If you follow a girl, girl will run away from you. If you run after money and success girls will follow you?

[shumailkazimi]

this is my ideology ...guys are your ideology almost like this or something different please share !

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[Levin]

Yes I'd say that's probably true. With some caveats. Most men make the mistake of pedestalling women; if they'd just avoid that, treat women as equals, and avoid getting too emotionally invested early on, they'd fare much better. Secondly, you should be an interesting, rounded and independent person, developing your interests whether they may lie; this in turn makes you less reliant or needy for her emotional validation, which is more attractive.

The point is, this is a more healthy way to interact with people generally, so you don't need to appeal to dubious values to achieve it. I'm not interested in amassing 'social status and money', as if there could be anything more transient and meaningless, and nor am I interested in attracting women who go for that kind of thing. I'd rather focus on the rarer women with a better outlook and values.

[mrallen]

If you focus on completing yourself into a mature, responsible adult, you'll most likely meet someone along the way that likes you for you and isn't scared away because you want to rush into a relationship and are stable. It's not about being rich so much as it is about living comfortably without struggling. Even if you don't find a girl in the first few years while you get settled focusing on yourself, you will then be better prepared to enter the dating scene without having to worry a girl about your future ability to support her, if that's what she's looking for. Again, it's not necessarily about providing luxuries, but closer to providing the basics without cause for worry. This hasn't been my personal ideology, but I think it's one that will work very positively.

[Anonymous]

i don't think the two correlate sorry...if girl runs from you there can be man reasons she can have a boyfriend, she may not be interested you may be stalking her creeping her out, she has other goals in life and doesn't want a relationship...and most girls these days don't want to be labeled a gold digger its been outdated women get jobs and find their own success now

as for the secnd statement...that applies to everyone both men and women, when you work hard and find success in life, your happy and that's attractive, if you sit at home and doing nothing that's unattractive...it has nothing to do with getting women

[shumailkazimi]

it was said that love is blind but its not the case now ...money and success are considered tooo I mean none of us can fill our stomach by feeding on love we need money and this is where my statement goes right that we shld run after success and shld not waste our tyme running after girls

[Skyler123]

Actually its true...to an extent. Just as a lot of women are only pursued for their looks and nothing else. Wealthy men are pursued for their money and nothing else. A wealthy man posted a question on here just yesterday wondering why he can't find a woman that will love him. He said that all the women see is his money.

So if you just want a women who simply is in love with your money and not you, then yes this opinion is very much true.

[honeyltsme]

curiously a lot of the rich people don't realize that there isn't a whole lot to them other than their money - meaning if you took all their money away what's left would be a rather uninteresting and mediocre a human being. In this case it's no surprise people love them just for their money - they should count their blessings!

[Skyler123]

Well hey I'm willing to give any guy a try if I find them attractive and sweet. EVERYONE is considered boring to somebody. That's how I see it.

[shumailkazimi]

thnks 4 the agreement

[electromagnetic]

If you follow a girl, girl will run away from you. If you run after money and success, gold digging leeches will follow you. Not girls.

I honestly think this is true but it's not always the case. Some females actually stick around for better or worst. You just have to know how to pick the good from the bad.

[shumailkazimi]

let the gold digging leeches follow we'll handle them

[MrOracle]

This works, but NOT for the reasons you think it does.

If you "follow" a girl in the wrong way, you'll come across as being desperate, and "desperate" is the least sexy and attractive quality you can have when persuing a girl. It is the opposite of the thing that most girls are looking for, whether they realize it or not: CONFIDENCE.

If you "run after money and success", chances are you will develop a skill or talent, which will enhance your self-confidence, and if you are successful and make money, that will further enhance your confidence. While *some* girls respond to money or social status, ALL girls respond to CONFIDENCE.

Now, the trick is that you can learn to have confidence without waiting 10-15 years to become wealthy and successful. It takes some dedicated work, but you'll be way ahead of the game if you do.

[Jpalms56]

"Live a little, cause niggas die a lot"

^

My Motto

Chasing women never works. Simple as that. Working hard will bring you success and only gold diggers will follow you. Girls are random. That's why this is my motto. Stop worrying and just live. Work hard and have fun. Simple as hell right?

