Why do some girls just want to be friends, after leading the guy on?

To be cliche, "she's just not into you." If a girl wants to be friends, it's because she doesn't see a romantic connection happening. I'm sure her intent wasn't to 'lead you on', she probably genuinely found you attractive and was open to the possibility of having something with you. But after going on a date or a few, she determined that you two didn't click in that certain way, which is ok. There are 5 billion people on the planet and plenty of options. Just because you felt a certain way didn't mean she felt the same thing. People are entitled to change their minds and do after dating, men and women alike as they have different criteria. That she wanted to be friends at least suggests that she does care about you and want you in her life in some way as opposed to not speaking with you again, so it's not a total rejection. It just means she's not romantically interested anymore.

This is gonna sound like I'm a horrible person but I knew what I was doing when I would lead guys on. I didn't want them to like anyone else! It was about me! When I'd give them attention I'd be their focus. Who doesn't love attention

They don't mean to lead you on, by leading you on they're trying to figure out if they like you or not, and when you ask they've realized they don't like you in that way.

Well some girls just want attentionn... and they like having a lot of guys after them.. but maybe she just wanted to be friends cause sometimes it happens.. like I just want to be friends with guys but they want more.. so it depends..

Hope I helpedd

Hahahaha, "this female". Nice. We change our minds too quickly. You gotta make sure this girl's hooked on for a real thing and not a quickie.

I hate girl's like this I have a friend that's got 6 men going on and each one of them think that she loves them, well I think it's disgusting behavior not just for woman but I've known blokes to do this as well, there is only one guy I will ever lead on at any given time but only in a suttle way of course don't want him thinking I'm desperate for his attention you know ha ha. But I wouldn't do it if I had no attention of following through with my actions.

girls are jerks ! I have a friend who leads on guys and doesn't notice... so yeah some girls are mean and some just don't notice.

like faberfan said, she probably thought you two would better off be friends.
sometimes you find a person appealing at first glance,
then you start to get to know the real them
and realize something that makes you think whether they will be friends or more or nothing at all.
you can't say this hasn't happen to you at some point in life.

Hmmm. Either she honestly just wants to be friends with you and just flirts like this with all of friends or she not sure what she wants from you yet. Maybe she hasn't decided if your the right type of guy for her yet or she really wants you to make the first move.

maybe she likes you too much that if a relationship don't work
shell still want to talk to you

I think, honestly, some women just enjoy the attention. Knowing a guy likes you like that can be invigorating at times. Sorry if we give the wrong vibe from time to time, though :(

Lol she was testing to see if she could get you (I know a lot of girls that do this). I'm guessing that you invested too much interest in her and, as a result, she lost interest in you. Now that she knows you like her, there's a strong possibility that she'll try and string you along. You have to resist her, and move on to the next girl. This could even possibly put you in a better light with her and make her see she's not your only option...girl's love competition.

I have some friends that do this. They're just being friendly.. sometimes flirty friendly. Just don't get the wrong idea unless the girl actually say she's interested in you.

Some girls are like this. It's a sad thing, when any guy or girl does this. But if she's not pursuing anything romantically with you, I'd suggest you just move on. You can keep her as a friend if you want, but she's really not worth holding onto for future romantic interest.

Attention I think.

I had a girl resting her head on my shoulder. She must have done it about 4 times in one night. Then she says a few hours later, (because she "knows" I hate it when people flirt to be mean or flirt when there's no interest) "I haven't flirted with you in a couple of months!"

same thing happened to me a while back. Girl lead me on, got physical, got attached and then boom! OH I want to be just friends, but your my best friend. Complete and total bullsh*t. Just move on man, save yourself some heartache and drop her.

Faberfan said it best - unless you're also interested in her on a friendship level, I'd think it was best to move on.

Maybe she liked you at one point, but realized you'd make better friends, so she tries to spring it on you.

It happens to all of us, females included. Your best bet is probably to reject the friendship, unless of course you are optimistic, then you could accept it and just hope something happens some day.