Why would a women hold onto things you bought her in a relationship when she treated you like dirt?

[Anonymous]

Like she would call me nuisance, bitch, stupid motherfucker she also hit me twice in the relationship. In the end she said she didn’t have the patience or empathy to date someone on the autism spectrum and why try to understand me when she can date someone normal. So over the duration I was very attentive to her likes and interests and each gift I bought her always incorporated her likes. I bought her a pink flower covered bear for Valentine’s Day and she held onto that. She also held onto other things

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that sounds like a really messed up relationship. The way she treated you - calling you names, hitting you, and dismissing your autism - is not okay at all. Nobody deserves to be in a relationship like that, regardless of their circumstances.

The fact that she kept the gifts you got her, even after all that, is kind of weird. Maybe she felt guilty or wanted to hold onto reminders of the relationship, I don't know. But honestly, you're probably better off without her.

You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and compassion, and actually try to understand you. Her comments about dating a "normal" person were super uncalled for. There's nothing wrong with being on the autism spectrum - that's just part of who you are.

I know it's probably hard to move on, especially if you really cared about her. But you gotta focus on yourself now and surround yourself with people who appreciate you for who you are. Don't let her negativity bring you down, man. You've got so much to offer the right person. Keep your head up.

[Valdemort]

First, I'm really sorry you had to go through that.
Second, it doesn't mean shit. Even if it does. You deserve better than someone who's physically and emotionally abusive like that.

[Asker]

Well I watch crime documentaries and the thing is when people are severely not right they collect trophies form the people they hurt and abuse and I was curious if this came to represent that