I cheated on my several partners many times and never got caught even once. Should I feel guilty?

[diamond]

Or is that something that doesn't matter unless you get caught, like lying?

[Finchie40]

Yes you should feel guilty knowing that you are lying to your partner’s face by you cheating on them , How do you honestly look your partner in the face and tell them you love them if you are spreading Your legs to someone else behind their back? How would you feel if your partner was doing that to you? You are probably best to stay single if you can’t commit to just one person , Cheating is a selfish act making you a selfish person and a liar , One thing I learned in life is it is best to be honest with someone or you are just living a lie. , Not only are you selfish and a liar , you are also putting your partner at high risk of contracting an STD which is so fucked up in every aspect. So again , you are best to stay single and not fuck with people’s hearts , you will eventually get busted , Karma is a real thing. If you want to experience true love you are going to have to learn how to remove your inner selfishness , if you can’t do that for someone that is committed to you then you are just wasting your time and your partner’s time by being selfish

[exitseven]

yeah,
what Finchie says goes for me , too.

[Anonymous]

Cheating on your partners is a serious breach of trust and a violation of the commitment you made to them. Even if you have not been caught, it is important to acknowledge that your behavior is harmful and unethical. Feeling guilty can be a natural response to recognizing the impact of your actions on others.

It's important to understand that trust is a foundational aspect of any healthy relationship, and cheating can cause lasting damage to the trust and intimacy between partners. Continuing to engage in this behavior can lead to a cycle of guilt, shame, and secrecy that can negatively impact your mental health and well-being.

It's important to consider seeking help from a therapist or counselor to explore the underlying reasons for your behavior and to develop healthier ways of relating to others. Building self-awareness and taking responsibility for your actions can be an important step towards making amends and rebuilding trust in future relationships.

[ShellyB]

Well lying does matter even if you are not caught. Getting away w something does not mean it never happened. To answer the question if these are past relationships that are over, while it still may matter in a way, it probably does not matter enough to inform people of it unless you think it will come up in a worse way if you do not. For a relationship that you care about, cheating is not a healthy behavior.

I have flirted w other guys while in a relationship, but with no intention of doing anything beyond that, and there were reasons that justified it in my mind like I was being polite, although I should not have done that and I do feel guilty about it. I have never actually cheated on anybody beyond that tho.

[777GgG]

It's wrong and the fact that you have ask tells you know it is.

Stealing is wrong even if you don't get caught. Murder is wrong even if you don't get caught.

So yes lying is wrong even you don't get caught and so is cheating.

Should you feel guilty for lying and betraying your partners trust? Yes! If someone cheated on and lied to you wouldn't you hope they felt guilty? Or ashamed.

If committing to a single partner isn't something you're capable of doing that don't make that commitment. Consider an open relationship or poly relationship. Then there's less ro for guilt if you sleep with someone else. But beware it is still possible to "cheat" in these types of relationships too.

[razelove]

It sounds like you just enjoy cheating. That isn't something to feel guilty about, rather you should work with that and get with someone who enjoys humiliation and has a cuckoldry fetish or something.

While that isn't going to be most people's cup of tea, you are a woman, so finding men who will put up with it will be easier than say, if you're a man who wants women to be polygamous (at least that took TONS of searching for me)

[FifiJones]

As long as it isn't bigamy (sex to orgasm with more than one person without telling the first person and leaving them), it isjust stupid.
Bigamy is a crime, and a neighbour or someone who hears it will report you.
You might not get prosecuted, but, say, your car brakes or your car's autonomous driving will fail and... you're gone (it is 7 years of prison for each bigamy ocurrence)

[coachTanthony]

No don't be silly. Just be you. Be authentic. If you're a terrible person then own it.

[SteveSmith1985]

You should feel guilty. But you're a terrible person. That is the only reason you don't feel guilty. I hope terrible things happen to you. 🙂

[Apple1996]

Why not just have a open relationship? Cheating over and over seems pointless

[AviatorTom]

That you ask this question implies that you believe that you should feel guilty, but don't.

[cryscrys1]

You are guilty lol guilty is a joke it’s just a feeling a secretion hormone. It will pass way within days. You don’t feel remorse or bad about it. That means your cheating wasn’t a cheating rather a good choice you never loved any of your partners. You don’t have empathy.. and empathy is not hormonal.. you have to re ask your question:


- why I don’t have any empathy in relationships or with my partners do I need consulting or therapy?
Or
- How can I tell if I am a narcissist?


