Why does my husband of 53 look at pictures of girls 18-22 years old on the internet?

I am not ur husband, but you should know that we are generally of two emotions, hunger and horny. It has no bearing on his feelings for you, he is merely enjoying the sight of young beautiful hotties on line. He may even jerk off to the pictures etc.. but inthe end he needs the affection of you his wife and companion.

Hope this helps.
Don't overthink it.

He's being male. Women are in their sexual prime at 16-25, so it's natural that we find them most attractive at that age. Don't be offended.

Why? I couldn't say. What I can say is that its very normal for a guy of any age to enjoy looking at pictures of young girls. Blame it on physiology, culture, society, or whatever you want, but I don't think it will go away any time soon.

It is not normal to let your wife catch you...he should work on that...

They're at their most fertile- actually, a woman is most fertile at approximately 16-22, most easily able to become pregnant. A man is able to impregnate a woman best at that age. That's really what they're looking for- fertility. A woman, on the other hand, is often looking for a provider. Therefore they look for someone strong enough to survive to older age- thus why there are more older men/younger women relationships than vice versa. It's biological.

i mean guys his age and all ages always love younger girls because part of it is not wanting to grow up which all guys, and women I think don't wanna get old. so it makes em feel young and alive. guys love the idea of seeing a beautiful young girl next door type being wild and having hot sex...hes living vicariously through the guys on the porn having sex with the girls. he wants to be that guy. its a huge turn on for all guys seeing young hot girls having hot sex. I don't know y but it just does. if you were a guy you would understand. I'm not a counselor and all, but its not a healhty sign if he's looking at this stuff a lot and ur marriage is in jeopardy.

either you are not being sexual with him like porn girls r...but I would confront him bout it and give him an ultimatum. either start being wild and kinky or spice up your image. bottom line hell probly never give up porn no matter what even if he did land one of these little hot girls and was having sex with her hell still look at porn so don't fight it.

but ya id definteily go see a counselor and work thins out.

I know if I was your husband I would try everything to not look at porn in front of you.

Guys are genetically predisposed to have sexual stimulation. It's what keeps the population growing. But I would never look at porn right in front of the girl I love. I would do it in private. And I'll be damned if girls don't masturbate or look at porn on their own. We all do it. We and dolphins are the only species to have sex for pleasure and there is no shame in that.

There is shame when doing it right in front of someone who finds displeasure in it.

make some homemade porn with him to get off too.

I am sure you are very attractice and all, but men masturbate. And that is how it is. THAT"S REALITY! Men have, and always will masturbate. Even when they have a woman who is more than happy to get them off.
It truly frustrates me how many women take a man masturbating to porn personally. Porn is Porn. And as another reply stated, most of the girls in internet porn are 18-22 years old.
My wife used to get upset/jealous because I would get off to internet porn. I gues she forgot that she used to masturbate when she was younger too. But for a man, like me or your husband, we like masturbaing.
Our woman's vagina, mouth and hand does feel great to us. But for a man, masturbation has the same effect on our penis and mind as comfort food has on our tummies.

CAN'T A MAN JUST JACK HIMSELF OFF TO SOME PORN ANYMORE?
Why is it such a taboo?

Oh, post a pic and we can tell you how hot you are...

PS - How would you feel if you knew some guy (not your hubby) was jacking off looking at you pic? Be honest.

Well, first, he's masturbating because he has a heartbeat. There are exceptions, but broadly, that's what guys do. Masturbating isn't something guys do because they're unsatisfied with their partner(s) at all -- whatever women tend to think about this, in your average guy's mind the two are entirely separate subjects. One is about love and companionship and sex. The other is about anatomy and jiggly things and sex -- no personality, no moods, no being considerate required. Most importantly: no emotion. It's a separate thing in all the ways that count.

