Can a man live without a woman forever and still be happy?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 26 year old man from a third world country. I've never been in a relationship in my life. This is because I'm neither rich nor good looking. In my country, women will ONLY date or marry men who are either insanely rich or extremely good looking. Please don't think that I'm not rich because I'm lazy. That's not the case at all. I slog my @ss off at work for 12 to 13 hours a day, yet I earn only a modest salary which is only enough for my basic needs. That's the way it works in a third world country, and I don't have enough money to migrate somewhere else. And regarding looks...I can't help it if I'm born ugly. And also there is no way I can change my looks. Of course, plastic surgery is an option, but I'm not in a position to afford that.

So the way I see it, there is probably no way a woman will ever date or marry me. Now I have reached a point where I don't even think of women. They just don't exist to me. Its working fine now. But I just wanted to know, will I be able to live happily without a woman till the end of my life? Right now, I'm extensively using music and video games as a means to prevent my mind from thinking about women. As of now, that's working for me. But will I be able to continue like that till the end of my life?

P.S. Please don't say that all women don't only go for looks and money. I agree there are a few genuine women who don't think that way, but I'm pretty sure they would all be either in a relationship or married.

Updates

+1 y

And in this age where even 14 year old kids date, I certainly feel that at age 26, I'm way past my prime for dating.

[Vendrix]

1) You don't sound very happy right now or you wouldn't care/worry

2) Looks are very subjective, really its attitude and confidence. Yes I know people will disagree but I've seen some UGLY people who've got girls on their arms.

3) Avoidance through music and video games is not a solution. It just proves the same point as this question. Which is, YOU will not be happy unless at sometime you find a relationship.

so...

4) Spend less time at the computer or console, and get in the gym, or join a club or group. Meeting people in friendly constructive ways is the BEST way to meet someone. Forget looking in bars. You'll just be another desperate wallflower. Get out where the active HAPPY people are. If you involve yourself in making the world a better place or making yourself a healthier person you will find people who are also like that and TOGETHER you will build up your egos.

5) I know you said you live/are from a 3rd world country. This makes things more difficult sure, but there is still opportunity. If you spend your time constructively then you'll find that you end up accomplishing more things each day. This BOOSTS your confidence and helps keep you HAPPY!

6) It takes EFFORT. I feel for you, working long hours everyday. That sucks. I've been there, working for pennies. But the day gets longer and better when you INVOLVE yourself. Music is fine in moderation. Hell I love video games too, but they can suck your time away fast.

7) Get outside, get moving, find something you care about. If you think about HOW you can fix things, solutions to ALL your problems start appearing.

8) Stressing this takes EFFORT and TIME. Don't give up Anon! You and every person whose ever lived an honest life is worth it. Follow these steps and you'll find what you've been searching for. I know it!

[PS. 26 is NOT too old. I'm almost 24 and feel like I've barely experienced life, GET OUT THERE, there is always more to see!]

[Confucius16]

Yeah, that's called Buddhist monks and celibate priests, etc. I'm Buddhist, so if you decide to go religious, that might work. Otherwise, you might have a hard time being happy, unless you can learn to be content with what you have and be a happy person.

[born2bwild]

now days monks have more girlfriends than any ordinary guys.

[Confucius16]

What do you mean? There are monks that have girlfriends?

The monks in my tradition don't have girlfriends. Any monks that are in relationships are either fakers and not true to the tradition, or they are in a different tradition that allows it.

[stardust101]

Well, I wouldn't give up on finding a mate. Yeah, you're 26, but still considered very young. Most guys don't fully mature until later in life anyway, but sounds like you don't have this issue if you're working for butt off for hardly anything. You have huge self discipline and determination to become anything you want. I don't think man should have to be alone. After all God did create Eve for Adam since Adam was lonely, even though he had God. That being said, everyone deserves somebody, and you will find a woman who can support you in your endeavors and give you love. So, in answer of your question, I do believe a man is capable of being happy alone only if he is happy in himself (that's where it starts), but a woman should enhance your happiness.

[born2bwild]

yes that's true everyone deserves love and happiness. and it's not you (question asker)who should be after a girl, just wait for the right time, it is the girl who will be after u

[udolipixie]

Can a man live without a woman forever and still be happy?

Yes in my opinion as I don't see most guys describing living with a gal as happy often it's touted as misery, hell, ball and chain.

It seems to most guys living without a gal is an envied lifestyle it's living without busting a nut in or on a gal that is deemed unhappy.

But will I be able to continue like that till the end of my life?

Possibly not due to your sex drive as it seems sex is the sole/main intent of male's interaction with gals. Likely lowering your sex drive will help and having other outlets to boost your ego will diminish desire for intimacy with gals.

[Anonymous]

Strictly considering your question: yes a man can live without a woman forever and still be happy. Happiness should come from yourself, not another person. If you set your mind to it, you can be happy and by yourself.

