How do I become unsheltered in life?

[Anonymous]

Growing up my parents were always overprotective and strict when it came to my siblings and I, which meant no parties or girlfriends or even staying at a friends place and now that I'm 2000 km away in university, I'm finding it hard to do anything spontaneous or adventurous and finding it difficult to find my identity and therefore I'm not as confident in myself.

[Anonymous]

You should take it in small steps. Make it a project. Do something new and different every week. Then twice a week, and so on. Don't leave it to the last minute either. Plan for them.

Make a list of 50 things you think you should do, that an unsheltered person would do. Rank them in some order of difficulty. Have at least 10 things on there that you *wouldn't* be able to do right now. Put them towards the end of the list and build up to them,

[upsyndrome]

Just do things. Don't overthink it. It's way easier than you think. When you're having doubts, pull it out... no I'm joking; when you're having doubts just say f*** it and do it.