I don't want my fiance to have bachelor party with strippers, what to do?

[Anonymous]

We want marry next year , in February so it's still time.

But I started thinking about it already , and I don't know how to tell my fiance, how to convince him to not have bachelor party ?

It's only because I heard what happens while such nights :

are strippers , he will probably touch them, may get drunk( because they obviously will drink) and even sleep with one.

And wedding is supposed to be happy day - and this will ruin my day because would think what he did last night.

He can spend this night with his friends without strippers, ONLY boys nobody else .

Can I tell him such rule? Is this OK ?

[Anonymous]

Not really, no. "Tell him" implies you're trying to control him.

You can't do that. It's a horrible way to start a marriage, and a lousy thing to do in any relationship.

In my opinion, if you can't trust your fiance not to get drunk and f*** a stripper, then you shouldn't be getting married in the first place. Either he's too immature or you're too insecure. But there's something wrong somewhere.

All I could suggest is that you try to talk to him about your fears. Try really hard to avoid trying to lay down the law. Tell him that you're afraid of what will happen if there's girls or strippers at his bachelors party. And LISTEN to him. Don't just state your fears and ignore what he says.

And remember that it's never a good idea to have a bachelors party the night before the wedding. It should be a few weeks before.

[Frostie]

Wait a second, you're getting married to a guy, who has morals that you don't agree with. There is only a few things you can truly do here. Lol, but anyways good luck with that.

I wouldn't put myself in that situation. IF you don't trust him,and think he'd cheat on you, then why the hell are you getting married to such a person you see in that light?

sounds like a mistake waiting to happen.

[sixstring]

You can tell him you don't want him to or prefer him not to, but that it's his choice. You cannot forbid him from having strippers.

[Asker]

but I can not marry him

[sixstring]

Then the problem lies with you, not him.

[JustWantToTalk]

I don't know what he would do, but if the women I loved asked me to do this, I would do it. Key word, asked...

[kheserthorpe]

I'll mention that at least in my country there is a big difference between going to a strip club and 'hiring strippers'.

[InquisitiveMale]

I'm canadian also and I've got to disagree. It all depends on where you go and who you hire. Most strippers are nothing more then high class prostitutes. If you've got them money they will provide the service.

[kheserthorpe]

That was kind of my point. If you're booking a room and bringing in 'strippers', they are probably prostitutes.

Most large strip clubs you go, you don't touch, you get lap dances, you buy overpriced drinks, you leave.