That said, I also feel the need to point out that your place of origin drastically dictates your views on women. I'm not sure where you're from exactly, but here (in the states) the vast majority of women provide for themselves and don't consider a man's money a factor. I personally couldn't care less what a guy makes. Looks are important, too, yes, but they're not the only thing that matters.

[MorbidPrincess94]

I'm extremely touched by your question if I could I would give you a hug right now. I am one of those girls who don't go for looks. In a man I look only for a nice personality and fortunately I've been blessed with such a boyfriend. I'm sure you will find your better half one day or the other. For me, no hardworking person is poor. If the girls in your country can't see that, I feel bad for them as they are losing their chance to be with an awesome guy. And to answer your question, yes you can live without a woman but just don't close the door to your heart.

[DaniJ]

Just focus on saving up, and maybe you can move somewhere that life can be easier :) Lots of guys go without women, and they are perfectly happy, so don't focus too much on trying to get a girl, but remember it's never too late. Just focus on you right now, and work as hard as you can, and maybe things will get better and you can start dating.

[noisychicken]

Hate to be where you're at man I don't even want to think about marriage at my age and I'm just gonna turn 24 in a few days. I never had a steady girlfriend before and probably am gonna end up alone in the end, which I'm perfectly fine with. I'm very self-centered which I know isn't an attractive quality, but it is who I am, I don't think I can change that, so I just accept the fact that I am gonna be lonely and be content with that

[Confucius16]

I think if you know that you are self centered, then you can change it. Recognition is the first step to doing something about it. I think you will be fine.

[SwiftShadow]

lol wemen DO NOT care about a guy being ugly or rich, ha ha no really they do not.

What wemen care is the VALUE of a guy which is affected by a lot other things that aren't looks or money, for example CONFIDENCE.

[shenholds09]

women not wemen*

[Cottoncandydreams]

lol wemen sounds like an acccent ot loud.

[SwiftShadow]

i don't know. English inst my first language it is my second. In my first language you type words exactly how you hear them unlike in English.

So I type how I say them

A woman

and

there is a lot of wemen (since it goes to pronounce with an e then, I write it like that)

i know it is spelled like that the same way all forms of "read" are written the same way

[Confucius16]

What country are you from, QA?

[Asker]

@Confucius16 I feel ashamed to reveal my country. Its one of the most backward, underdeveloped and highly corrupt countries in the world. :(

[SwiftShadow]

Estonia

[Cappyricious]

I recently started seeing a guy who would probably not be considered highly attractive, nor does he have a lot of money BUT he is indeed the nicest man I've ever had the pleasure of sharing one's company with and certainly a gentleman. I find the better looking men are shallow and have only one thing in mind.

Throw your insecurities aside and go ask a woman out for Christ's sake! All she can do is say "no", then just move on to the next if need be! They're not just going to come to you if you sit around all day wallowing in personal despair which is most likely unwarranted!

And, if you in-fact you are trolling, which it does sound like it, you know what you can go do ;)

[Vandal]

Nah, the worst that can happen is that she falsely accuses you of sexual harassment/rape and you get murdered by white knights like this poor guy - link

[Anonymous]

Are you trolling? Not many people from a third world country would have as good of grammar as you do, and hardly any would have access to the Internet.

[ketfoen]

don't agree with the internet stuff, but I agree with the grammar. That's first world stuff right there

[Opinion Owner]

Do many third world countries have some Internet access? I guess he doesn't have to have his own...he could have stopped at some Internet cafe type thing. But even that I thought would be scarce. My picture of a third world country is where they have to walk far just for water. Maybe I'm ignorant about it...guess I don't pay as much attention as I should.

[Asker]

I agree my grammar is good. And I know its rare in a third world country. But I'm not trolling. I used to read a lot of international novels, which helped me to have a good command over the English language, both in terms or grammar and vocabulary. And I'm a software engineer with pretty solid skills, yet I'm working as a pizza delivery guy because in this stupid country I was unable to get a job in software.

[MorbidPrincess94]

You're a software engineer? wow I'm impressed.

[Confucius16]

Yeah, good grammar is hard to come by, even in first world countries. Sometimes poor people are willing to work hard, because they don't get bogged down by chasing material wealth and all that stuff.

[KaterinaAmila]

Your still young and have time for all of that. Here people still date and get married in their 60s. BTW its sadistically proven that the average person sees themselves 10 times worse than everyone else does. You don't look as bad as you think you do. Two I don't think that video games will keep you happy forever but no you don't need someone to be happy.

[Anonymous]

I am only 20 but I feel like I might be single for life... I broke up with my ex because I felt crowded by him, If I didn't text him he would flip out I am a very independant person, I like to do what I want when I want... for now I am single and sort of happy, basicaly I just really miss the cuddling... I ache for my ex almost every night... but the feeling passes..

