Do single ladies get more desperate around the Valentine's period?

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circle · Accepted Answer

The idea that single ladies (or anyone for that matter) get more desperate around Valentine's Day is more of a stereotype than a universal truth. Feelings about Valentine's Day can vary widely among individuals, regardless of their relationship status.

While it's true that the emphasis on romantic love during Valentine's Day can amplify feelings of loneliness or the desire for companionship for some, it doesn't necessarily lead to desperation. Many single women I know, use the day as an opportunity to celebrate love in all its forms, including self-love, friendship, and maybe family bonds. They might indulge in self-care activities, gather with friends, or simply ignore the day's commercial aspects.

From my own experience, being single on Valentine's Day once prompted me to take a different approach. I treated myself to a day of indulgence—spa session, favorite coffee, a visit to an art gallery, a fancy dinner at home, and a movie marathon. This personal tradition taught me the joy of spending time with myself and the importance of self-love, transforming Valentine's Day into an event I look forward.

This narrative of desperation overlooks the fact that being single is a valid and often empowering choice for many.

Therefore, while Valentine's Day can be challenging for some, attributing feelings of desperation to single ladies as a group is simplistic and overlooks the richness of individual experiences. My own Valentine's Day transformation is a testament to the fact that fulfillment and happiness come from how we treat and value ourselves, not just from romantic relationships. Celebrating love, in its many forms, can be empowering and joyful, regardless of one's relationship status.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’ve always been single and no. That’s something stupid to celebrate. It’s one of the most stupidest holidays next to Easter. Stupid and most people don’t do anything. I also don’t like the idea that I should be forced to be in a relationship to participate in a holiday. How ridiculous is that…

I sure have met females however that are desperate and absolutely beyond miserable because they happen to be single around that date. Women who feel the need to feed their Ego alone. It’s an Ego thing. And my sister was definitely one of those women. She’d complain about it, she’d go on dates with strangers she doesn’t know. (by the way I hate online Tinder dating and such, despise it and don’t participate on that) , she’d behave miserable is she didn’t have a man on that date.

Not me lol. I could care less.

But every time I see women like that it reminds me of my egocentric demonic sister. She has a boyfriend now, a virgin simp that’ll bend over backwards to get P*SSY from her. But I doubt that relationship will last because it was built on my sisters demonic EGO…

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Not all of us... thank goodness. Some of us have standards and self respect for ourselves not to let a holiday dictate our lives, lol.

I will admit when I was younger, I definitely got desperate around Valentine's day! Especially in my college years. I went on dating sites, dressed extra cute, tried to find single guys... it never worked. Which only made me MORE depressed, angry, and spiteful about that day.

Thankfully as I got older and more secure in myself, I outgrew that nonsense and realized I didn't need to stress out over if I was single or not on Valentine's day since it's just another day.

VanillaSalt · Accepted Answer

It’s similar to women around a wedding. Men can get laid easy because women involved with a wedding suddenly want to get married… and baby fevers a thing. One woman has a baby and the rest want one. Ironically a woman’s periods the same where a house of women will match cycles. It’s possible that women are so tied into society they follow suit with what others do even biological functions… like when one woman has to go to the restroom and so they all go lol.

Women hate being reminded of their inadequacies. They feel it makes them less then their other female friends. And it does. A mother is fostering the next generation of the world. Next to that a ceo or brick layer is nothing. Just coming together to support one another brings a usefulness you don’t get from single people. Sure they work but that’s not exactly a big deal.

TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

They won't admit it, but yes they do. It is that time of the year that they see things about valentines everywhere around them which sadly for them serve as a harsh reminder that they have got no one. They see it everywhere, friends or acquaintances receiving gifts or posting their lovers on social media, stores and buildings getting decorated, online stores advertise 'valentines day discounts', etc. So they try to resort to plausible deniability which is a defence mechanism to perserve one's self-esteem. The reality is, yes they ARE bothered. Don't know about desperate (which is kind of broad and everyone has their own view on what that means), but bothered they surely are.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Not me. It's just another holiday to me. I just like to buy a box of chocolates and eat them. 🤣

