It seems like society puts too much value on masculine traits like strength, leadership, assertiveness etc. But then there isn't as much value put on feminine traits like being nurturing, caring, creativity, having emotional intelligence. Etc. Like we are forcing women into needing to be masculine to be "equal" instead of just embracing each genders qualities and seeing value in both sides.
Feminine traits are valued they're so valued that men used to do all kinds of dangerous difficult and unpleasant jobs to be able to take care of a woman and still do.
If you look at the job of garbage man for example. There's no status or prestige in being a garbage man and the job is not enjoyable or has any perks or anything. So the only reason anybody would do this job is if at least the pay was decent. And also this job is critical for society to function.
If you look at the jobs a women like doing (not all women can get these jobs but if they can most women would take these jobs. ) They usually have some kind of status and prestige, they're usually comfortable in nice environments, they're often social which women like, there's a lot of nice things about the jobs that don't have to do with money.
Men and women have different priorities, men need to compete and stand out so they're more likely to take jobs that nobody wants to do if they get rewarded for it.
It's not that people don't value femininity it's just that the job market will pay more for jobs if they can't find anybody to do it.
Like truck drivers. A woman would get paid the same wage as a man if she did this job and there are a few who do it. There's a woman who's a truck driver and makes youtube videos but only about 5-10 % of truck drivers are women.
So if there's a shortage and the pay is good but a lot of women still don't want to do them then it's because they value other things more than money which is fine.
But in the job market some things just need to get done, and nobody wants to do them so money is the incentive. Men are, and will be, the majority of people who take those kind of jobs and so they will earn money.
But why are they doing it? Most of the time so they can have a family. So saying femininity is not valued is wrong in my opinion. It's just a matter of priorities.
“Would there be less of a need for equality if feminine traits/femininity was seen as more valuable?” No, women would still be treated with sexist stereotypes.
The fact is, I’ve seen a lot of male users on this app use ‘intuition’ more than ‘logic’ like when they have no true quotes or evidence to go by they’ll just say shit pulled from their ass…. I don’t see women being uplifted just from the buffoonery of men here tbh.
Hell, I’d say having compassion & kindness & love are genuinely good traits to have. No one wants a walking neanderthal (woman or man) to be like “you suck! you should go die! no one loves you! you are a bastard!” right? Yet I don’t see loving men or compassionate women being uplifted in general by comparison.
My point is, stereotypes are dumb though even if they suddenly vanished… There would be discrimination towards certain men and certain women (women in this case). So yeah it sucks and we should see, hear, and care for women as human beings worthy of a voice, a seat, a hug, and an appreciative nod. Thank you.
P. S. Stereotypes hurt everyone, no one is safe from the damage. Though since the topic is focused on women, my answer is woman adjacent, though all stereotypes are bad.
@Apple1996 Well, it is because they feel anger isn’t an emotion… In the way crying, upset, exhausted, etc. are emotions… There is a serious issue (not just with that) where people push insecurities onto others like “oh that’s so gay” and the person shrugs it off since they don’t have that problem of narrow minded thinking which pisses the aggressor off even more…. Just let people be who they are and let people live life the way they are as long as it doesn’t hurt people. If it pisses you off or gets you triggered, who cares? Grow up (I’ve seen women & men who do this sort of thing…. Really frustrating)
The fact that traits are assigned the roles of masculine and feminine is itself a patriarchal act meant to undermine the value of women in society period. Of course they would place strict values on specific traits, not bothering to say that everyone should and could have a bit of everything to be healthy individuals psychologically, because it is a social power move to say “this is manly and this is girly and that’s the way it is” and subsequently make it so that anything feminine is looked down on because men matter more in a patriarchal society. This is why gender roles as a whole just need to be abolished. No one cares that much and anyone who does has just drank the kool-aid so much they think it’s water.
I have a teacher at school who always talks and complains about this stuff and its kinda annoying
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There already is equality, modern feminism is pushing for supremacy. By and large I agree with you though. Most women are natural nurturers, and most men are more assertive. Trying to make men more effeminate, and women more masculine does not help or make either more happy.
Actually only other women look down on a woman's feminine traits, many men don't care to see masculine traits in women because for the most part not only do men already carry those traits but as men, they go through masculine situations throughout their whole day, they want to come home to femininity and that femininity is wanted coming from their woman, not masculinity, men that complain and devalue feminine traits in women are for the most part using that as an excuse to hide the fact that they can't land their shot with women, a woman that has a lot to offer are usually and for the most part women that have these feminine traits because men will clearly struggle to accomplish these traits that are necessary in a household with children, womens femininity give them a calming nature that can be necessary to a man, it's women that created the whole idea that it's a must to have what men have and to grow masculine traits so they can survive on their own because they don't need anyone, really tell yourself how many women with masculine traits do you see successfully married to a man, most likely seen with other women cause with genders opposites attract, it's how it was designed to be, opposites were meant to attract in human nature.