Second, he's masturbating over younger women because 95% of the porn out there is of women who are 18-22. If he doesn't make an extra-special effort to find "specialty sites" that deal in older women then it's going to default to young women. Not coincidentally, they also look the best. If they happen to be his daughter's age, then so what? They were hot when he was that age too, and chances are his opinion hasn't changed. There's no threshold in life where a guy starts saying, "Firm, ripe boobs? Ew!"


This does not connect with cheating, or with you not "being enough" for him, or anything like that. Guys don't think like that. Weird as it may sound to a woman, emotionless sex energizes guys in a way that women may not (or maybe may?) understand. Getting off and making love are both important. Guys are happiest when they get off regularly...and then make love regularly too!

Even more opinions here about a tough subject...Older men sometimes marry younger women and vice versa...for obvious reasons...They are simply younger, firmer, sexier etc etc. I think we as humans want to deny lost youth...being 20years old again and it is hard to let go of that...As we get older, we lose many things that we had as very young people. I certainly would not lose any sleep over it, and I don't thnk your marriage is in jeopardy because of it...I may be wrong here ...but then again I am only offering editorial opinion ...like everyone else.

Hang in there and ignore it if possible.

neverland sysndrom. we wish we wish apond a star that we were sometimes singal and stupid once again. if that doesn't explain it I don't think anything will. if you don't get it we guys men what ever you want to call us by now "do not grow up!" we are still the 18 year olds many years ago with older run down bodies and smart brains.

Girls that age look good. Deal with it.

u need to stop him, that's perverted, show him ur grossed out sis, no woman would want to see her man like that, I mean make sure what he sees turns him on indeed and he's not just looking innocently, if you have kids he should be ashamed at himself, it has nothing to do with you sis, its just him, try to show him that's wrong or get someone to tell him that, don't be too late that he gets used to it

I think there are two separate problems.

First, your husband looking at women online. Second, how you feel about him looking at other women online.

We all look at other people. I don't mean men only, either. We can love and cherish our partner, and _never_ want to cheat. But we notice other people we find attractive. It's normal to notice others. I _don't_ necessarily mean that it's okay to look at porn or Playboy. I don't mean that it's okay to indulge in fantasies that take us out of the real world. I think that normal noticing of others can be unhealthy, whether it's a man who can't get it up without looking at porn, or a woman whose opinion of men is influenced by the romantic comedy movies she watches four times a week.

Are you more worried about the _age_ of the women he's looking at, or are you more bothered by the fact that he's looking at other women, period? How would you feel if he were looking at women who were roughly your age? Or are you worried that you're not enough? Or am I missing the point?

He has urges, just remember has sleeping with you, would hurt if you went to the gym more and spiced it up in the bed room. and even surprised him in the shower. Its all genes and we are very visual. If you aren't happy about it then sit with him and ask him why he looks at it and if there's anything you can do to get is mind off of it. Despite Porn is on 90% of all computers or more. Just a lot more 18-22 year old on it because that's what hot in society now.

as gross as it may seem to you, it obviously turns him on sexually. it doesn't mean he thinks any differently of you. if it isn't affecting anything in your relationship besides you being worried about it then I would just let it go. if he isn't sexual with you then I think it constitutes a problem.
it is beyond mens control whether they find themselves sexually attracted to young girl like you mentioned. the pinnacle of sexually for most men is the image of a young woman's body. it doesn;t mean that older women aren't sexy and attractive, but there is a certain thing they can't deliver on sexually and that is purely that they aren't young and fresh. no matter how old they are men will never stop being turned on sexually to the thought of a sexy young woman. I would accept this if I were you. what harm is it if it is just porn and he is faithful and still sexual with you?

Seriously? Wow. Um, it's because girls that are young and fertile are supremely attractive and gets his blood pumping. It's that simple. Just because a guy gets older doesn't mean attractive women stop being attractive.

Is this a serious question? Why does a man like to look at young beautiful women and imagine hvaing sex with them? I think the answer is self-evident. It has nothing at all to do with his feelings for you. The idea that people are only supposed to be attracted to their mates is some sort of religio-societal myth that is just flat-out wrong.

Once more:
It's just day dreaming: porn isn't reality, it's FICTION.