CuriousJC · Answer

This is what women wants the most in any Relationship with men. This is Ulyssia Biddlecombe, my valentine girlfriend when I was 18.  I wish. If it was that easy, then I would have had a girlfriend a long time ago to the point where we're living in the same house together. It's not easy, it's never easy, and it's never out of desperation. This is why most men prefer to be single because it feels extremely pointless to make an ass of yourself after you decided to put your life on the line for the woman you love just for her to lied, betray, and cheat on you in the long run. Especially when you literally spoil her with some gifts, money, and love and she still not satisfied. This chart even proves on what I'm talking about. If that man doesn't have it than that man ain't worth loving anymore. I refuse to pay a woman to fall in love with me and I refuse to be a woman magical money tree. I don't know about most men who approach women or try to be in a relationship with women, But I took gentleman classes in both middle school and high school and graduated from them both with high grades. As a gentleman, I prefer women to make the move on me instead of me making the move on her. When I was 18 at the time, my female friend Ulyssia came over to see me but got stopped by my mother on the way out of the door. Apparently my mother had a big mouth and decided to tell her everything. My mother told Ulyssia that I liked her, wanted her to be my girlfriend for Valentine day, but I was never good at making the first move. So she was going to have to do it. My mother even gave Ulyssia her blessing and consulting, and told her to get her new boyfriend before someone else takes him for herself. She also told Ulyssia to keep an eye out for me while she goes out for some Errands. Ulyssia ran upstair, came inside my apartment and locked the door. Then she came into my room and lock the door. Blast the music on my stereo, and tossed my donut out the window. Before I asked her what she was doing, she told me to shut up and eat her while she puts her butt on my face. I wasn't against it and I actually did it. She literally grabs my crotch squeezing it like a stress ball telling me that I was her new boyfriend now and I better love her and nobody else. I couldn't really say anything at the moment cuz I was being loved and suffocated at the same time. I could only give her the thumbs-up because well you know. Too bad it didn't last long because when somebody else that was much more handsome than me she eventually left me three months later after Valentine's Day for somebody else. After I got my heart broken, I burned every picture we had, anything we ever exchanged, all of it. Love is nothing but a big cause and effect chain reaction combo Loop. Whenever somebody is in love with somebody else, it's only a matter of time before another person crosses his or her path that's even more beautiful or handsome than the person you're in love with. I've decided to be single and just break that loop forever. Got my heart broken so many times to the point where it's impossible to put the pieces back together after smashing it so many times. I donated my heart to the emotional Foundation given me the ability to be immune to emotional pain and rejection. In order for me to feel love again that woman's going to have to put my heart back in my chest for me to feel love towards her. Sometimes I wish there was a law stating that if a woman or man is still single and doesn't find someone by the end of the month has to pay a $700 fine or spend three months in prison, maybe then I could probably increase my chances and get lucky and actually find someone who's actually desperate to not get fined or imprisonment.

Dragonpurple · Answer

I would say the vast majority do not, but I was in the ER one time on Valentines and it was swamped, lots of suicidal girls. I would say those were desperate, as some even hit on me, even though I was there with my wife for a medical issue she was having.

When they made me leave her area to do things, I would walk around and sometimes talk to the others. I heard a lot of sob stories and why guys suck. Everything from he dumped me today to he had to work but I found out he is actually cheating on me and taking someone else on a Valentines date.

I would try to let them know to not give up, It was not the end of the world and there are good guys out there.

In a way I was probably a bit of a positive outlook to them, I know at least one started to cheer up but who knows how long it lasted. At least most were there because they were thinking about it, they had not actually tried it.

If you are looking to take advantage of desperate women, please don't.

Heartache0405 · Answer

I’d say the single ones and those who cheat, which in my experience happen to be the majority.

We all know that women can’t go a single day without attention. A day dedicated to love, a women will shove her ass and tits everywhere in order to recurrence said attention. Then regret their own decision to sell attention the next day. Which is why I try my best to avoid women in Feb.

This girl who already has a boyfriend wants to hang out with me for her birthday and I suggested we play video games at my place but I’m trying to get the boys (my friends) to come too so it won’t just be me and her. I actually want to be cock blocked! 😂 plus one of my friends has extra Nintendo switch controllers and I only have the one so if he comes we could all play Mario kart 8 on my tv sense I only have one controller. But he said he would only come if one of my other friends comes 😂 and I think he seems set on coming but I’m not sure if he’s being serious

Anonymous · Answer

I do not know about all females. Everyone has different lives. Maybe one of them, recently broke up with her boyfriend so she is unhappy. Or maybe the other is happy because she got rid of her toxic relationship and she is free to do anything she wants. But for me….. I am single and I have always been single. I will be 26 in the April and i will be single too. When i see couples’ photos from İnstagram i feel more lonely. I think i will feel bad about myself because i will see them more on the Valentines day. But if people are happy, i can be happy for them too. It is good to see happy couples who love each other.

Jasmine-Darkfire · Answer

I call it national singles awareness day and no, I can't say I ever have. Those that do, are the ones that usually have someone and have no idea how to be single and they just happen to be in-between right then. The co-dependent types.

I've seen guys get depressed though too.

Joker_ · Answer

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lovedejj_xo · Answer

Most dont I bake and Valentine day is one of my top 3 biggest holidays where people order. I’ve seen some girls buy themselves things from me and then tag me saying look what I got on v-Day or saying “self love”. You can do that any day so it’s definitely attention …I find it desperate but whatever just pay me.

BaldAvenger · Answer

This is where the competition between women originates. Most women dream of their knight and shining armor falling helplessly in love and riding off into the sunset. On Valentine's Day if there not with someone they are REALLY wishing they were because who wants to spend Valentine's day alone thinking of all the women who ARE out there being treated like a queen by their knight and shining armor. THEN, at work the next listening to colleagues and friends talk about the FAN-DAM-TASTIC their night was. Case closed!

