I'm having an affair with my co-worker / What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I'm married and have known my co-worker for 2 years. He asked me to go out with him for a drink once so I did just as friends. A couple weeks later we went out again. He was going to bring me home which was fine but went somewhere else and had sex. He knows I am in a bad relationship right now and he used that information to get me to sleep with him. Now it has been going on for 2 months and it is really taking a toll on me. I want to be with him all the time but when we talked he has said he doesn't have those feelings for me so I know where everything stands with him. The problem is I have to see him everyday at work and we try not to talk to each other so that people don't know what is going on. Every time I see him I like him all over again and can't get him off my mind. I keep telling myself that I am married so it shouldn't matter and I know I need to stop but when we see each other everyday this is really hard. I

[BaronScrewtape]

Either see a marriage counselor or get a divorce. It is not good to let a bad relationship fester, so doctor it or cut it off.

The cheating is an indicator that you feel the relationship with your husband is either dead or on life support. It may be best to move on and start over with another guy, unless you think with a counselor's help the two of you could work things out.

You might also start hunting for a new job, as things are not going to get better for you with this guy, and it is only a matter of time before your coworkers find out and the gossip machine gets going.

Basically either fix what you have, or look for a better guy than the one you are cheating with. He has told you right out that he is only interested in banging you. But from your text it is obvious you are hurting and looking for emotional relief you are not getting at home. This guy will not give it to you, beyond what it takes to get in your pants.

Good luck. I hope you can work things out so that you, and perhaps your husband, can find happiness.

[Littletad]

It doesn't matter. Fact is, you cheated on your husband. If your marriage is that bad, then get out of it. If you want to go out and date someone else, that's fine. Just resolve your issues with your husband first before your venture out into a new relationship.

Also, I'm sorry to say, but your co-worker was simply using you and taking advantage of your vulnerability. When you confessed your feelings for him and he said he doesn't feel the same way, this confirmed it.

I know your in a messy situation, but the fact is, you put yourself in such a predicament.

[amperkins]

Well hun you could ask for him to be transfered but that could lead to suspicion. You could also tell him that things need to stop because you are married. Like yiu said he brought up that you werre having problems in your marriage. So he tricked you into thinking what you are doing is ok. This is all up to you but you married your husbend so you have to think about who you want to be with I would stay with my husbend if I was you.

[Anonymous]

First of all, it seems you need to divorce your husband and it is plain to see that your co worker was only intrested in having sex with you. you need to go see a counselor.