I think most people would say yes I really don't think it is I look at it like this when I'm in a relationship and I'm with my girlfriend and guys look at her and she catches in I catch them at the same time we were just kind of looking at each other and smile first of all that's human nature guys are going to look girls are going to love but it's what you do with it you can't get negative about it because it's a positive thing if a guy looks at your girlfriend is he saying wow well that's a compliment why did you get negative about that when you're in a relationship you never know what's going to happen you have to give all your trust to somebody all your loyalty to somebody and I hope that they give it back to you you feel secure you know the guys are going to be looking at her you know girls are going to be looking at guys it's Human Nature you can't control anybody and why would you even want to whatever happens happens but if that trust is there that respect is there and that means you're having a real relationship and that's what a relationship is about when you add jealousy did you add negative vibes and you're telling your partner you don't believe in them there's no reason to get jealous of a guy just looking at her because you trust her you can't be mad at the guy and I'm definitely not going to be mad at her because I trust her when people are negative that means there's no trust and if there's no trust there's no respect relationship is doomed
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Jealousy is literally a curse , it shows the individuals insecurities , its NEVER good to be jealous , and with some its like a constant , you are constantly explaining yourself , and in the end it has the effect of sending you to another because your thought process is " She's going to think I did anyhow " , I can recall one girlfriend from Singapore , stunning looks , but the pressure she had me under , I was always on edge , I look back sometimes at this photos , and I can see the stress inside my body , not good for health , and such a nasty nasty individual , it starts jokingly and then just like domestic violence it builds until you just want to get rid of them , but jealous people make that difficult too.
Its a genuine curse , if you are starting ever to feel it , just take some weeks off and get away on your own , a horrid emotion , extremely prevalent in Asian culture , very dangerous.
So, I think a little bit of jealousy is normal and happens to most people. I think it's important how you handle jelaousy, rather than whether you felt it at all.
If you feel jelaous, talk to your partner about it so they can reassure you. Don't limit them, don't tell them they can't hang out with the opposite sex (or same sex if it's an lgbtq relationship), don't tell them they can't like people's photos or make them unfollow people. That's just toxic. Remember - if they wanna cheat on you they'll do it regardless. They can always find ways to lie to you and cheat on you even if you limited their freedom completely.
Controlling them is not the solution. You need to trust them and they need to trust you. Without trust, your relationship will not function.
Trust them, and if they still cheat on you, that's on them, leave them and do your best to heal and move on.
We can't control what other people do and people can often surprise us, you never know what to expect. But there are certain things you need in a relationship if you want it to work - one of those things is trust.
I think it depends on where the jealousy is directed. Isit looks, is it income or career trajectory, is it relationships with others that aren’t necessarily romantic? A little bit of jealousy can be a good motivator if the individual who is jealous realizes that they are jealous of their significant other. If the jealousy does not motivate an individual to be a better partner or friend or achieve more in their career, then I think it would be unhealthy. When myself or my husband catch an eye or two, we certainly don’t get jealous of that. We take it as a compliment.
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In my opinion, its good to be jealous on occasion. But jealous in a good way like damn, i hate so many others find my significant other attractive. When a person starts stalking your actions and constantly questioning your behavior then thats when its unhealthy. I always say that I dont trust other women around whoever I date; however, i trust the guy not to feed into their seductive bullshit. I think its good jealousy that I can accept that he's desirable but that I also trust him not to cheat. Bad jealousy would be if i constantly asked him if he's going to cheat withh all the girls throwin themselves at him.
To a certain extent, yes. But not to the extent of being controlling. I wouldn't spy on my partner or tell her what she could do or who she could see. But I'd be jealous if guys were hitting on her or if she seemed interested in other guys.
I'd dump her if she was unfaithful or if I couldn't trust her. Relationships are built on trust.
I think a partner appreciates a certain amount of jealousy because it shows how much you desire them. I mean, if nothing would make you jealous, it would seem like you didn't care one way or the other.You know this is such a great question and I've wonder this for a long time.
I think it indicates something. It indicates a lack of union. A lack of being united. And I think we can all say that is the #1 reason relationships fail. A lack of coherence. "Divided we fall"
Division leads to a lack of trust and many other bad things. But division is the core no matter the cause of the division.
But you know I also think there are levels. Does one think their partner will leave them for someone else? That is a pretty hefty level.
So YES @Desconhecida it is a bad thing but it depends on the degree of the jealousy. The level correlates with the lack of unity assuming both parties have healthy images of themselves.A little bit is okay.
Chances are if you have something good and worth having, then someone else out there wants it too.
Even if most people won't hit on your partner in front of you, there are some distant acquaintances that have no problem looming in the background, a little too willing to watch for any hiccups and provide one-sided emotional support at first sign of difficulty.