Dear Women.

Guys look at porn (almost all of us). When we do, we do NOT think about the girls personality. We don't think about having a date with them. We don't think having an affair.

We think about t*ts, ass, etc.

If you catch us looking at porn and you don't like it, BEFORE you feel hurt realise the following.

1: We still love you as our girlfriend/partner/wife.
2: We aren't looking because we don't want to have sex with you. Sex and masturbation are different.
3: The porn has no relationship towards our feelings for you in one way or another
4: We've been doing this for years, since we were young teens.
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I've answered a number of these questions (all pretty similar), and time and time again the female's response/question is "Why is he looking at porn, doesn't he love me"?

So I hope I can make it perfectly clear. Almost all (not all, but I dare say most) males masturbate and probably look at porn (or some other visual stimulant). This is NOT a cause for alarm. Masturbation and sex are two different things and there are many studies that show masturbation levels do not diminish once in a relationship.

If you have concerns about your relationship, speak to your partner about it. If you have concerns about his masturbation/porn, again speak to them. But please keep in mind what I wrote above. It is not a reflection upon you in any way.

wow that's f***ed up. I'd say midlife crisis. On the other hand, you have to understand that the term cougar is around for a reason too. Both genders do the same things...not sure why. Maybe they wish they could have gotten it in a little bit more than they did before they got married? lol

Because sadly, there is nothing like a ferm fresh young female body. You may be pretty at your age but its a common thing for an older man to lust for these this. That's what he wants. It makes him horny. Weather he has the heart or the guts to leave you for one of those? you would know better than me. Join him it might really turn him on...

Frankly, he's sad. He has a problem. He's addicted to the sense of endorphines humans get when they embark on a new realtionship. Its an unhealthy thing that big business trys to convince us is "just a bit of fun".

People get into these bad patterns in youth and some people just don't grow up because their bad behaviours are supported and not challenged.

Anytime, anyone is looking at porn its to fill a void in their life (same as with drugs). Someone leading a normal and healthy fulfilling life shouldn't be using porn.

Having said that, sometimes its our partners which drive us to it. I've heard plenty of people be turned down by their wives when they wanted sex (this can lead to infidelity or porn use). In a healthy, monogonous relationship, a partner should always come to the other partner for any sexual need.

Porn can be ok, if both partners share a "thrill" for it together though. Though for such people I would just recommend swinging or some similar human centric sexual activity.

Then people are people. Some people thrive on their so called "freedoms" and I'm fine with that. Just as long as they don't try and have a monogonous relationship whilst fantasising over other partners.

Because even a plain 18 year old is better than an beautiful 50 year old. I was at the store once and saw some old dude buying a porno mag with a bunch of college girls in it and it freaked me out to think this guy was lusting after the women I hook up with. Then I realized if I were in his position I'd probably want the same thing, it must suck to get old. Poor dude, fap on sir. Fap on! I salute you!

I'm younger so I can't really answer from the older part of the spectrum but I can make an educated guess. Almost all porn is comprised of 18-25 year old women due to their stamina, need for money, and young appearance. It has been statistically proven that older people are attracted to the embodiment of youth. I wouldn't think you have anything to worry about in terms of separation.

He is remembering his youth, and reflecting on a time when that age group found him attractive. Men are visual, we have huge egos, and we are hunters. He will always want to look, and he will always want to sniff. You are safe as long as he does not become a pointer, or a tracker. Let him enjoy the pictures, and be there to enjoy the ride when his bone is ready. In fact, blow his mind and suggest some porn sites, and tell him you will be expecting some extra effort on his part towards you after he has watched. Red TUBE is a good one and it is free.

The dangerous part of this is he is risking that you might decide to find attention from another source, and you are more likely to have what would attract what you would find, where he is not nearly as likely to get lucky with the girls he is web surfing.

Men who cheat, do it if they think they can get away with it. Women who cheat, do it because the men they love are not paying enough attention to their basic needs to be loved, held and appreciated.

