My boss is flirting really hard on me, and I’m basically in a relationship with my ex-husband that no one knows about?

[Anonymous]

Well, this is a unique story, I have a husband, we’re technically divorced, but we’re back together, that’s how we decided to go with this relationship after a full history of being abused and cheated on, I took him back under one condition, to tell everybody who know we’re married that we’re not anymore, other people we can say we’re just “good friends”, things were going well until I got him a project with the company I work for, introducing him as a friend, and a professional, things worked out pretty well with work, but on the other hand, one of my bosses, let me say at least very attracted to me, last night I slept early, woke up to my husband the next day, saying your boss called to ask me when was the last time you talked to her, as he was “worried” about me, I tried to pull out when things got to that point, this boss called and insisted we come to dinner, with other coworkers, he was pissed because I turned him down, he was secretly looking at me all the time, when the night came to an end, he squeezed my hands really hard while shaking, I was about to yell because of how hard it hurt, he smiled with a hope lighting his eyes, I did not tell my husband about this, i know how this can affect him, he was extremely nice to me all day, as if he all of a sudden started to “see me”, he is very attentive, called me beautiful!!! Which is a hell of a rare, strange what jealousy can do to a man, any guidance how I can get out of this boss flirtation situation without making any problems? I really can’t handle more problems especially right now. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're in a complicated situation with both your boss and your ex-husband. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health in any situation, and to make decisions that align with your values and boundaries.

It's not uncommon for someone in a position of power, such as a boss, to try to initiate a romantic or sexual relationship with someone who works for them. However, it's important to remember that any kind of romantic or sexual relationship between an employee and their boss can be unethical and potentially harmful.

If you feel uncomfortable with your boss's advances or attention, it may be worth setting clear boundaries and communicating your discomfort to him in a professional but assertive manner. You can let him know that you value your working relationship and that any kind of romantic or sexual relationship between you is not appropriate.

Additionally, it's important to consider whether your current relationship with your ex-husband is healthy and sustainable. It's understandable that you may want to keep your relationship private, but it's important to consider whether this secrecy is causing you stress or anxiety.

Ultimately, the decision to navigate these situations is up to you and what feels right for you. It may be helpful to talk to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor for support and guidance as you navigate these challenges. They can provide tools and strategies to help you cope with your emotions and make decisions that align with your values and boundaries.

[WaterIsland]

Report it to your companies Human Resources department. That is the only option. They should take appropriate action.


Managers or supervisors should never ever ever be flirting or getting involved romantically with their employees. It creates an absolutely terrible power dynamic.


The company will want to put a stop to it immediately, and will take appropriate action, while helping you to remain anonymous.

[Asker]

He’s the owner, we don’t have an HR department it’s an SME

[WaterIsland]

Then you might need to consider quitting and finding a new job sadly. If he has that much control and is abusing it, he can deny you promotions, hold it over your head at review time, etc etc. It’s just no longer a healthy or sustainable environment.

[Anonymous]

The solution is simple. You have be perfectly clear with your boss and say you don’t want him.

[Asker]

He’s not just the boss he is the owner, of the biggest share, even the other owners can’t say no to him at all, he’s a moving bank for fuck’s sake

[Opinion Owner]

OK dude then fuck with your boss to earn respect in your work place by not saying no to him. Come on, you want it either, don’t make excuses.

[Nikki1989]

You shouldn't have to put up with that in the workplace. Report him.

[Asker]

He’s the company owner

[Guy13]

You are a busy beaver 🦫. You having a heart for them both?

[Asker]

I really have no time even if I were what you described me plus my relationship with me ex hausband is already shitty enough

[WaterIsland]

No no no. This is absolutely awful advice and shouldn’t be entertained at all. Manager and employees getting together romantically can result in termination for both. It creates an absolutely toxic power dynamic and should not even be considered.

[Asker]

@WaterIsland he’s the owner of the company

[Iron_Man]

Ignore the boss

[Iron_Man]

I mean, don’t ignore him just tell him the truth

[Asker]

He’s the company owner, and even the CEO can’t upset him for a cup of tea even

[Iron_Man]

Just tell him the truth don’t play both sides of the fence

[Asker]

I’m not even trying to, not at all, I’m stuck in a shithole literally, I talked to the second biggest owner after him, even him didn’t know what to say

[Asker]

See this guy has multiple businesses around the world he is a literall moving central bank, everyone looks at him with holly consideration

[Iron_Man]

Money is not everything in life. Stay with your ex-husband. Rekindle things.