Why are boys so neglected compared to girls when they grow up?

Question

Girls are coddled their whole lives, but boys are treated like men when they turn 18 and are left to make mistakes and ruin their lives. I think it's a terrible way to raise boys and girls.

ohsheeT · Answer

Well you're right about the raising of the girls and the boys it's more or less on the parents but this is what I see

Two parents a man and a woman Have two children boys or girls I think girls are either smarter they're in more tune with themselves than boys because a girl will watch their parents interact and they really pay attention and they put it together that is called love

Where a young boy looks at it and goes how gross get a room whatever and doesn't even think about it

I think I was in second third or fourth grade but whenever the teacher would ask a question she would pick you are you raise your hand you would have to stand up and give your answer

Well I didn't raise my hand but my teacher picked need to answer the question and I started to answer it but she said I had to stand up and I shook my head no she said a couple things and then she picked a girl I looked at the girl she raised her hand she stood up and answer the question well I couldn't stand up and answer the question because I had a hard on

She answered the question looked at me with a snotty looking face like she was saying neither neither don't stand up we'll see your weiner

And I knew right then and there that girls were going to rule the world they were going to run the world because guys are too stupid focused on the wrong things

When I was 16 and a half I moved out of my mom's house I moved in with two brothers twins their mom was moving to San Diego to start a business she said that they could stay there and finish school I moved in with them

I had just met a girl we had a couple girls come over one night one girl asked me if I love the girl that I was with and I looked at her and said what what do you mean love

And of course I said well yes I do So I had to think about it what is love I wasn't paying attention to my parents What they were doing I didn't know anything about love

So it's 16 and a half I had to start learning things very quickly

Girls aren't coddled they're smart they pay attention they understand things you're curious about things we're boys they're in la la land they think they know it all but they don't know shit

So from that moment on I had to ask myself questions because I needed the real answers and I didn't need fake answers or I didn't need to follow somebody I needed real answers for me

I need answers like who are you because whatever you say you better have your answer for you not somebody else's answer

How do I see it how do I feel about it what do I believe in

Girls are not coddled well they are because they're girls and that's the way you treat girls you love them you show them how a man or a woman is supposed to treat a woman as they grow old this is what you look for in a man

At that age girls are just smarter that's all there is to it boys are dumb I was so lucky that I moved out when I was 16 and a half and started my journey in life I'm trying to understand everything there's other guys that don't move out of their parents house until they're 18 and start that Journey

4ngelic · Answer

Completely disagree. At least in western countries as of now, 18yo boys are not at all remotely seen or treated as men, and left to fend completely for themselves. They're seen and treated as immature teenagers who are adults in name only. The world is their oyster, no one holds them accountable for their mistakes, which are just 'youth errors', and mom & dad are right there to pay for everything and help out in case of problems. Same for girls. Even if you're a grown ass man, unless you have shitty parents, your parents will always be there to help you out, give you $, and will try to intervene if they can if you're going down a bad path.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I think thick skin and sharp teeth are the cornerstone of anyone’s survival and success.

The problem isn’t coddling boys more it’s coddling girls less.

Because you might do it from a place of love but every small pain you spare them leaves them exposed to bigger pains later in life.

I know this first hand:
My parents loved me, and still do.
They did everything to shelter me from the hardships they had known themselves.
And then at 22 I moved abroad to study and work, and life hit me like a speeding train.

It took me years to get myself back up as a full adult.
I don’t even think I’m there yet 100%.

So it’s very important to let your kids fall down and get back up as early as possible, with your guidance and supervision sure, but not coddling.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Lack of proper parenting.
I raised both to be responsible adults. The both get love and consequences. No matter how they tried to manipulate who I love more… now that they are teens. They see that they can not get away with responsibilities.
other parents? I don’t know.
who do you know that has been treated poorly?

Xoirwinkan · Answer

It actually starts earlier. In schools boys don't tend to perform as well as girls because they are super energetic and the environment isn't designed for their benefit. Also, female teachers often come down hard on 'boys' play' and boys get punished for being boys.

FreyaRed · Answer

I think it depends on parents in much higher extent than on anything else.

sage2021 · Answer

I was the baby in the family and I had a sister who was 18 months older than me.
I got a lot of affection from my mom (I didn't have a Dad), but my sister hardly ever got any attention.🤷🏼‍♀️

jamesgoldman · Answer

Because that is the way since time immemorial and it worked until the men stopped being men luckily the young men have taken up with their grandfathers rather than their fathers

MrChinaski · Answer

53% of girls in US high schools feel persistently sad and hopeless compared with 28% of boys. And you want to raise boys more like the way that girls are raised?

Laulenke · Answer

When I was growing up I was closer to my mother then my father so I really never got the right of passage thing with my father

Shiprex · Answer

Because girls are regarded as more valuable. Boys expendable.

RepleteAura · Answer

I think men and women both have their respective sets of challenges in finding their way in life. Being someone meaningful in your own mind is hard regardless of sex.

Mountein · Answer

The world can be tough for men. There are so many responsibilities, the pressure to make money, the need to constantly work, and so many other things.

jahaims · Answer

It's not just children. Females are coddled in general compared to males.

Sal_Monella · Answer

It is believed, correctly. That was can fend for ourselves.

canamlusciouslad73 · Answer

Which is another reason America is headed for collapse, and sooner than you think.

msc545 · Answer

Most people really don't like boys very much, just like they don't like men very much.

Xdressertiff · Answer

I wasn't close to anyone growing up but my sister was the golden child.

RachyRach · Answer

That's what society expects I suppose

The_Wolf_2002 · Answer

Ohk maam noted

Why are boys so neglected compared to girls when they grow up?

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