Why are some women attracted to thugs and parolees?

Question

I've seen attractive, well-dressed, classy looking women hanging out with guys who are obviously on parole. Maybe I'm being unfair, but the skinhead tattooed face and scalp certainly makes them look like they're on parole.

What do some women find attractive in guys who can't get along in society and seem to have anti-social tendencies? Because to me the guy looks like a loser and like he doesn't have anything to contribute. But they get attractive women. That far of an extreme suggests mental disorder, and not qualities I'd imagine would be sought after by women.

For animals if the male is too low it won't be able to defend the female, but if his testosterone is too high, it kills the offspring. So what's the draw to way high testosterone, anti-social guys?

titoloco · Accepted Answer

What do women find attractive in guys who can't get along with the program society has for them?

You don't get it do you? They have strong genes and even thou society doesn't allow them to have it their way. They learn tricks around the system or even against it, and the lucky ones thrives.

Frank Lucas, the American ganster did it. My little brother is a fan of Gagsta lifestyle, and I've managed to keep him out of the streets and got him to study. Drug and smoke free.

Just because these guys use Cohesive means to get what they want, doesn't make them less human. They got needs and money is a necessity to function. Add the factor of high testosterone and you got your self a dangerous individual, who will command your respect through fear and pain, as opposed to a successful man who will command respect through generosity and admiration.

Women are attracted to POWER, whether it's fair in your eyes or not. Women don't need your permission to be attracted to someone.

In the animal kindom, if you're an OMEGA trying to convey the qualities of an ALPHA. You're gonna get beaten up over and over again until either your learn your role or kill the alpha. Do you think you're gonna As.S Rape the guy who can lift all the plates in the gym. erm...think not! and women love them for it.

Also, you're right about some animals killing the offspring, but evolution rewards those who survive. Instead of moaning like a b...ch about why these guys get attractive women. I suggest you take a look in the mirror and reflect on what you can do to incorporate the traits that women love.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Those kind of women think too highly of themselves. They think they can change a man that they find attractive because of how great they are. Now why that means they go for grimy, scumbags I will never understand. Maybe they actually feel sh*tty about themselves deep down, I have no idea. There isn't a single positive attribute about a guy like that though. They have nothing positive to offer.

If you look at how men approach relationships, they want a girl that they find attractive, have a lot in common with, and that would fit right along in with their family. Now think about how a trashy thug would look in with a family that comes from middle to upper class America. Way out of place. It's insanity.

I'm not trying to be judgmental either, it just isn't going to work out favorably, if it even does at all, and I always pray that it doesn't. These women can do so much better. The sad part too, they're turned off, even in some cases, seemingly repulsed by men that share "common ground."

Women these days man... I'm not sure if there has even been a harder time to be a middle-class, white American male. It's like we're not good enough for women anymore, and I will not settle for less either.

shadow25 · Accepted Answer

I consider myself an attractive lady. ( I'm cute enough for random people men and ladies to commonly come up to me and just tell me I'm beautiful and always telling me i have gorgeous eyes... ect.) I'm fun, adventurous, funny, and have a good mind. I have a couple things I'm insecure about just like everyone else, but I would never consider myself as having low self esteem.
However the guy I like ( and dated for about 1 1/2 years) dresses, walks, and acts like a thug. He told me when he was 21-22 he was in and out of mental institutions and living on the street bc he just kinda lost it mentally. He's been to jail, he's done drugs, talks slow. typical skaterboy. He has no tattoos, but wears REALLY baggy clothes, not just sags his pants but worse. XXXL big white T. all that.
His clothes alone aren't what attracts me, actually his skater/rap/thug style is a reason that's keeping me from getting back with him. I grew up with prejudice about "thug" looking people, and the reason I like this dude is b/c he's proven all my initial negative prejudices about him wrong.
He's been nothing but sweet to me, breakfast in bed is a regular, super polite, always there for me if I need help, gives good advice, really funny. On our first date he took me to a school banquet, often show me off to his friends, and invited me to visit his parents. I love him because he's gone through different experiences than me and is the best at everything he tries, tall, and has a deep voice.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Easy there, Javert.