You can ask this gag is open 24/7

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@diamond - seriously? Do you NOT have any morals and ethics. But then I guess since you mention lying you steal too. Unethical / moral-less people have no shame after all.

What you should do is become a nun and leave the dating world alone. You are not mature or responsible enough to be in a relationship.

Furthermore you lack the morals, ethics, and concious to be a good person - if you were attacking people you'd be called a sociopath - and do not care of the potential harm.

[Orion76]

Since you are asking us for opinions then maybe there is hope for you maybe in the future in a new place and a new person that’s isn’t currently involved in this circus then you may have a faithful relationship.


Yes you should feel guilty unless you are a perfectly healthy sociopath because that’s what they do and you are doing very well but I still doubt you are.


I have a question that I hope you answer, considering all the deceit and the effort it takes to cheat, all the cover ups and close calls multiplied in your case my question is was it worth it? And what is it that you’re after? nobody does all this for nothing and apparently none of partners has it.

[Apulu_Imback]

Weird how people confidently say that they cheated on their partner and ask people if they should be guilty instead of saying the same thing with the same confidence to their partner. You feel the fear of saying this to your partner, right? The shameful feeling hits the tip of your tounge while opening your mouth to confess your dirty acts to your partner, right? When you feel like this, you shouldn't feel guilty, you ARE guilty according to the moral laws of life.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Sometimes, you just don't feel guilty for doing shitty things. You justify it in your mind somehow. Like how I stole from customers when I used to work in a certain industry. I wasn't caught for 6 months because we had so many rotating managers that they never caught on to the pattern. I don't feel guilty about it, I needed the money, but obviously what I did was wrong both ethically and legally and I'm grateful I was eventually caught and made to stop, otherwise I'm not sure I would have.

[Reem12345reem]

why is everyone judging her as if they've never done anything bad to someone their whole life , if it's a repetitive pattern then u should figure out why ur cheating , is it bc there's an emotional need? ur not sexually satisfied? do u want to feel in control?

[MrWolf]

If it's something that gives you the thrill and the spark who we are to judge. of course is bad to cheat and lie. But who we are to judge if we don't know what kind of person you are or your life story. So what gives you happiness is your own choice. But at least try not to hurt people. An untold lie is not a lie in the end.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

You can grow and change it’s useless feeling guilty about the past it’s behind you for a reason, learn from it! Sometimes we make mistakes because we can grow from them and become way better partners. Maybe you’re a compulsive liar maybe you just aren’t great at committing, too much temptation? But honestly who is anyone on here to tell you to feel guilty or not, you are in charge of how you feel you decide

[lightbulb27]

Trolling?

If you have a conscience, then yes... especially if you were violating the expectations/terms of the agreements.

If you feel nothing... a sociopath, emotionally blocked, or an alien from pluto, then you are "normal" according to you. That normal doesn't mean you are good, but you have things to work on.

If you feel good about it, then that's something else, vindictive. More work...

[Fireguy17]

yes, how would you feel if you found out that someone was cheating on you?
And they may have known but not said anything, or suspected something was going on, or the may have also been cheating on you and you never knew.
People may not be as dumb or clueless as you think they are, but your actions violated their trust in you, and that is not something to be proud of.

[Drdeeznuts1132]

You should feel guilty. You manipulated those people. You lack empathy. You're probably a very amazing lady underneath all of that insecurity.

Gotta go back to the drawing board and figure out why you have these habits. A therapist might help in this instance

[Mangospacho]

That’s you right there.

[Surely]

It is one thing to just be dating several men at once. But it is another to make it look like a committed relationship and still seek other guys.
If that is the type of person that you are.
Good luck on finding a guy to have a long term relationship with!

[ThomasDavid1989]

You shouldn't feel threatened by the law, since it's not illegal what you're doing. However, if you were to run for president, and pay off one of those girls to keep silent about your affair, then yes, you should feel bad about it. You broke a campaign finance law

[FreyaRed]

Don't underestimate their situational awareness, men don't start a discussion if from their reference point it seems to be pointless. They just backstab you without any remorse when you're most vulnerable.