Good Luck,
James

The reason he's looking is simple, no matter how hot of a wife you hav,e no matter how smart etc. There will always be some random boob from the internet hanging around I'm sorry, but that's the way off life, new things are more interesting than old, but you always go back to the old things

Men like younger women, because in psychology, youth sybolises fertility, and strength and nurturing.

most men are less attracted to a woman, as she gets older, and even more so once she's past her prime.


with a man, an older man can see seen as attractive because with a man, age isn't a symbol of fertility. We provide the resources and the safety.

All mens hormones, program them to be very attracted you young females. And this is all guys not just some. Some men like older women, but not after she is past her prime which is about 40-45. You'll see guys looking at the olsen twins etc, but never at elizabeth taylor.

thats just the way it is.
Just see yourself as lucky that he manages to fight those urges to fool around with a younger girl.

Check out the book "Every Man's Battle" link and share it with your husband if you find it compelling.

Men like porn. It's simple. Unless he is exchanging pictures with someone personally or getting people to send him pics of themselves you should have no worry.

It doesn't mean you don't look good, it means he also likes the way younger women look. Guys look at different kinds of porn ... one day it's asian women, the next it's older women the next it's college co-eds. He likes them all. Same as just because he looks at young porn models, doesn't mean he still doesn't think you look good.

Crazy analogy, but it makes sense in my mind. Until he gives you signs something is going on, it's probably just normal, male behavior.

That is a bit odd. Although I do believe most men continue to stare at women we'll into an old ripe age, doing it on the net sounds a bit creepy. I often remember my ex pointing out girls and asking me if I thought one was cute or not, and I was pretty honest. But I remained faithful, I would never act or have any impulse to seek the girl I'm casually staring at. Especially if I'm with someone. I do think he's trying to remember his youth. But if he's looking at even younger girls, or full blown porn, then you might have a problem.

I read many of the answers here and usually most are in favor of his actions, and so am I, only slightly. As long as he remains faithful to you, loves you, and he doesn't act on his impulse's, then he's a good man in my book. Do however, let him know how you feel when he does this. It's natural to want to find the reason, and you'll only grow more frustrated if you don't.

There's a couple points to make about this situation.

First, consider the evolutionary aspect - procreation of the species... If a man's role is to provide security and financial/emotional stability for the family, then his evolutionary worth increases as he gets older (to a certain point). A man typically earns more per year as his skill and education increases. Lets say this optimal range is 25-50 just for kicks.

If a woman's role in evolution is to "pop one out", then her evolutionary worth kicks in just after puberty and fades off with time. The sooner she starts popping them out, the better potential for the offspring to survive and flourish.

So, if you believe all that, it's completely natural for a older guy to lust after a younger woman - the optimal fertile subject.

Now for part two. A funny thing happens to a guy when he gets older. No longer does he want to deal with the immature drama a younger woman brings to the table. He's heard it all, been there, and done that. He begins to truly appreciate the warm companionship his woman his woman has given him and can foresee the many more years of the same.

So the natural biological condition of his maleness demands that he remain in the mindset of procreation, thus, he lusts after young women. A good man will remain faithful companion, but forever an optimistic preditor. (LOL)

If you know your man is faithful and honest with you about his desire and activities, I *DARE* you to take a chance and point out a couple of *hotties* some time during your time out with him... then remind him of them the next time you're being intimate.

I'm going to venture a guess that you'll receive a session that will knock your socks off like it did when you first started dating... and all it took was giving him the opportunity to fantasize, guilt free, about something he thinks about anyway.

It is entirely natural to be attracted to women in the late teens to mid twenties, no matter what age the man is. They are symbols of youth and fertility. It is simply adaptive.

That said, he may also be feeling his age. He may be longing for the days of his youth. It is impossible to tell without addressing him personally. This may be related to his own feelings of lost time and age, and he may appreciate talking about it. It may also be that he just likes to look at attractive young females, in which case he is just like pretty much every other guy out there.

I know of many older women who do this as well.