Most definitely, it's just how it is
The problem isn't that society puts more value on masculine traits. The problem is that women try to compete in masculine endeavors using feminine traits, and feminine traits will never be competitive with masculine traits in masculine endeavors. Nor will men ever be as good as women when it comes to feminine endeavors.
Let me ask you this... you're a mother... do you honestly think men as a whole will ever be as good as you women are at being mothers? Women complain about men being lousy at the things mothers so well do every day. How is that different than men complaining about how poorly women do in leadership or power positions, as evidenced by the fact that there are very few women in power positions? Oh wait, that was a very "sexist" thing for me to say!
The problem is... today's women try to measure their value based on masculine traits. Nature will never allow women to be valued as high as men, for BEING men. Just like nature will never allow men to be valued as high as women for BEING women.
Today's men absolutely crave feminine women. Be a feminine woman, and excel in your role as a woman, and you will be valued equally to men. Try to be a man, and you will never be valued as highly as men.
Thank goodness for mothers.
Feminine traits are not as valuable as masculine traits because of biology: since men are physically and mentally stronger, more powerful in general, and we have the divine power to bring life into existence without any complications: by impregnating women. It automatically leads to conclusion that based on our biological differences, men do more than women which is more critical to the human race than what women do: protection, provide, maintain to ensure the human race survival. A woman nurtures the kids sure, but a man protects, provide, clothes, feeds the whole family (wife and children and who knows, another wife and children + perhaps also his own old parents). This went on generations by generations and there is a reason why: once again, biology. There is nothing more honourable what women do compared to what men do. Not to mention, all Prophethoods were passed down on men and the very first human being was a man, not woman.
Feminine is support, masculine is critical. Woman is optional. Man is mandatory.
Equality does not exist. Never did. The concept itself is fabricated by evil devil worshipers behind the narrative and mainstream media to enforce sensationalism.
u well... I do have a lot of intuition myself, my feelings and emotions are present as well... I rarely make decisions without considering all these too... it's not all "reason and logic"
kindness and compassion are key in some of the areas I work... so is communication and understanding... and I see all these as strengths not vulnerabilities or weakness
and a lot of these "masculine traits" are some, that I would see in myself as much as my ex-girlfriends so... for me personally, these things are not about gender and we don't need to "struggle for equality"... we just see eye to eye on many things, and side by side..
I think most of society does value feminine traits, we need both complimentary and equally important but very different roles for the world to work.
The issue is just as the other said below - women forcing themselves into masculine roles and trying to make everyone else adapt.
The world has and largely will be built by men, we’re just wired different. My industry is very high risk, without structure, leadership, and the ability to act under extreme pressure people can and do get hurt. Talking things out and worrying about tip toeing around peoples feelings gets people killed and it’s keep up or get out of the way.
There’s no less value on femininity, just different places for it
Bullseye! I've been making this point forever. Unlike what the feminist movement has been selling for decades, "equality" between men and women is not about women becoming "just like a man," it's about valuing women for their natural, god-given contribution to the human race and CELEBRATING their natural role in a family as the bearer and primary nurturer of the children, instead of denying it.
As long as women keep trying to prove that they can be just like a man they will never get the respect they deserve because they cannot. It's physically impossible. By playing that game they are implying that it's more valuable to be a man than to be a woman. So it is the feminists that are keeping women down.
"It seems like society puts too much value on masculine traits" -- men just built multiple civilizations and to this day do more than 98% or more of the work to invent, build and maintain infrastructure vital to the continuation of human societies. You have been trained to minimize the contributions of men and masculinity. Not because it is true but because it is propaganda that promotes destroying long proven traditional ways.
There is no need for "equality" in the traditional system because men and women weren't in competition with each other. If you change society so there is that competition you also create a situation where fewer men want to be traditional and it snowballs. A lot of women getting online whining about how they are tired of having to work or tired of guys not caring are starting to see the downside.
I would say "Yes"
If those female traits would be considered "more valuable" that would definitely help women being perceived equal.
Salaries and that stuff where women are still treated unfairly still need to be corrected, but valuing female traits more and dying them positive will definitely improve their situation.
Women don't need to be the next Schwarzenegger or Bruce Willis to be valuable in my opinion.
There are few MALE Schwarzeneggers or Bruce Willises.(Incidentally, the [exceedingly corrupt]"Rev." Ted DiBiase, Sr. who'll be 71 Saturday, the 18th, as is fellow former WWE superstar "Hacksaw" Jim Duggan today, Jan.14, was Theodore Marvin Willis at birth, but his biological father died when Ted was quite young and his wrestler mother married Ted's adoptive father, Mike DiBiase, a boxer/wrestler who died during a July 2,1969 match, four days before my 16th birthday).
