I have imaginary conversations in my head with my ex... weird or not?

[Anonymous]

I used to share everything that I did with my recent ex. Now, I don't really have anyone to share my life with: the funny things, the happy things, the sad things, etc. So I usually just have imaginary conversations in my head with him in which I imagine his response. Is this pathetic? If so, how can I stop this? It's been two months since we broke up. And no, I'm not going to jump in another relationship because there's no one I'm interested in doing so with.

[Arwens-Fire]

What you are doing is not pathetic..Usually people do not want to admit that they do such things, for fear of being called crazy.

I will say,that you holding onto the past and him in your psyche the way you are,is only preventing you from actually etting over him and moving on.Granted,you are still grieving him,hence you consciously or subconciously trying to keep him aound...but you must accept that he is gone.Just think...he isn't doing the same for you...he is probably further aong in his healing process because he is likely not stringing you along in his mind.

My advice if you have not done so already,erase all contact,remove everything that he has given you...start fom scratch.Get out...get physical...work excercise. Working out helps ight depression (which you may be heading that way If you don't reprogram your thinking). Secondly,find something you love to do...AND do it all of the time! As often as you can! Because doing what you love for yourself brings about a self happiness.Thirdly,try your best to meet other people...I AM NOT TALKING about DATING. I'm talking about other people to go dancing with,ride bikes with...things platonic friends do.Im not sure if you are the type of person who isolates yourself or who is an introvert.But I do know,that in a time like this,it is IMPORTANT to have friends that will help lift you up and encourage you,and support you.Im not saying you have to make friends with people over night,i am saying that having other positive energy (people) in your life,will help replace the lingering memory of your ex. So...excercise...find something you love to do...and get social. Isolating yourself will not help at a time like this.

My last bit of advise:Im experiencing a break up right now as well,but each and everyday I feel TONS better.Why? For starters,the first thing I did,was call my life coach.And he helped me put things into perspective.Secondly,i LOVE laughing...so I make sure I watch my fave shows/comedians.Thirdly,i have certain goals I am focusing on and I will complete them which will lift my self esteem even further.Next,I hang out with my good friends whenever I can.I understand they may be busy,but I try to still see them because they are positive caring people.(Im actually headed out for a night of fun as I type this :)...Lastly,i believe in talking to people.My therapist or life coach.Dont be embarrassed about finding a therapist either.I think you need someone to listen to you and give insight.Some of the strongest and most intellectual people have...Therapists.

It sounds like during your relationship there were some dependancy issues,and they are still lingering with you even now.But it is more than possible to deprogram your thinking and old habits,to create new ones.

Yes,your self esteem might be affected by the breakup,but you are stronger than you think!Youre on here asking for advice which is the first step:acknowledging

[Erica2u]

Im going through exactly the situation here. I wish this kind of imagination will go away soon. I feel weak and not like being a strong woman before. Like I won't crazy about going out that much now. but once I did so I would actually feel much better. So push yourself to do what you used to do and make yourself being busy. And I hope talking and hanging out with friends more will help you as well!

[Nicefuture]

You sound obsessed with your ex, I think you need to start distracting yourself from thinking of your ex, he is starting to take control of you, so make yourself busy, stop thinking of him, get busy with school/work/activities and such, Whenever you think of him start thinking about something else, just make yourself stop, by the time you will start thinking of him less and less.

[Anonymous]

doesn't sound very healthy :/