I would try not to take offense to it, but if it bothers you that much, just ask him about it.

Youth, innocence, simplicity, lives being led that aren't the least bit troublesome.

Would you rather him look at pictures of other 55-year-old women?

I am 51 and male. I am no longer married. My wife had issues that I should only look at her, but all I did was only look. I had no interest in being with another woman. I think that the one thing why women fix themselves up, is to try to look pretty. I don't think women do that to have an affair with another man. As for men, some of us do not look for an affair either, but we do like to look. When you see him look, try doing something different. Sit down with him and play temporary lesbian. Say, wow, this ones cute, or she needs more make-up. You will find he will tire of pictures and want you, if all is well in the bedroom.

I'm thinking he missed his chance to mess around with young women when he was young and now he feels the yearning. Or it could just be that he's reminiscing about his youth.

As to your second question, he's probably thinking about sex when he looks.

Sometimes guys do this just to fansity ... But it could also be that he's not getting enough sex

Honestly it's because girls who are 18-22 are a lot more beautiful than girls his age.

Are you having sex regularly? Does he seem bored with it? Sometimes we tend to fall into a routine. Try something new (that you're comfortable with). A new lube, some fun pj's that have a pit of pizazz to them... something to mix it up. Maybe use a couple of his own ties to restrain him to the bed. I'm sure that would get his attention! Let him know that even though you're not those girls he's looking at, you're a real, breathing woman who can please him.

Men are visual, but I can understand you're hurt. Confront him on it, and try to reach an understanding. He may also be in denial that he's getting older. Which means that he's sensitive about his virility. Men at all stages in life are concerned about that. Let him know that he's still a man's man, and that he makes you feel like a real woman.

Best of luck!

That's just the way most men are when they get older like 50's 60's some start liking girls who are pretty young like in their 20's


My sister is going out with this guys who is so ugly and so old. Its f***ing nasty she's 23 and his f***ing like 57 ! And he stayed after her and he divorced his wife for her. And now they are planing on geting married in april/2010


:( how sad.

Why don't you simply ask him about it, in a very gentle and calm way, even calling him "honey"?

Lack of a gentle and effective communication is the main reasons of why so many couples break up. Cause they stop understanding each other.

This is just stuff that guys do. I'm sure he isn't planning to have an affair or run off with someome else, and I'm sure he dsnt look at it because he liks the look of them beta then u. Most men do ths, some however dnt.

Even if your man was in his 20's I'm pretty sure he'd still look at young women in porn.

Reading through this entire chain, I'll say this... many give arguments that it's only looking, no big deal, etc. That's really the lesser point.

The bigger point is that he must be doing this in very obvious ways for you to notice and ask this question. That is disrespectful. I watch porn, I like to look at hot men, look at their packages, etc. But I don't do this or comment on it in front of my boyfriend. Plus if you have children (hopefully not daughters), this would seriously be disturbing to them.

Further, the other big point is whether or not his doing so is taking away from your sex life, such that he's neglecting to have sex with you because he's getting the majority of his satisfaction elsewhere. That's also a problem; I had a major issue in another relationship where I felt like the guy I was with preferred porn to me - he was very obvious about his habits, and I started to feel unsatisfied and neglected. Again, I watch porn, but I'd much rather have real sex with my bf; it's more of a backup when I'm home alone for a while and horny.

When I'm in my 50's, no doubt I'll find younger twenty something men to be very attractive. But you can bet I won't obviously be checking them out or looking at pictures of them in front of my hubby, and I won't be neglecting my sex life with my hubby.

Not because your husband is married to you that don't mean he is not attracted to other things...Lighten up and pretend you don't see what he is doing...A good man is hard to find nowadays.

Not because your husband is married to you that don't mean he is not attracted to other things...Lighten up and pretend you don't see what he is doing...A good man is hard to find nowadays.

