Why are racist terms amongst adolescence not seen as that serious?

[sofiiaagnzz]

the only really racist or insensitive things i have gotten for being mixed race (jamaican and peninsular Spanish) have been being called “blackie”by people in my small white town here in spain (there are no black people here).

usually with my friends or mostly popular people they’d called me “blackie” as a joke or pointed at any black thing and said it was me, which sometimes bothered me since it was a daily joke used on me but i laughed with them since i insinuated it was just a simple “joke”.

i also got called “blackie” buy a guy and his friends who i used to be romantically involved with (the guy) , and they’d talk bad about me and call me derogatory names while i wasn’t there, just for simply being mixed race.

why does this happen? in the adult world saying something like this is “forbidden” or “taboo” since it’s extremely racist, but amongst teenagers if you complain you’d get name-called.

[Kaneki05]

There is a difference between racism, and inappropriate.
It's normal for teens or adults are inappropriate when they know they can be. Teens get away with it more so they are more likely.

My friends still say racist, homophobic words etc. Are my friends actually racist or homophobic? Nah.
And more importantly they only say such thing around us, because we know what they mean when they say it. They don't actually mean anything by it. If they is saying to be mean to you that's a worry, if one's just having banter it means nothing.

The difference is hard to explain but it's easy to tell the difference. The context and how they are spoken is different, and it's give and take. Not just one way. You call them stuff too without any offense.

[sofiiaagnzz]

yea i get you, i don’t necessarily think my friends are racist but for example the guy that i was dating who broke up with me ages ago would make fun of me with his friends because i’m half black and they’d call me derogatory names to make fun of me, which to me in that case is racism

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Are you aware these teenagers are probably learning it from their parents?


Are you aware how little a parent cares what their own child says in their own home if they’re not directly disrespecting their parent, especially if it’s something they already agree with?


It’s not because they’re minors and don’t know better, it’s because their parents are racist too.

[BarryLiverstone]

Teenagers can be extremely cruel overall. And yes they can be racist. I’m also mixed and have had to deal with that in school as well. It hurts and unfortunately it will keep happening.