Do high school couples usually break up in college?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I are both seniors this year. We started dating in early June, so its been almost 8 months I would say. We're doing the whole college process now and its making me think about what's gonna happen to us when we go to separate colleges. On New Years he said "I'm gonna miss you so much when we go to college", and I started crying, haha, so I'm freaking out a little about this. Basically, I'm just wondering how common it is for high school couples to go to college and actually stay together, and for neither person to cheat. What worries me the most is that he's gonna go to wherever he goes and meet some really cool, attractive girl and decide he'd rather be with her than with someone who he never sees, me. And maybe the same thing will happen with me meeting a guy. I hate talking about this with him because I just get upset so I thought I'd ask on here. Thanks for any answers you give!

[ggazelles]

The vast majority of high school couples don't make it through the first year of college. Not trying to discourage you, but that's just how it is. I dumped my boyfriend of 2.5 years my freshman fall and I am so much better for it. You need time by yourself to learn and grow as a person. If you come back together, that's great, but you're going to need your own space, and time, and friends in order to really enjoy the college experience. If you go to college within driving distance of each other, try not to spend every weekend together. If you do this, you will miss out on the valuable first semester when social cliques form and best friends are made. Since chances are that you won't be with this guy forever anyway, don't waste the best of four years of your life masterminding ways to hang onto the relationship.

My best advice is to be on the same page when you leave for college, don't have unreasonable expectations for how often you should see/talk to each other, and be able to recognize when the relationship has run its course and it's time for something new. Good luck!

[redheadbabygirl]

It seems to be a sad but very common trend. When you go off to college, you meet new people, and gain new perspectives. Besides, the person you're becoming in the transition from child to adult is evolving, so chances are, when you do come back, you will have "evolved" to such a great extent due to the college experience and good ol' time that you won't even be compatible with that person any more.

I wouldn't assume that the "LDR" label automatically means he's lost interest though. Just make sure that you keep in contact with him (however, be careful not to step over the line from caring to clingy!) If he continues to demonstrate a lack of interest, it may be time for you to accept reality and move on yourself. Be honest with him about the status of your relationship. If it's really a problem, no point in waiting around for something that isn't going to work out while he's out having fun. Just plain common sense..

I hope it gets better! =(

[confused1081]

He seems to care for you. Think of this as the ultimate test. Iknow it's scary and I know you're afraid...but if you guys make it through this, then you know your relationship can handle anything. Distance is the ultimate obstacle and you just gotta believe in your guy. Plan occasional trips to visit each other and what not and always remember "Distance makes the heart grow fonder". Your guy sounds like a good one, just trust him and how much he cares for you and I'm sure you guys will be fine =).

And don't let statistics rule your life.

[Chellbell9]

I have the same question. I'm entering college next year and I'm fearful that my highschool sweetheart won't last through college. I've heard from a ton of people that its hard at first but once you've got your schedules figured out then it should be a breeze.

[Tm89williams]

Personally, I don't think they work to often. My girlfriend and I were together for three years. She got a job about the same time I moved away to go to college. The first semester was fine, but over Christmas break we broke up. She said she wasn't sure if I was truly who she wanted to be with for the rest of her life. Also, she said she wanted to go out and live life before settling down with anyone. Truthfully, I can not blame her...No, I myself did not want to go out and party but if that is what she wants then I can not stop her. I would rather her be happy single than miserable with me.

But, do not let that stop you...I also have a friend who is engaged to his high school sweetheart. They are very happy with each other and I hope it works out for them. This could also be the case for you, every relationship is different and each one will have it's own outcome no one can truly predict.

[metaldave20]

usually, my moms friends daughter and her boyfriend broke up when he went to college

my best friend broke up with his girl just a few months before going to college

college changes everything, trust me

[kigirl33]

Hate to be the bearer of bad news but if you go to different schools the odds are not good. I went to away to school with a boyfriend of 2 years and by chistmas of my freshmen year we were broken up. For me it was just too much never seeing him, so many other cute boys and way Differnt lives it was too much for me. it can be done but it just didn't work for us. Good luck!

[jesslmoreira]

im in the exactttt! same situation I'm but going out with my boyfriend for 9 months and I'm freakin out just let me no wen you get an answer because I'm strongly considering breakin up with him now, just to save the risk of being hurt when things get too serious

[purplepickles]

Try not to worry about it TOO MUCH. A lot of the highschool couples I knew TRIED to make it through college but most of them broke up. If you want to continue your relationship, there has to be commitment..and try to see each other at least once two weeks (thats what my friends do).