Anonymous · Answer

I personally don't care about Valentine's Day at all. It's a Hallmark holiday, in my opinion. It means nothing for me and my boyfriend personally. Anniversaries are a celebration of us and the milestone we've accomplished, but Valentine's day is generic to people everywhere.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Probably. Because females generally are not forward-looking creatures and they usually fail to think and plan long-term. They just do things on the spur of the moment based on their emotions. So it would be highly likely that a woman wouldn't think seriously about getting a boyfriend until Valentine's Day rolls around.

RawIronhide · Answer

One time I had a girl ask me out (sent her friend) I couldn't understand why cuz we didn't know each other. I said no cuz it felt odd and she should ask me herself. Few weeks later she was with another guy on Valentine's day lol.

Medicalbug · Answer

No. To be honest, I forget that Valentine's Day exists. Don't get me wrong, if a friend surprises me with chocolates, I'm not going to say no, but on my own, it's just a day like any other.

Daniela1982 · Answer

If they are desperate, they are that way all the time, not just on Valentine's Day.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Valentine Period, I always wondered why Red was the colour for Valentines. Explains those blood red roses, dipped in to a fresh flow

CasaNorba · Answer

you bet your ass they do. dont believe the 25 bimbos who voted B. it can't be a coincidence that everytime I hit the streets on Valentine's Day I see so many women walking around public places wearing truckloads of makeup and revealing clothing even during daytime like if they're gonna hit the club or something

Seinna · Answer

I didn't really get desperate, maybe a bit sad. But it didn't make me act in any different way than I normally would. Also, I don't even care about Valentines when I am with someone.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Women and men probably feel about the same thing on Valentine's Day

SammieUnicorn369 · Answer

Truth, the only good thing about valentines day is that all the choclate is half off the next day. No corporatation tells me how to feel 🤣🤣

NopeWhatTime · Answer

No. Valentine's Day is such a hallmarked holiday that it just makes relationships seem artificial anyway

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I'm sure some might.  But those who are actually fine or love being single aren't.  I know I'm not desperate.

SuqqMaddiqq · Answer

Girls yes, women no.  Elaboration: younger females do, I remember back in middle school when I “needed” a valentine, but now it’s like every other day. Who cares anymore lol.

19magic · Answer

I'll never have to worry about that again it's little ones bday on valantines so it's just party stuff I have to sort out.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I hope your not asking this question to see if you can take advantage of any desperate women to get some sex or something. No we do not.

ZackBan · Answer

Never felt that way to me. At least not ladies especially.
I guess anyone who's single will ponder over the idea on Valentine's day just because it's being talked about but I wouldn't say anyone is desperate JUST because of the holiday

lrina · Answer

I think they got lonelier or more annoyed but not necessarily desperate

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

We don't but men do. Us single ladies gladly go out with out girlfriends

Roses_Are_Red198744 · Answer

I certainly don’t. I think it’s good to celebrate that everyone is in a different place in their lives with love. Also I’d rather have my first real Valentines Day with the one person I love deeply one day ❤️

John_Doesnt · Answer

They're desperate for free stuff and desperate to not look pathetic.

KatherineJ · Answer

I guess that depends on the female and if she chose to be single or not.

rabbitzzz · Answer

I don't think they have any trouble going o. one date.

888theGreat · Answer

They need a guy for Valentines, Christmas, New Years , and Easter. So when they go to gatherings , they have a guy. I guess because all women do that.

blondfrog · Answer

if they do its only cause of the brainwashing marketing schemes.

Anonymous · Answer

They certainly aren't going to admit it if they do lol

Realworldanalysis · Answer

of course this would be made by a male on gag hoping to prey on desperate women to get dates and ass.

Moose304 · Answer

Honestly, to most working women I know this is just another day!

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

I think single people in general just get lonelier around the holidays. If that comes across as desperation to you, then yes, they do

Likes2drive · Answer

If they are I never noticed and they don’t get flirty with me knowing I’m single which is like always

zagor · Answer

I haven't noticed that, but then I'm not around many single ladies of late.

MJtheCoach · Answer

No dude they’re already dating their phones and they’re married to Tiktok!

SnakeBoop · Answer

some will same as some men do

NorthAfrican · Answer

I never cared for or celebrated valentines so no.

DesiUwU · Answer

Depends…I just get sad smh

fonduegirl · Answer

I'm usually shopping on discounted stuff idgaf

Primejeremy · Answer

Men seem more desperate than women in general. Women have options.

Stevezhang · Answer

Single women do not necessarily desperate, there will always be people who love you appear

Alyssa_11 · Answer

I’d be lying if I said no lol.

Neko_Nya · Answer

Nah I just get laid lol

BobbyC65 · Answer

Only to be sexual with other female's. 💞

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I can't say I've noticed.

Ryfyle · Answer

Why would they when they have social media?

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Not typically

GabiBB · Answer

Most women don't.

Flower7 · Answer

Most don’t.

Nagahime · Answer

No, not really.

Anonymous · Answer

I buy myself a chocolate. I have money.

McKellar · Answer

And here I thought women complain that men do? lol

manfromsomewhere2 · Answer

thats an interesting one

moonpie89 · Answer

Ofcourse

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