Ladies, If your boyfriend / Husband got fired from work , would you despise him?

Question

I always had the idea in my mind that if for any reason it happens that I loose my job , even if I do my best , then I will loose my worth.. and my near and dear will look down on me.

I am not talking here on someone who has no goals or no will for life.. I i am talking about someone who is trying his best .

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My husband lost his job a while back,  Making a descent salary .   I didn't want to leave him just for that ,  Things happen.  He took jobs here and there ,  Than a guy who was very successful who owned a dealership focusing on European  cars .  Asked him to be his lead mechanic ,  Which lead to him later being partners .  The money started rolling in big time,  My husband went to college and something totally different than being a mechanic.  But because he lost his job,  He took a mechanic job at walmart .  Everyone said with his talent he could do better than that ,  But his thing was taking care of his family .  Because he swallowed his pride ,  He learned a lot from working there .  With the extra training from his partner  ,  He became an excellent mechanic .  His last job that he lost ,  He made about 60.000 to 68,000  a year .  With him being a partner ,  And fixing mercedes on the side .  It took his salary to 80,000 to 95,000 a year,

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would never despise my boyfriend if he lost his job. Although I do believe my boyfriend has the same mentality as you. Honestly speaking, I prefer his peace of mind and happiness over his pay cheque. Particularly if it was stress related and it just became too much to deal with for him yet he was trying his best to stay a float etc. My boyfriend is 30 and I love him, he's not too happy with his career life these days, so been trying to explain to him that I'll support whatever decision he makes. When you are in a relationship, the goal is to become a united team ( that means looking out for each other happiness and supporting each other). The goal shouldn't be becoming wealthy or certain status. It should be loving each other, working to understand each other better, and achieving a level of financial security together. If you can't make it through the hard times together then perhaps you weren't meant for one another.

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't be upset. We all make mistakes, a lot of people get fired. If you were trying your best and got fired, well maybe that wasn't the job for you.

I think the biggest challenge when you get fired is to realize that you are not a bad person and you aren't worth nothing. Sometimes the working environment and your own working style just didn't match up. That happens, it's not something you can change.

Maybe it was good that you were fired. Maybe your next job will be the perfect fit!

My mom was fired once, but she eventually got a job with a better environment. She was unhappy at that place, and the people were really rude. They fired her because they didn't want to pay her so much, they wanted someone cheaper. And she was upset when she came home, and I told her it was probably the best thing that could have happened to her (because she was unhappy). And now she is much happier.

PhilaPenn · Accepted Answer

Interesting question. I was encouraged by the responses. There are some understanding ladies on here. I've known of people who's wives/GFs have left them over money issues. That's pretty cold. But at the same time, in the old school mindset, the man is not truly a man if he cannot provide for his family. It sets the table for an interesting conversation about gender roles, and mores specifically what we define as masculinity.

tadpole25 · Accepted Answer

i doubt if a woman was in a serious relationship with you, she would dump you or despise you for being laid off.  as long as you're searching hard for work, and not leaning on her too much for support.

sheeps · Answer

first off, being fired would be a huge blow to your man's ego so despising him won't do any good. second, if that isn't the time when he will need you, as his woman, by his side supporting him, then when is?

third, it shouldn't matter what other people think because its between you two; its your relationship. If your near and dear are not as supportive, maybe theyre not who you think they are..in which case, reevaluate

AbsolutelyUnsure · Answer

WHAT. Aw... Definitely not! I agree with others that I would be annoyed if he doesn't start looking for a new one. But yeah, during this time, we would should be extra supportive, seeing as our guy was the one fired and that's not a good feeling. Probably help him find a new job too, console his ego (if it at all needs consoling X]) and just be there for him. That's more important. What if it was the other way around? Would you look down on your girl because she lost her job? Hopefully not...

sarahbeara2010 · Answer

well, it would really depend on WHY he was fired. for example, if he was at his job busting his back every single day and giving 110% and lost his job due to workforce reduction or something like that...then, I would have no hard feelings at all. BUT if he was up there just lazing around and doing absolutely nothing at all and calling his boss every not-nice name in the book...then I wouldn't coddle him when he came dragging through the door moaning about how he had just gotten fired. I'm not saying that I would full-on DESPISE him, but...i definitely wouldn't be happy.