There already is equality. Feminine traits are already valuable. Women are becoming more and more masculine and losing their femininity these days.
Men and women are different. Men will always drive society because they do all the jobs that actually build an infrastructure and keep it running and repair everything. Women COMPLIMENT men.
Funny. Feminism made feminine women less valuable and decided masculine men were "toxic"...
Basically feminism butt-fucked both
Great point and I agree. I believe many, if not most, see it as valuable but there seems to be a loud minority who don't. Equality (i. e. freedom, opportunity, respect, etc.) can be enjoyed by everyone but we don't have to be equals. Yin yang works. I wouldn't last a week with the female version of me :)
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Sounds rather valuable to me.
I think equality would be much more effective if it was acknowledged by everyone that men and women are different but complementary. Instead we have feminism that says men should be weak and women should be men.
There has never been a need for equality. Men and women are not equal, as the chart shows. Equal opportunity (when qualified) is what we should be encouraging, but there are too many people on the far left and right who are against that.
These aren't masculine and feminine traits. They're traits our society values in men and women, respectively. If "feminine traits" were valued more, then they would be expected of men more and of women less. We need to address both issues (devaluing certain traits, and devaluing women) or the idea of masculinity and femininity will just keep changing so that men are associated with (and expected to have) higher value traits than women are.
they are seen as valuable. just not in the same contexts. like you can't take 2 different people with very different strengths and weaknesses and make them do the exact same job expecting they perform the same. that's not how it works.
Yeah, other women are forcing women to be masculine.. Men don't like masculine women.. You see it goes like this, women are encouraged to be more masculine by other women, and women don't like feminine traits in men much, but men love feminine traits in men, but also women act like they don't they care what men think.. So in the end this is the result..
Is intuition really a woman's-specific trait?
To me there is no need for equality cause women and men both do certain things well. That's why when we come together we're able to do amazing things
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I think we just should respect each other the same... and not pay much attention to details like gender... people are people...
Objectively, this is of no use; the only thing women contributed to their history was their uterus, but in a world where so many children are no longer necessary, they will be forced to give up their privileges and work like men.
I think men have always valued the feminine virtues but feminists did not.
I would say no because to me equality is actually about giving women room to live out their feminine traits. It took me years to understand that women have different traits and that women have some needs that men don´t have in the same extent.
These aren't feminine and masculine traits, its a typical example how gender is a social construct.
Everyone has these traits, and it depends more on the individual which are more pronounced and society how they view these traits.
In my opinion, I find feminine traits/femininity more valuable than equality.
I want my BFF and SO to share a Life with; NOT an equal friend or buddy.
If there was no femininity in the world you guys would live my experience and its as close to hell as physically possible
Amen! We need to be able to embrace value and appreciate both!
Perfectly said!, also masculine traits in women should be valued more,,,
Average feminist: “I wish femininity was seen as more valuable”
Reality: “Women and children first”, men die in wars, die at jobs to provide for women.
This is why no one takes you seriously.
lmao. because we're not at war currently. What a stupid statistic to bring up.
lol. people would die from all kinds of things before modern medicine. Why are you so desperate to be a victim? It's laughable at this point you keep digging your hole deeper.
Who created those theories? feminist retards?
If men didn't go to war you'd be speaking german.
You keep getting knocked up. So either you have evaluated the risk of childbirth is worth it, or you have zero survival skills.
And to put a pin in your dumb assertions. .002% of women giving
birth die during child birth. About 900 a year. 570000 men died in vietnam. you got a long way to go to catch up
You'd give a shit if you had to live in under Nazi rule. Don't be so fucking dumb.
So it must not be that difficult giving birth if tons of women do it.
you have any more retarded things to say, or are you done?
You're not. I don't expect much intelligence out of you, so not ever disappointed.
"Valuable" equates to being able to work hard or make a lot of money or kill others in our culture. It is Doubtful that feminine traits will ever be considered "valuable" in our culture.
Do you find no value in having the ability to birth and raise children? Do you think it is valuable to be able to kill others? Id say settle arguments, but in what instances do you think its valuable to kill others?
Women were happier and society was better when women were expected to be women and not men.
I think that feminine traits are valued in society except by feminists.
I don’t think so. If you look back to the thirties, forties or fifties when women held thoses thing highly and men looked for women like that. Yet there was less equality then than now….
Men already see this valuable
I disagree with your chart. Many of those personality traits deemed feminine, men (myself included) also have.
No one is forcing you to do anything in this sense. If you have masculine or feminine qualities, use them.
The problem. is your perception. 100 percent of masculinity it to protect and preserve femininity.
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