I'm 22 and my dad is around your husbands age. So this is just really wrong. All he's thinking when he looks at them is that he wants to have sex with them. That's it. Just tell him to stop and talk to him about it. Put your foot down. Maybe he could just buy magazines as they're more soft core than the weird stuff on the internet. If I were you, I would log onto his computer and see what stuff (if any) he's downloaded and what sites he's visited when he's not home. He's not going to tell you what he's looking at but like someone else has said, he could be viewing child porn for all you know. I know that snooping is a bit dodgy but just do it because if you ask to see his computer, he'll just wipe all the stuff off his computer. I have older men chat me up and its excruciating. How do you know that he's not cheating on you?

It is a habit but its affecting your marriage very badly so he must stop. I know men like porn, I can put up with a few magazines stashed away but he's on the internet all the time its serious and bad! He's not valuing you with respect by watching porn all the time. I think the soft core magazines could be a solution but to be honest he just sounds like a pervy old man to me. No nice older man chats me up, its always the ones who probably have wife and kids at home or just want a one night stand. If he wanted you, he would spend the time he's watching porn with you. You say you're pretty and in good shape so its just odd that he would want a movie instead of the real thing!

he is a guy... that's just what happens. Its not that he loves you any less, but men have a lot of trestosterone even when they are older, and that's a way of releasing it. when you stop having intercourse that when it becomes a problem. Some of my friends and I were talking about this the other day... and this also is in reply to all the other that have commented before myself... the difference between a beautiful woman and young girls is simply... older women are beautiful, elegant, classy, and more distiguished, whereas younger girls are "sexy, hot" almost slutty if you will... and it has nothing to do what he is attracted to or what he wants you to be, its just that they are young, crazy, indistinguished and that's what is advertised in magazines.

I don't know but I think that if his bahavior is hurtful you need to sit him down and have a serious conversation. If he really loves you then hurting you would be the last thing he would want to do. I mean how would be feel if you were constantly lusting after younger hot men?

Men are visual and porn gives temporary visual stimulation to allow one to please themselves.When he looks,he is looking for temporary gratification.Regardless of his age,regardless of your age,regardless of the age of the girls,it has nothing to do with YOU,how he feels about you,your relationship or his love or respect for you.Whether male or female,it's natural to look at something attractive,and men as women,will continue to do so.And no matter how in love a guy is with his wife,how sexy/hot his wife is and how much he loves and respects her,there will always be attractive girls around.Does that mean he'll look?Most likely he will look.Does that mean he'll touch?No.Don't feel bad about it,those other women don't compare to wifey

After looking at all the other answers, I think it is important to remember men's sexual experiencs that have programmed them for the rest of their life. Young boys learn early on the power of a sexual image to stimulate them to orgasm. This is an experience that they carry with them for the rest of their lives and forms their adult sexual preferences and habits. Even when they are adults and are in a wonderful relationship, they still carry those experiences with them. Does it make them bad or untrustworthy? No. It is just how they have been trained to stimulate themselves. It doesn't make them monsters or horrible husbands, unless they cross these lines:
1) He masturbates to orgasm by watching porn, thus denying you satisfaction and pleasure.
2) He starts communicating with real people for sexual gratification
3) He starts looking at child porn, which is definitely crossing the line of social acceptability
4) He becomes Obsessed with porn

Other than that, I think he is just a pretty normal guy. I think it is also good to remember that if he is getting older too, then he might have trouble maintaining an erection, which can be a very distressing issue for a man. So he might be trying to find that extra stimulation so he can maintain an erection. Just a thought!

I'm so sick and tired of hearing guys defending themselves with "all guys watch porn, that's just the way it is". Well f***ing do something about it then. I have the same problems with my husband and it's always the same story, it's just something men do. But if we have to learn to live with it, why can't men try to live without it? If it's "just porn", it's not a big deal, nothing to get upset about then it shouldn't be hard to just stay away from it.
But it's something they've been doin since they were young and you're husband will most likely not stop looking at younger girls.