A little jealously can motivate you to stay attractive and attentive to your own partner. Too much, and it is overwhelming.jealousy is toxic and can transform into ever other human emotion but more often than not tends to lean towards Spite and anger and resentment towards the source the jealous feelings are found
Jealousy is the cause of most of humanities greatest downfalls and should be kept under control because of the unpredictable actions ad lack of moral control that can manifest in people because it
But it can also be a great motivator for someone to achieve higher than they otherwise would in any other situation without it
But being jealous in a relationship is never a good indication of a healthy loving and trusting relationship that depends on ones trust and stability to surviveThe people who claim jealousy is wrong are the same people who are stringing somebody along & playing games to intentionally push their buttons. Cause if they weren't they'd say that "sometimes I do something stupid and unreasonable that makes my SO a little jealous" -- There's different degrees to jealousy. From low key to setting a house on fire. Obviously the extreme tends to be bad. Unless, what you did was at the 'evil nuclear war level'. For example, if a married person gets caught in the marriage bed cheating, they can't claim that their spouse has zero right to be upset. They'd be wise not to get caught in that situation.
We're human, and thus we all have at certain moments felt jealous, often for very silly reasons. In a relationship, showing a bit jealousy is of no real consequence, but in most cases it forces partners to hide and lie for each other, which is never healthy for the mind and the relation. Jealousy is still just a feeling, and thus always genuine, whatever the cause, because we just feel what we feel. The point is being aware of that feeling, and handle it as an adult.
Even the most intense feelings of jealous frustration and envy can supercharge a woman's relationships with both her boyfriend and the weak beta male wimp who's buying her gifts, spoiling her rotten and kissing her ass. The key is to channel those feelings of frustration and harness them for her own benefit and selfish pleasure.
It can be scary. Seeing someone you are close to, or just simply admire being jealous because they feel you weren't seeing them is scary. You could think everything is fine until they explode on you. If they were jealous and just told you that wouldn't be scary. However human nature changes when you become passionate about something. Jealous often times leads to intense rage
Honestly it depends. Some people like having a super jealous partner because it makes them feel protected, but others find it to be an invasion of privacy. A bit of jealousy is perfectly natural unless your in an open relationship, then I would begin to question it.
If he makes me jealous I’m leaving. I know different cultures feel differently and I respect that. But for me, I don’t stick around to be made to feel like I’m last on the list. Spend time with people who feed your confidence. Not those who tear it down.
No way. I've been married to a jealous and insecure man for 9 years. It takes a toll on them and also the significant other. They can become possessive and controlling. I didn't spot this in the beginning bc I am not like that. Sure I have my own insecurities, but not to an extent where I take it out on someone else!
Yeah a little bit unhurtful but everything above a certain, let's say level, is not good.
For me like him being like oh he didn't really enjoy this guy trying to flirt with me is okay, but an overreacting and controlling behavior is way too much.Not unless you are given a reason. Just speaking from my point of view and not necessarily anyone else's, I don't have time for jealousy in a relationship. I do my best to show whoever that they are number one. I'm not a cheater and never have been. I never give a reason to anyone that they should be jealous for any reason. That would be on you.- Maybe you just not ready for anything serious- that's what I would say.
WIthin limits, it's somewhat normal I think. I don't know if it's healthy per se, but definitely normal. A bit. Can be endearing shows that you care.
But I'd still prefer to avoid jealousy as a whole, its not a nice feeling and it can easily grow and get out of hand, ruin everything.No.
For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. Ja 3:16If it's a matter of, say, a wife being "jealous" of another lady looking at her husband, she needs to have enough trust in him that his commitment is to his wife, first, last and always.Jealoisiness a human trait and is normal.
To maintain a good healthy relationship you have to take measures to know how much a person can be made jealous or what's there tolerance level
Its a ticking button you have to know your partner very well and make sure that they are not too much hurt.
Also the person being jealous has to have control on their emotionsYes, though too much of anything can spoil a good thing...
If it's troubling you, try to find the root of your jealousy. If your partner is the cause, talk about it with them, be open about what about their behavior made you feel this way... If it's because of insecurities, it's best to self-reflect, maybe even seek help, as there maybe something more going on... But definitely don't stay silent about it, don't let it eat you up inside...I don't think so. If you have a little bit of doubt or insecurity, the problem is that it eventually grows to more doubt, insecurity and jealous with time which they can become extremely toxic in the relationship.
The only time jealousy is appropriate if someone is actively trying to flirt and seduce your man or woman otherwise it's bad.For me it feels really shallow and gives some really bad anxiety as it feels like my other half isn't really invested in the relationship if they are that worried about others. As I have a strict Friend Zoned policy.
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