What is wrong with ghosting strangers on the internet?

Question

I do not understand why this is rude or toxic. I mean you should not trust anyone on the internet and i also dont mind being ghosted by people on the internet. I am just asking it and dont understand the problem here.

SadBoiCari96 · Accepted Answer

Yes its not rude or toxic if you ghost some random strangers online. But it is very rude and very toxic if you ghost someone that tou have been talking to for a while. Especially if you have feelings for each other. Ghosting in a situation like that means that you rather run away from your fears instead of facing them. If you're not ready for a relationship then say so. Don't ghost the person because not everyone is so forgiving like that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The ones complaining are usually young men expressing toxic opinions and being rude and hostile, often name-calling. "Bernie Bros." and MAGA "Trumpholes" tend to be the worst offenders. They are angry because they are trying to troll and by not engaging with them you spoil their fun

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Are you talking about online dating sites or just the Internet in general?

If the latter, I think people get way too invested in their relationships with Internet strangers and view it as something much bigger than it really is. I've personally never been one for "online friends" or anything like that, because like you said, you can't trust people to be who they say they are on the Internet, and I just don't feel a connection to people through a screen. I guess I don't see the point in forming a close friendship (much less a romantic relationship) with someone I will likely never meet in person. Just my two cents.

However, I think if possible, it's usually best to at least give an explanation rather than just leaving them hanging. If they seem crazy and possibly unhinged or dangerous, or won't accept your explanation for why you don't want to talk anymore, sometimes you just have to ghost them, though.

With dating sites (which I'm admittedly no expert on since I don't use them and don't even date), I suppose if two people messaged back and forth for quite awhile and one suddenly stops replying out of the blue, it could be a little disheartening and a simple "Look, you're a nice person, but I don't think this is going anywhere" would suffice. If it's just one or two messages and the person stops replying, I wouldn't see why that would be enough to worry about and if it were me, I'd shrug it off and move on. I think some people take some things way too personally, but to me, life's too short and there will always be indifferent people. It's best not to let them rule your life or affect you too much.

topur · Answer

For me "ghosting" implies that some talks have already occurred. So it is not polite that you just stop answering that person. So I think it's wrong. I don't think it will hurt the other person like hell, but it can hurt. Besides, it might make you get used to feel people online don't matter and that's not true.
If someone starts sending you messages out of the blue and you don't reply, I don't consider it to be ghosting. I think it's acceptable and sometimes advisable when it sounds like a scam.

Just a final thought : I think we should act online just like we act on real life. The one on the other side is always a person and so are you.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

I hate ghosting, we can be nice and say that you are not interested and also if you want to tell what make that person not whorty of trust.
Is like ignoring them, yes you can't trust evribody on internet but that doesn't meen all people are criminals here.
For me is the onli posibility to talk to a girl by not being drunk.
Because in reality i don't talk to girl whntile i go in a club and get drunk.
(i'm very shy)
So internet can help people like me to make some girlfriends.

Lynx122 · Answer

Some people actually develop deep relationships over the internet and then it definitely sucks if someone just disappears. But if you don't take talking over the internet seriously and you don't have any close connections then it doesn't matter that much.

Jjpayne · Answer

It depends on the context. If you are using a dating app or even in a social place like here. I think overall it's fair to leave a closing sentence and say I'm done messaging vs just leaving it open ended with no reply.

JimboGB · Answer

Absolutely nothing. By definition you don't owe a strange anything. There are many people on this website who message me, that I simply ignore. They have no right to feel wronged by me, your free to message me and I am free to ignore it. Freedom is a beautiful thing,

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

If something doesn't feel right ghost away but if you're just not feeling them it's probably best just to be honest but I don't think it's that big of a deal.

Drowningkingfish · Answer

Most people forget who you are within several days/weeks online. Unless they have an obbsessive crush on you.

4eyes2mouths · Answer

People establish high expectations too quickly and then take it as an insult if ghosted.

likelyOK · Answer

I think that that's not usually and issue it's only when you ghost people in real life like romantic partners

OpenWine · Answer

simply put you get a crush or you find someone awesome online. that person doesn't and finds you boring but will just ghost you. you will be left with all kinds of doubts and questions

dragoblack · Answer

It is incredibly rude because it is like a big "fuc* you, to you and your existence" to the person. It is best to say you are no longer interested, end the conversation, or at least make some excuse.

Bhavin2184 · Answer

Nothing wrong with ghosting the stranger it's not rude or toxic

Uhphyshal · Answer

i think if you tell them you aren't interested and they don't acknowledge your feelings, then you ghost. otherwise it just seems wrong

Daniel_Dano · Answer

Depends, if you constantly message someone for an entire year then disappear I think it's very rude , but a stronger you only meet for a week or month I think it's okay.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

You saying I can't trust you? Stay away from me you pervert lol

PrTafi · Answer

If there is a guy you loves a lot, and he ghosted you, what would you feel about it , According to your principle it's an okay thing.

coffeewithcream · Answer

Nothing wrong with it.  It's easier than getting into an argument with a stranger.

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

welll... i think it's just fine... some people ain't worth answering messages to...

Pulseofsulfur · Answer

Well if you want to have a bf/ future husband how would you feel if he ghosted you?

Chitown10 · Answer

There shouldn't be a problem. I get reported all the time if I just say PM me. Oh well. Right!

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Internet wise I am completely indifferent.

crmoore · Answer

I agree. I've never really had an issue with it

Cryptic-Game · Answer

It is better to inform them first.

itsmyownname · Answer

There's no problem

Razal · Answer

I think its fine, nothing wrong

1kink · Answer

Not a thing

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