Does jealousy ruin or help a relationship?

Question

jorfan3 · Accepted Answer

A certain dose of jealousy can be healthy, even romantic.

I remember my husband confronting a man at our work who was hitting on me. I was super turned on by it 😍

But my husband also trusts me. He doesn't get upset when I have guy friends and was even willing to let me stay at a guy friend's house overnight because the weather was supposed to be terrible (I didn't, but I appreciated his security!)

I think jealousy can signify 1 of 2 things: that the person has either found a treasure and doesn't want to share, or deep insecurity. One is healthy, the other is not.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I be very jealous of my husband. Women often hit on him, like one time a waitress right in front of me an I was pregnant. I try not to give him reason to be jealous.

MrWolf · Accepted Answer

A little bit Is fine. A lot not so much. Does it help sometimes it does yet another times ruins your life, day etc.

People read to much into things this days. How can a normal hello or a kind waitress is seen as something else is a puzzle I can't even solve. That's for man. For woman oh there is game everywhere a man can't relax at all. And it's true. But let's be honest if the woman doesn't want to cheat she wouldn't.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

It fucks a relationship up. The underlying problem of it even being there is the real issue. It's either someone projecting onto their partner cheating intentions simply because they themselves just can't stop thinking about cheating, or they've been so fucked over by a cheater and haven't healed enough to accept that not everybody is like their ex.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I want a guy who cares about me enough to want my attention and time but I don't want him to express that care through jealousy or control. There are nicer ways of showing he values me, such as baking me a surprise cake when I'm in a bad mood, or driving me to the theatre to watch a movie.

Billlewis · Answer

That's a very good question, with no cut and dried answer. In my experience, the potential benefits of jealousy in a relationship are generally best served by the female making the male jealous -- but only if his ego is secure enough to withstand the tension that jealousy necessitates.
In other words, if the guy is strong enough to handle the challenge, jealousy can absolutely supercharge a relationship.

SoJust · Answer

You have to accept everything as it is, nothing you see is the way you set up in your head, and we need to know that if everything we saw was real or as we set up in our head, the sea water you saw as blue would be blue when we picked it up, so don't be jealous, look at everything as it is, love it and love yourself the most.

NathanDavis · Answer

never seen or heard... anyone say "all that jealousy really helped us... thank god we were so insecure and immature"

DizzyDesii · Answer

I like if he's occasionally jealous or overprotective for no reason. Im not gonna be petty and go out of my way to make him jealous

Nikki1989 · Answer

It doesn't just ruin it, it kills it.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I always looked at it this way... why would I let my eyes stray when I already have a great woman on my arms. Besides, it's just stupid games when you do that stuff to her and if she's been good to you, why be an ass?

RobT312 · Answer

Its a horrible thing. I think in relationships it happens 2 ways ( mostly). Someone is either inherently a jealous person (bad trait) or jealousy arises out of poor communication ( also a bad trait)

Wild_princess · Answer

It ruins the relationship in long term. might feel cute and adorable at first but it starts growing slowly like poison ivy... at end can destroy even a strong relationship

fonduegirl · Answer

Ruin. If you need jealousy to fuel your relationship, congratulations —  you aren't in a solid relationship to begin with.  Grow up.

TracyF · Answer

Jealous for you. Not of you. If you are dating a girl, it's okay to be jealous for her time. You want to spend time with her, and be something fulfilling for her. So tell her and show her.

TheMadLad · Answer

Don’t blame the jealous one, Blame the cause.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Healthy amount of jealousy and possessiveness is great... It's what makes a relationship.. Well, a relationship lol

Ninania · Answer

Jealousy is an emotion and doesn't do anything on its own.

Blackcupcake · Answer

it ruins it because there’s no trust and a lot of insecurity in the relationship

imawfulatusernames · Answer

Jealousy is a complex emotion. It doesn’t have to be unhealthy or damaging it’s all about how you communicate and handle it

Anonymous · Answer

It's OK in small doses. But in general it's very bad for a relationship. A woman that is jealous ALL OF THE TIME. Will eventually drive a guy away.

peedy · Answer

Depends on how/when/where and in what circumstanceits its used Like most if not all emotions they are a double edge sword

Sparkie460 · Answer

Jealousy always sends a relationship spiraling down hill. Sometimes they can work it out though.

najekim · Answer

Depends if there is actual or imagined reasons for the jealously.

Twalli · Answer

Depends on the level of jealousy and what you're jealous about

Fireguy17 · Answer

it will ruin one very quickly.

linka_pat307 · Answer

It helps a relationship

LovingJo · Answer

Depends to what degree... 💯

kevypatyy7 · Answer

It definitely does ruin

msc545 · Answer

Generally ruin it but YMMV

spartan55 · Answer

Ruin 100%

jimmy2 · Answer

It's a cancer that kills realtionsship off

slatyb · Answer

Ruins it.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Both

Does jealousy ruin or help a relationship?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Does jealousy ruin or help a relationship?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.