If people believe people should have the right to refuse a race when it comes to sex, why are people defending cross race adoption?

[Anonymous]

Because people think racial adoption isn’t intimate in similar ways that could cause potential problems

Society doesn’t have enough knowledge of racial dynamics and we don’t have the drive want to focus on controversial topics so we just say we agree

[Bitter_Sweet94]

These two topics sound similar on the surface, but they’re not actually the same thing.

Sex and adoption operate on completely different rules.

1) **Sex is personal desire.**

People are allowed to choose who they’re sexually attracted to.

Attraction isn’t a moral issue, it’s a private, biological, emotional preference.

No one is owed sexual access to anyone.

2) **Adoption is about the child, not the adults.**

When people defend cross race adoption, it’s not to control who parents “should prefer.”

It’s because the priority is simple
*a child deserves a safe, stable home even if the parents aren’t the same race.*

That’s it.

The logic behind the support for cross race adoption is “Don’t leave a kid without a family just because the adults don’t match their race.”

The logic behind respecting sexual preference is “Don’t force someone into intimacy they don’t want.”

Two different arenas, two different values

* Sex - autonomy of the adult.*

* Adoption - wellbeing of the child.*

Once you separate those, the contradiction disappears.

[msmissydc]

Because you are not supposed to be sexually attracted to your child, not even an adopted one.
Also you are allways allowed to refuse sex, independant of any reason at all, thats just how consent works.

[OneViewpoint]

Here's another question for you. Why are you obsessed with race? You need to be obsessed with your mental health.

[siezuresalad]

Are you saying that a black child can't consent to live with a white family?

[blackeagle007]

Guess the asker didn’t see the movie “blind side”