How to become unjaded?

[DanoMR98]

I've always had a really fragile ego and really sheepish disposition. I have only faced rejection from the girls my age, and I am really unhappy in a way with how this makes me feel. I think it's really easy to dream up some caricature of a loser, but the reality is that for most of the young men in my boat, the real shit is being unwanted and undesirable. It's like a punch in the gut. Admittedly, it's not easy to ignore either. I honestly get upset when I see couples in public, or other 19 year olds in relationships on TV/in movies/etc. In a way my attitude has just become hateful, passive and completely defeatist.

To all the 20+ guys, how did you get over your jadedness as someone my age [given that those were your feelings at the time]?

[That-Guy]

First, let me sympathize with you as in my opinion, 18-20 year old guys have it the hardest in life in terms of what men go through and here's why:

Firstly.. you are now out of high school and shedding whatever your uncomfortable high school blemish that has left you and what time is it? It's time to find some women.

However... women often are more mature then men (2-4 years ahead) so.. the women that would be attracted to you are 19-3= 17... meaning illegal. Well... the girls your age now are adults and are being preyed on by older guys 21+...

So.. at 19 years old.. you are in limbo land.

"In a way my attitude has just become hateful, passive and completely defeatist. "

In a way, kudos to you for this self-analysis. Many guys blame society or other exteriors excuses that factor in their lack of getting laid ability.

Advice:I want to type out a huge paragraph as i feel for ya however... my best advice (without going into the micro details) for any young guy who wants to be more comfortable and being successful with women is to first get as many female friends as possible.
- The more platonic friends you have, they more you will comfortable speaking to them and relating to them.

Rejection hurts.. it totally does however... it depends on how you bounce back (this is true in all life).

" I never lose, i either win or learn." - Love this quote because you have to think "why did that suck?" If you had a platonic female friend.. they will give you the hand book on what went wrong, and you keep chippin away.

[TheLove]

Oh, I love hard questions like this without easy answers. Here is my take:
Life is hard unfair and unforgiving, the only way you will make it in this life is to be secure with yourself, this is not an easy thing to do either, but my self help advice here is to love yourself first, don't seek a relationship, seek yourself. Through understanding your wants and needs you can better gauge how another like you would respond in a similar way, also don't ever best yourself up. You will find someone, and Even if you dont immediately find someone, you will know how and where to look the moment you are comfortable with your self.

[DanoMR98]

I see what you're saying here. I spend all my time now in the ways I want to. I really haven't put effort into seeking or anything like that in months. It's not that I'm burning energy for something ultimately futile. I'm not regretting that I'm not trying harder, I guess my problem is that I cannot help but become upset when there are couples nearby, or when I hear women in a line or in the restaurant booth behind me talk about men, and the tv example I gave earlier and so on. I think it would be a lot easier if I didn't have to physically look at it daily when I am trying to not think about it. (By the way I never get visibly upset, I don't make scenes in public or even make my thoughts apparent to others)

[Anonymous]

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[DanoMR98]

I believe that about some /pol/lacks and /fit/izens, but I'm a fucking failed normie. I used to be a cyborg, and on the path towards /r9k/ robotdom and wizardry. I'm not really in that boat anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

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