Do what I did, I let my husband know that with his stupid "habbit" comes consequences and not to expect me to treat him respectfully when he's being so disrespectful to me. Don't be afraid of letting him know he's a f***ing d***head when he is from time to time.
I trust my husband with my life, but when it comes to this I have no trust in him what so ever and I make sure he knows it.

Good luck

When you grow to be a certain age, men tend to forget what it was like to be young. You live your years of fresh skin, nice hair, in-styled clothes, and boyfriends. And you live your years of wrinkles, gray hair, sweat-pants, and marriage. You have to remember the times when you were younger - If you don't have children, it's even harder to. Your husband needs some sort of image to go back to his childhood, or early adulthood, just to comfort himself that he isn't becoming too old! Around your age, you tend to forget those things. He is still faithful to you, don't think he's not. He just needs remembrance of the early bloomers & if you want my advice - Invite your children or grandchildren (if any) over at your house for a weekend, or go out with the family more often. It will keep his mind off of what he's missing, and he'll focus more on what his age group should be doing.

all guys do that. I say it's normal. it's like when you're dating a guy and he watches porn sometimes. it wouldn't bother me.

he's watched porn/looked at pictures of 18-22yr olds since he was 14 or whatever, just because he gets older doesn't mean his choice in good reliable porn changes.

I'm 21 years old and older men are always looking at me. It makes me quite uncomfortable because their old enough to be my father. It upsets me also because I know one day my husband will be looking at girls who are much younger than I am. In no way do I think this means he actaully wants to be with a younger girl, its just the look the younger girl has. I watched a documentary one time and it discussed how men will tend to look at younger girls because they are the most fertile and appealing. Unlike women, men can produce children at any age, and because of that they continue to have that drive to look at girls who would be the best match to carry on their genes(and those girls are usually young since they can produce easier). I don't think men can really help themselves. As long as your pretty in shape, you have nothing to worry about, he loves you, not them. One day all these young girls he is looking at will have their husbands looking at young girls to, the cycle never stops!

No matter how well we age we simply do not look the same as we did in our early 20's. There is a different look that we all have in our 20's and it can be physically attractive and desirable to look at but that is where it ends. Most of us would tire quickly of actually being with someone that much younger. To me this is no different than wondering when you are in your 20's why your man is looking at other women at all. They do it, it is part of their sexuality and not a sign they are unhappy with their partner.

That's what guys do. They don't realize the impact it has on us women though. I struggle with it myself. I don't feel pretty enough or sexy enough. I still don't know how to deal with it. I just know that my boyfriend is going to do it no matter what. It has brought my self esteem to extreme low. It eats at me like a cancer. When I asked him about it, he just says that all guys do it because they enjoy looking at all kinds of beautiful women and that it don't reflect any way on me. I am honestly sick of it. However, if you love him and all he is doing is looking and he isn't and hasn't cheated on you, hang in there. Try talking to him and express the way you feel. If he is open-minded he will be mature about it and reassure you.

What is he thinking of when he looks at these younger women? He's thinking about exactly what you think he is thinking about. I think that it can be healthy (as long as he is just "looking" at them and the women are of age). Men are very sexual and it has nothing to do with you or whether he finds you attractive or sexy (considering you are still keeping yourself up). It is the difference between women and men that has been the same from their teenage years it doesn't just go away as they get older (if anything it may be more intense). They only try harder to conceal it as they get older because they don't want to be looked at as a pervert but they have a healthy interest in sexy women. They all will do it (take a peek) and if that is all that he is displaying, I wouldn't worry about it. I am not saying that any of this behavior is really okay with us but just know that it has nothing to do with you and it doesn't take any of his love away from you.

Just think about it this way, on girls night out we are looking at younger guys while joking around with our friends about what we would do with that. We are only joking but we are not looking at a 60 year old man saying...ooooh, he makes me hot (physically). It's all just a natural process that go thru as we get to the point in life that we may not be able to have what we think we want. Same thing for him, there is no young girls out there thinking about him sexually so it is safer to look at them on the internet without any rejection or criticism. It's safe. Hope this helps! Love & Peace!