[GymStatus]

Some hate to admit to this but it is somewhat true and it sucks... It is the same for guy who only go for women who have money, fame ,or looks also... Yes societies are shallow...

[shumailkazimi]

thnxs 4 your agreement

[adamretex81]

well, to an extent yes.. you have to woo them, but if you're not really chasing them, then you don't come across as needy and clingy or over eager. And if you work hard and are successful then it shows you have high standards and women are attracted to guys who are ambitious. So in a vague way, your ideology is correct.

[Hades]

Nailed it! The vast majority of women prefer men who earn plenty of money and are of high social status.

[shumailkazimi]

gr888

[Anonymous]

I think it goes to say, for both parties, that we all want what we can't have. And it makes sense since humans like challenges, but sometimes we just don't realize that certain challenges can never be won. But both girls and guys like to deal with people who play hard to get at some extent. But, yeah, power/money is generally seen as attractive.

[scar1]

its generally true girls love making everything a challange and of course the love money and success (although obviously you will attract more gold diggger

[Anonymous]

If you want the kind of girls you can buy, that's a good plan. Guys who only want looks can eventually find someone who will sell them.

If you're looking for love, it's a bit more complicated.

[Love_is_in_the_air]

not really. people at McDonald's have girlfriends too

[Skyler123]

LMAO

[RayR781]

If you answer something with a question, then the question will be the answer. That is how much your question made sense to me T.T

[shumailkazimi]

i feel like there shld be an alternative to share your views along with this question and answer ...right now no other alternative hence shared it here any how :-)

[RayR781]

T.T why you confuse me

[shumailkazimi]

sorry 4 the confusion

[elliesaur]

This sounds like something Marilyn Monroe would say.

[NayaAbouzaid]

I ran from a guy who had looks , money and an amazing personality just because I felt like I didn't deserve him.

worst mistake ever .

So it really has to do with the girl your dealing with .

[yopyopyop]

First part, can be true.

Second part, I beg to differ.

[katylaura]

i follow my dreams, and hope that the right girl will appear along the way.

[spike1point5]

Totally freaking different.

Want -> Take -> Have

basta

[lindsey1227]

Bull-sh*t! The money and success thing? 100% true. But if you follow a girl the right way, you'll keep her forever. You just have to be romantic, not the I'm-leaving-cameras-by-your-toilet-seat -if-thats-okay-with-you kind of follow.

[Anonymous]

there's more to it than that. dating is not so black and white

[Maddygirl]

If you try to make an ideology about girls, it'll fail, because theyre so f$*%#ing complicated no blanket statement will apply to them all! On the the other hand, if you want to make a guy happy, pay attention to his penis

[shumailkazimi]

girls need money and I'm telling you this cause of my own experience and I have seen it in my college in my area in the nooks and the corners of the city everywhere money and then its more important to follow your dream and success rather than following a girl its a tyme waste dnt you think ...yes there are exceptions but that is rare

[Maddygirl]

Thats not true... All my life I have planned to become a doctor and support myself, whoever I marry or be with doesn't need to rich at all as long as they have a job because if they didn't they would be lazy and that's a turnoff. But to me, money doesn't matter. I've been in relationships with people and I always split the bill and I never expect or ask for gifts and lack of money didn't bother me at all!

[shumailkazimi]

@maddygirl *Rare*

[Maddygirl]

True!

[gtex1991]

thats my mentality.. some aren't even worth looking

[Supra9700]

True. Just so damn true.

[think_of_the_bubble]

I totally agree

[shumailkazimi]

gr888

[Anonymous]

Yous a genius!

[shumailkazimi]

thank u

[Opinion Owner]

you will have girls following you all over... for your paycheck..

[shumailkazimi]

i think so we all know how to differentiate between the paycheck one and the one who has came with true love

[Xx_DRE_xX]

This is true.

[shumailkazimi]

thnxs 4 the agreement

[Yeahhbro]

that isn't necessarily true...

[SlickRicky]

CONFIDENCE = SUCCESS + MONEY + GIRLS

[Anonymous]

Generally true...

[Karass]

Bitches be crazy

[MrLoolz]

Sure I agree what you said ,

[Anonymous]

what?!?ok

[KinkItUp]

this is horrible...

[shumailkazimi]

thank u