[born2bwild]

your story is totally different from the question asker. you have already been through the relationship and you are just taking a break now. You are soon going to find a new partner and soon going ot break up with him again. and again after a break up you gonna get someone else. but a guy isn't that lucky as girls are very choosy about it. they judge a guy by his look, money, personality, nature etc etc. every guy is not lucky enough to have all those qualities at a time.

[stardust101]

You can develop those qualities. Do people make you, or are you self made?

[Anonymous]

Honestly? You don't have to worry about it so much. I consider myself attractive and to my / and others surprise, I've always had a thing for unattractive people. All my aprtners have had an amazing prsonality, but they've all been rather unattractive. Maybe I have the strange talent of seein someone's inner beauty. Also, I've fallen for guys who are far from being rich. Hope shouldn't be lost.

[iamjustme]

If you think you sound good, then you don't at all. To me you seem a girl with pride and arrogance who unfortunately thinks she is too good a girl. Huh.

[born2bwild]

to the question asker: wow finally you got your match. your soul mate and a partner made in heaven. don't miss this oppurtunity because life gives you only one chance. grab it.

[PrideGuy]

Yes you can, if you are strong enough and have the will power to survive alone. im 21 years old too never had a relation, and not willing to. i want to try this journey and just live whit myself. Another tip for you buddy stop thinking about women, dont be needy guy, dont seek women but your goals and your own happiness and control your sex drive and thats the hardest point ( no fapping no sex) go to gym use that energy in other activities be busy man!

[jpinka]

in many other countries you could find a woman I'm sure, its mainly the social values women in your country are taught, that is the problem. you can survive alone but I do not think you would be very happy when your an old man

[DMARK]

Which country do you live in? If its not too personal. Since I have the same opinion on guys in my country. Maybe we should get them all together since theyre all rich and perfect.

[Asker]

I'm ashamed to even mention the name of my country. Lets just say its one of the most backward, underdeveloped and highly corrupt countries.

[DMARK]

Send me a friend request if you want to talk about it

[Asker]

Yeah I have added you. My username on the site is 'funkyzoom'. Hope you'll accept it.

[born2bwild]

man you already took off. gud luck

[Lotus8]

Well there are plenty of ugly poor women in the world! Good news for you if you want to marry one of them. Believe me, there is someone for everyone. Don't despair!

[Lotus8]

lol seriously? The ugly leftover women? Wow that's harsh, cause it seems like that's actually the position this guy is in... And he doesn't have money so why is there this double standard here? he can be poor and ugly but refuses to date women of the same caliber?

[Janethdoe]

You aren't past your prime 26 is fairly young. I live in America and they're are guys here that are handsome but have nothing going for themselves and that is NOT ATTRACTIVE at all. To me a person with dreams and ambition is a quality man and I'm sure there is other women out there with the same views.

[Anonymous]

I think in general your odds of maximum happiness are best with a partner, but at age 26 you are NOT past your prime for dating! There are plenty of guys who feel the way you do about your odds who end up happily married. Don't be discouraged.

[Confucius16]

I have two aunts who are around 50 years old and unmarried, and have never really dated. This QA hasn't gotten there yet.

[CasaNorba]

im 26 years old myself and I say HELL YEAH.

out of all the things that had made/make me happy in life is safe for me to say that women were never one of them

[MissDerpyWhooves]

I'm sure you'll one day find someone who likes you for you. If not, then you can still be happy. :)

[Anonymous]

Gay men can certainly live without women and be happy.

[Asker]

You answer is totally uncalled for. Did you even read the description? If you did, it only means you're a cruel person who enjoys kicking a man who's down on his luck. If you didn't read it, then I request you to kindly read the complete description before answering.

[Opinion Owner]

When you start with such bullsh*t as women will only marry insanely wealthy men, how am I supposed to take you seriously? 26 is past your prime? No it isn't. You just want to wallow in your singledom, and pretend there's nothing you can do about it.

it's pathetic.

[Asker]

Now do you even realize what life is like in a third world country? Of course you won't, because I'm sure you're from some highly developed country with all comforts.

[Cottoncandydreams]

lololol

[Confucius16]

I wouldn't want a kid of mine to be gay or anything, but this hate was uncalled for.

[enigmatta]

lol

[Mariana1989]

No need to be harsh on yourself. I am sure you will find the right person who will accept you no matter what you believe of yourself. Stay positive. Continue to not think of women and just let it happen at the right time.

[born2bwild]

it's so easy for a girl to find lots of man than a man finding a girl.

[Anonymous]

Sure you can my friend. I am older than you and am the same way. Just try to engross yourself in lots of work and keep busy...forget about women and feel that they don't even exist..ifact choose a job where there are least women around/interacting.