice.

ChiTown33 · Answer

A small amount is OK. It's kind of proof that they care. But beyond that it's bad. A relationship cannot exist without trust.

Akam93 · Answer

I'm a jealous woman myself. But im also insecure about my looks and body. Every girl is so much prettier than me.

megabamse · Answer

85% of the time it's a bad thing and the rest of the time it's legit

straightmax12 · Answer

I think it's both because the good thing is that being jealous helps people figure out what they're feeling inside and the bad thing is that some people will do stupid or irrational things to cover up their jealousy.

talka20 · Answer

A lot is really bad... little bit and bout a pertener is fine

Jay3344 · Answer

I kind of think is sexy in a new relationship. I would say after like year ten maybe it’s something deeper that needs to be addressed

genericname85 · Answer

i think a litle bit of it is healthy. but too much becomes controlling and cringy

Alpha714 · Answer

Everything is good with in limits... Beyond limit it get dismental...

Freyke · Answer

Good and bad. It can be cute or a controlling depe ding on how strong that jealousy is.

westsideman · Answer

Only smart people can be jealous for their partners. Not some people who don't know how to love.

Yumix · Answer

A tiny bit can be good. Too much is definitely bad though

Greenbins · Answer

I hate all forms of jealousy.. it's the most evil thing in the world. If my partner get any jealousy traits I'm out.

Strong_Warrior · Answer

I don't like jeaolus girls. They have mostly low self confidence.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

I believe it depends on just how extremely jealous the person is

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Jealousy is good as long as it isn't a unhealthy Jealousy like when some one gets hurt

StormChaser838 · Answer

It’s stupid, that’s all

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is always bad.

BrickBiggems · Answer

A little is good, to much is caustic.

Agape93 · Answer

Bad. It is always bad.

Luopio27 · Answer

A fair world would be the best thing.

Reorx · Answer

Anythng rooted in insecurity bad..

Dreamclouds · Answer

I love jealousy it outlines passion

chicken_nugget24 · Answer

Definitely bad

mommymommy · Answer

Bad!

ThomasDavid1989 · Answer

bad!

Preeti161101 · Answer

V bad

Nominal · Answer

Cute

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