My step dad is a control freak!

[Anonymous]

My step dad is a control freak! I'm 21 and he don't let me have my own life. Can't even go to clubs, stay out, sleep over at my friends house, which I have went to a club without him knowing. I'm 21 and sneaking out the house lol Its funny! I tell my mom and my mom has nothing to say besides he loves you that's why! I be on my cell texting and he be always on my business. He didn't know known of my boyfriends because he thinks if you dating you better end up marrying! WHAT!? If I got school at 8am and my class ends at 9am he will call me to see why I'm still not home its 9am! And when I say I'm studying at the library he starts saying I'm a liar! If I'm out he calls me everybody 20 minutes. He even tried hooking me up with a guy, which we ended up going on a date and I found out he was gay lol And it was worse when I was in high school. I'm tired of him controlling me! And every time I tell him to stop I'm not 5 years old he laughs and says doesn't make a difference you still a kid! AHHHHHHHH!

[lynsistara]

Your 21? Move out. Can't move out? You must respect your parents wishes as long as they are paying for the roof over your head. Is he paying for your cell phone? No? then tell him to f*** himself. If he is paying then it is technically his right. Your 21 so when you say school I can only assume you mean college? As far as dating to marry, that's your choice. Sadly your in the same boat I' am. I just turned 18 and still adjusting to the idea of not having to tell everything going on. You are 21! Demand the respect!

Next thing, he is your step dad, you don't have to listen to him!

[katiegal]

Oh my God!My dad makes things like this,but your dad crossed the line for sure.That's very weird.Im sure he loves you,but you are 21 already,dammit lol. :D

To be honest.. he will never realize you are not a kid anymore,even if ud be pregnant,or a mom,or a wife,he would be still protectiv. I don't wanna scare you,but that's just my opinion.

Well,id say,tell HIM that it bothers you,find a job,show him that you are an adult,and if you have a bf,just introduce the guy to ur dad,lol,he would be so suprised that he wouldn't tell a word I'm sure XD.

[Shlei3]

And you will always be a kid. My parent's parents tell them what to do even now. It's just how it goes. Because you live under their roof you need to respect their rules 21 or not. If you don't like it you will need to go out, get a job and save to move out. In the meantime, respect his rules and know that if you get in trouble you will be the one accountable.

[random255]

When your parents stop paying for your home, then you can stop critiquing their rules on curfews and parties. Truth be told, you don't need to be at a club if you can't afford to move out, you need to be working. At said club, if needed. Trust me, get some money together, and move out, you'll be happier for it.

If that's just not possible then stop whining about how mean your step dad is because he wants you in bed at midnight. It could be way worse, and as it stands you've a free place to stay. Get over it!

[Asker]

I have a job ok!! I pay rent half the time!! I pay for my BMW 328i, that's 450 a month! Iphone bills so don't tell me to get over it!! That's just the way he is! He thinks I'm responsible for everything, and when I tried moving they nearly got a divorce! So if you don't know nothing, don't bring comments like that before trying to clarify it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[random255]

Then perhaps instead of spending your money on an expensive car, you should be focusing on getting your own place.

Saying you're parents nearly got a divorce because you wanted to move out doesn't sound right to me, I'm sure there are other factors involved.

And I'm just giving you advice based on the information you've given. So it's not that I don't know 'anything', it's that I am limited by the information given. You put out a request for advice, and you got mine.

[Bubbles]

He need's a wake up call, 21 is far from being a kid. If you are his only daughter then I do somewhat see a reason, but he shouldn't be keeping you from the out side world. He really can't do that, you of age he has no say in your life. I think he is scared cause his daughter is going up, he don't want to lose you that's why he is keeping his eye's on you and wanting to know where you are if you aren't home on time ect..

[Anonymous]

I would try to move out ASAP. But if you can't do that right now, live your life and do what you want F what he says. I know he is your step dad, but you are also 21 and he is being totally unreasonable. He won't issue corporal punishment and beat you will he? If not then let him get mad. You're not doing anything wrong so he needs to chill. And honestly I think your mom should step in and not just let it go like that because he is seriously wrong.

[Anonymous]

Other than your step dad loving you he may be jealous and want a relationship with you. That's why he's so overprotective.