I hooked up with my boss, now what!?

[Anonymous]

I've been working for my boss for a few years now. After a few months of working for him, it was obvious there was sexual chemistry. Not to mention how his personality is to die for and literally more than half of the female staff adores him. Through out the years I would say him & I have become friends, we talk about very personal things; such as relationships, family, emotions over work/coworkers. It's gotten to the point where we'll text each other about what's on TV (random stuff) these past months however our text have gotten very sexual. We will text each other while he's in the office about how good his shirt looks or how it turned me on when he did etc. This pasts weeks out texting turned into what would we do to each other in bed & even planning on meeting up for sex. Well one night after work we randomly go to his place & we start ferociously making out. I soon find myself trying to give the best head of my life. Since this wasn't exactly planned that day lets just say I actually didn't feel comfortable with what I was wearing enough to have sex. I had showered the night before but I just didn't feel comfortable. (I'm a clean freak & I plan what I wear underneath even for casual sex, you understand) So I simply ended up giving him head & even though that same night we talked about what to do next time...he's been acting extremely strange at work! & I don't know if he's being shy? Or even upset with me? I don't know what I did wrong? We haven't even texted the way we use to. Is it me not txting because I'm waiting for him to text first? Vice versa? Do I even dare to dream of more? There is a large gap between our ages but were both single with no responsibilities. So? Should I let him know that I'm aware it's just lust? Sex? I'm just wondering what could be going through his head to act this weird now. We were both aware that due to corp rules we are forbidden to even text, yet we've gone this far. Now what? Help! It's sort of killing my brain here.

[DutchAtheist]

I'm going to propose a whole different scenario.

What if for some reason he thinks you feel awkward? Maybe when you left or the next time that you saw him something you did make him think you regret what happened. Maybe he texted you after but you didn't receive it?

In that case he is waiting for a sign from you, now that you are both obviously not going to be the one to text, it will only get more awkward. Both of you think, why doesn't he/she text? I must have screwed up...

So, the only thing you can really do is send a text. Simply say: "hey, just so you know, I don't regret what happened and I want to hook up some more."

Either he texts back nothing, which would mean he's an immature prick,

Or he texts "i want us to hook up more too",

Or he texts "I'm sorry, it shouldn't have happened, didn't know what to say".

Either way you'll know a hell of a lot more than you do now and you could get either into or past this.

[yopyopyop]

You grew sexual tension at work with a colleague. This can happen. But of course, that is a mistake, as it's not real attraction. It's like the friendships you develop at work, where you are forced to get along with people you have no affinity with.

My opinion is not that he used you. I think he just understood that now the sexual tension had been released, there were no feelings.

Of course, I'm not saying love can't be found at the workplace. But 9 times out of 10 or more, it is just sexual tension.

[Anonymous]

This is why girls shouldn't have sex outside of relationships.

Many guys get disinterested and disregaurd a girl as girlfriend material once she's put out. They feel that the conquest is over. It's rare that a girl puts out and gives herself sexually then the guy actually takes her seriously.

May I add that it's also a bit sleazy for you to be f***ing around with your boss. It kind of makes you look like a ho.

[StephanieL]

I totally do NOT agree with you! I'm shocked by your conservative answer and think it's very disrespectful to women who have problems with relationships or have sexual feelings for their boss. Some women might enjoy sex for what it is. Even outside a relationship, hell, even with a stranger. That's not your task to call them a ho for being satisfied and honest with their sexual needs. I even admit having sex with a boss at my weekend job as a waitress. I don't need to be called a ho for that.

[MeridiansAAngel]

It seems to me all he really wanted was the sex. Like the bosses you see on movies screwing all the workers.

-love Sosa

[Anonymous]

He probably doesn't want the other girls in the office to know you gave him a blow job, otherwise it might hurt his chances with them. It is unlikely you're the only woman there doing him sexual favors. If you go any further, make sure he wraps it up, as it sounds like he's a player.

[tswayd]

He may be afraid to further communication with you

[tswayd]

Wow thanks for the up whoever upped me.

[PricelessPearl]

Charm is deceitful and beauty is fading.