Why do so many women like the thug appearance but not the actual thug behavior?

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i meant why do some women and by thug I meant bad boy appearance basically the same thing just different wording. but like I said why do some women like the whole Bad Boy / thug appearance but not the actual bad boy or thug Nature

[abbyjgriffin98]

Honestly, I don't like the thug appearance (with or without the thug attitude). My ideal type is more wholesome, sweet and polite. I would prefer someone more like me. I. e., doesn't smoke, doesn't drink, doesn't party, has an honest job that I enjoy going to. Honestly, I feel like you can have the appearance of being a thug without having an attitutde like a thug. The way you dress yourself is a form of self-expression. So if you dress a certain way, you kind of radiate that same energy. Also, I think a lot of women who go for bad boys do so either for the thrill, because that's maybe what they grew up with or because they don't think they deserve any better. But I don't want a bad boy. I want someone who treats me with respect, who I am not ashamed/embarrased to bring home to mom.

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thank you

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Because the “look” and the “lifestyle” are two completely different things.

A lot of women like the aesthetic, confidence, edge, swagger, a bit of mystery.

It’s visual. It’s fantasy. It’s chemistry.

But the real bad boy behavior?

Unstable, disrespectful, risky, unpredictable and it ruins your peace.

Most women don’t want chaos in real life, they just find the style attractive.

So the attraction is to the vibe, not the consequences.

[BEANGENOS]

that was very insightful thank you

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You say that like appearance doesn’t hold appeal in the same way actions do. Obviously someone who’s pretty to look at but shitty to deal with isn’t going to be fun to date

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thank you

[Abbycado]

Umm, "so many"?

I don't know a single one that likes that, including myself.

[Anonymous]

Most girls I know don't like that.

[In_Trance]

They really don't