AnnieVincereVelMori · Answer

Depends on the reason upon which he was fired... Sexual harassment, stealing, well then, pack your bags. But for the general reasons someone gets fired (lack of productivity, downsizing, so on) that would be the time he would need my support most. Plus in my mind, I don't think I should rely solely on his work to support us. It would be time for me to take the lead while encouraging him to get back on his feet again.

htarmort14 · Answer

No, I would encourage him to start his own business or help him with another job. If need be, I would get a job or second to support my husband. We are in together for life, lol. I would hope the guy would be understand if he was me. Life is not perfect and in my area, people who are engineer or someone who makes $100,000 can get pink slip when people stop ordering aircrafts. So it happens, but I would be understanding and I hope for the same toleration from my husband/partner.

Anonymous · Answer

Well a lot of people say "do the best you can..." but often a person can do better if they try. So if a guy came with excuses as to why they were fired then I'd be disappointed. If the guy was the best worker ever then barely anything would result in them being fired (with the exception of sexual harrassment, stealing, etc).

I mean I wouldn't think they lost their worth, I'd just be disappointed. If they began making excuses and saying its not their fault and getting mad at the company (without me asking) then I'd think of them a bit less. People are fired all the time because there is someone who does the job better. So I don't think excuses are reasonable. Of course there are exceptions.

I wouldn't think theyd lose worth in my eyes. I'd be disappointed but if they didn't make excuses and wasn't lazy about getting another job then my thoughts of them would be restored.

Keep in mind this is how I'd view anyone, not just my boyfriend. I'd view myself this way.

why-makoto-kun · Answer

Despise is a strong word, but if he got fired for "misconduct or sexual harassment., stealing etc.." I would be angry and think he was getting lazy/expected me to pull both our weights. That is not okay.

As for the other stuff (work related issues.. performance, difference with boss , work stress.. etc) I would feel bad for him, but if he didn't get another job soon, I would wonder if he really didn't mind getting fired.

I'm nobody's sugar momma.

RedSmartie · Answer

That's absolutely insane.  I would only be mad if he didn't get right back up and at least try to find a new job.

Betwyn · Answer

I think it would depend on the reason. If he was downsized.. or made a critical error, probably not. But if he was canned for inappropriate conduct with female co-workers.. HELL. TO. PAY.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I'd feel really bad for him and would be pretty anxious as to how to make him feel better about it.

naima17 · Answer

If I'm married: I know that I ddnmarry him for money, obviously. Besides, I married him and would love him through thick or thin, rich or poor...etc

If boyfriend: Ill help him find other. Get those resumes printing and revised :)

Anonymous · Answer

What? Not unless he got fired for like, beating someone up or something.

eveline · Answer

Of course  not you don't find those  type of guys every day; I would Get a second or third job if I had to !

Anonymous · Answer

Never be placed in a position of being fired w/o having a new job in your pocket.

kheserthorpe · Answer

Most wouldn't.   However if he stays unemployed for a long time, they may start feeling differently about him. It wouldn't have a big short run impact on their emotional state.

lexctasy · Answer

Heck no! If you're really trying then of course not. Especially in this economy, it's so easy to lose jobs.

emzy-89 · Answer

I wouldn't think any less of him for losing his job...i would hwever, become annoyed if he makes no effort to get another job.

raineydaygurl · Answer

of course not. I'd be supportive. that would be the last thing he needed

mysticwoman21 · Answer

there's no reason to despise him! although at first I will get mad but a simple explanation is worthy..and I will understand him as he understand and love me!:)

madmisskelly · Answer

I would love him and support him regardless and help him pick himself up and find a new job.

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