Just because someone has a shaved head, and/or looks like a convict to you, doesn't mean they have those bad traits you mentioned. "Because to me the guy looks like a loser and like he doesn't have anything to contribute." And yet you don't know them. Is that not the definition of prejudice? They may be very nice people, and all of these men are unique and different from each other. What gives you the right to claim that they "can't get along in society" or "seem to have anti-social tendencies," just because (as this is all you mentioned) they have shaved heads and facial/scalp tattoos? If you had mentioned any actual behaviors, it would make more sense, but your concern is solely with appearance.

Why do you care, anyway? People like who they like. The only way this makes any difference to you is if a woman you know personally is attracted to one of these "thugs" or "parolees" (who might be neither, for all you know) and if you want to change that. Otherwise, it's not your business.

ThisisLogix · Accepted Answer

I think the reason they become attracted to these types of men is probably because it is a familiar type feeling they've have condition them self to love. Could be because their fathers were that way or because of low self-esteem.

Most women usually reject love from men who really care about them probably because they feel like it's an "undeserving love." It's sad because lots of people fall victim to this idea. Having low confidence and self-esteem really causes you to think you can't or are not suited for something better.

crybaby · Answer

excitement, mystery, danger. Women are attracted to that. It's like a magnent, it is in our nature to go after the dangerous and mysterious man in a leather jacket rather than the casual dressed business man standing next to him. But I personally find it disgusting when they are dirty and unhygienic.

This question is kinda like asking why males prefer going home with the woman in the short dress, with the big boobs, round firm ass and high heels that reach up to the sky rather than the nun standing next to her.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm one of those women and I like the high testosterone hyper masculinity

like the warrior type

I hate when guys try to psycho analyze it.we like who we like and I don't have to justify my attraction to anyone. Find a girl who appreciates what you have to offer and be happy.

linesoflightning · Answer

What do you mean they LOOK like losers, or they LOOK like they're on parole? Do you have some sort of magical power that allows you to access a person's criminal record just by looking at them? Does this power also give you immediate, infallible insight into this person's mental state and psychological integrity?

Janson · Answer

Keep in mind that some of the girls these guys attract often belong in an asylum right beside their boy. So you may want to question if these girls are even your type in the first place

DandelionGirl · Answer

No girl likes a wimp for a boyfriend, they prefer the hard ass punk who will beat the sh*t out of her.  But I don't date creeps like that.

skinandbones · Answer

thugs and parlees? blah. I go for dudes already in jail. that way I know where he is every night. :)

Anonymous · Answer

Drama. Women need drama like cars need gasoline. The thug/a**hole they take on to try and "change" (but still haven't ever realized that guys never change) and they want to be treated like crap and all that because it gives them an excuse to complain. I mean, what would women be like if they didn't complain? They'd be normal and they're totally incapable of doing that. I mean why would any of them want to be with a nice guy who treats them well!? What a foreign concept

DynastyEmpire1990 · Answer

Can we stop with these questions Please? I am annoyed it's goping to be the same anwser every time,lol.

Anonymous · Answer

caz they got that bad boy allure. I'm a shy good girl and opposites attract. well also I sometimes say I don't have a life and I nice someone non boring to spice it up

tiredofwaiting · Answer

Low self esteem Feel that is all they can get/deserve They are attracted to the mystery and  the bad boy image

Anonymous · Answer

Because those thugs and parolees show interest to them.

Anonymous · Answer

well because of how they treat the girl with confidence.

Chicagobabe · Answer

Welcome to today's society.

AudiR8 · Answer

Those girls are usually from the ghetto.

Anonymous · Answer

I love men who been in jail. I don't know why. It's hot

Anonymous · Answer

because they have low self worth.

abundantlyrich · Answer

They love fatal attraction.

Anonymous · Answer

Trash is attracted to trash

Anonymous · Answer

they like the bad guy part

Anonymous · Answer

Because they have big d***s.

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