If I got drunk or high on a bunch of drugs and had sex with a bunch of women was I raped or did I cheat on my wife and should feel ashamed?

[Just_Ken]

Raped

Cheated

Should feel ashamed

[molonski2]

Love your point , so many double standards
.

Quite seriously many men are raped ( fact )
But unless it's actual rape ( held down /. gun / knife / group ) , we accept it as part of life and no big deal.


Having " buyer remorce " does not make the action rape.

[Just_Ken]

Yes the police will try to hold you accountable if you drink and drive so why aren't women accountable for getting drunk and deciding to have sex?

[Anonymous]

If you were so drunk or high that you genuinely couldn't understand what was happening or couldn't consent, and someone had sex with you anyway, then you may have been sexually assaulted. Being intoxicated doesn't give someone permission to have sex with you.

But if you were intoxicated and still knowingly chose to have consensual sex with those women, then yes, from a relationship standpoint, you cheated on your wife. Being drunk or high doesn't automatically erase responsibility for choices you knowingly made.

I also wouldn't tell you to sit there drowning in shame. If you cheated, be honest with yourself about it, take responsibility, and think seriously about what led you there. If you genuinely don't remember what happened or believe you couldn't consent, that's different, and I'd take that possibility seriously rather than automatically blaming yourself.

[sage2021]

You cheated and you better feel ashamed! That's just sucks and shows absolutely no respect for your wife. Period.

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂🧡

[OneViewpoint]

This is why rape can be a rat's nest in the courts. Who poured the booze or brought the drugs. Was it consensual ( drugs and sex)? According to who? Just how dumb were he and she? What is consent when you're jacked up on coke with 3 drinks in you? Good luck unravelling the truth with two idiots trying to cover their own ass.

Nope nope nope, never going near that. Don't want any. Nuh uh. No thank you.

[capriVib]

😂 I think you should be wondering how you even managed to have sex with a bunch of women while that wasted.

[Just_Ken]

Im healthy

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Ethically speaking, I would try to understand if you were capable of consenting at that moment. I'd also want to know if you feel violated.

If I could have access to that, I'd also want to know how capable of consenting other parties were, at this point, it's starting to look like court I guess

[Shiprex]

You cheated and that is worse. You should not be ashamed because alcohol and drugs do that to people and take away their agency.

[Phunk_Fenomenon]

since you are a man I'm pretty sure they are going to counted as "cheating" but if you were a woman they would obviously call it "Rape."

[Agape93]

Raped, you were too intoxicated to give consent. Especially if they kept making you drink and do drugs.

[DryGermanGuy]

It's usually robbed, no? At least that's the type of "Mickey Finn" in Hamburg.

[Drumlin2001]

Take away the drink and drugs, would you have slept with them?

[loveslongnails]

We know what you think you're trying to compare, but your idiotic strawman isn't working.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Leftists sadly have no real standards 🤷‍♂️

It's a crazy double standard.

[Dargil]

You can't rape the willing.

[AgentG111]

What?