Why do guys want to be friends with a girl but not date her?

[Nazgol]

Do they actually think it'll work? At some point feelings will arise

[ohshee]

This is a moment in time that we all get the experience who do we want to be how do we want to handle it can you be honest about it that's the whole key right there is being best friends with somebody and being able to look into the eye and say you know what I love you I love you a lot and I know down deep if we were to get together something would happen and it wouldn't work out so I would rather just be friends that's what a true friendship. That's when a bigger better Bond happens it is quite beautiful but it's being honest that's what it's all about

[caring__1]

Some women claim guys can't just be friends with girls, and others question guys who want to nurture a friendship but not a relationship. I am much pickier in choosing a partner than choosing a friend. I can be a friend to most anyone, as everyone has something they can add to any situation. When it comes to relationships, I look for long-term compatibility. If I don't believe both of us see long-term value in an opportunity, I'll pass on it. For instance, I know that many women expect a certain level of disposable income and lifestyle from a guy. I know myself. I have no desire to disappoint anyone, and I have no desire to change what works well for me just to satisfy a woman's expectations. Our expectations of friends tend to be much lower. Primarily, we seek mutual respect and some shared interests. Friendships and relationships are very different. One doesn't automatically become the other.

[joeblow123]

@caring__1

Our friends can be friends with other people besides ourselves and we have no problem with it.

[Azura_88]

Because she's helping him in work, school or college and they're the ambitious or lazy types that's why they prefer someone better.
Or he just wants friends with benefits but won't propose her.
He wants the freedom to flirt with as many woman as possible and not limit himself to one girl. Otherwise who else will puff the fragile ego of lord pompadour?

[Azura_88]

Only in rare cases, the guy will PURELY want to be her friend without expecting favors.

[loves2learn]

I honestly don’t know. Maybe he likes her personality but is not sexually attracted to her?

[Azura_88]

What if he's trying to persuade her to have sex chat without even bothering to propose her? He flirts with others as well but won't let her go?

[loves2learn]

@azura_88 sounds like a playa

[HugoThe2nd]

Not once in my life I have developed feelings for a friend, so I think it's very much safe to do so.
I give a woman two weeks to attract me, if I don't feel anything during that time period, I highly doubt I will ever feel anything for them, ever.

For me, attraction forms very quick, and so does the complete lack of it.
They either click for me, or they will remain forever romantically irrelevant to me.

[ChiTown33]

Lol maybe they foolishly assumed she was more mature than that.
I only date women I'm friends with first. If you can't be my friend you can't be anything else with me. Sorry! It's a trust thing and I'm not just some flabby gut for you women to oogle.

[joeblow123]

I remember reading about a story just like this. The woman was angry that a lot of men she liked were not interested in her. Until one day she asked them about it. She pointed out she has thick facile hair as they do and a penis like they do so she asked them to drop their arrogant attitudes.

[Anonymous]

"at some point feelings will arise" not always, why does everyone assume that every guy want to date/have sex with every girl,

I've had plenty of female friends I have no romantic/sexual interest in,

As for why I'm friends with them? It's because they're fun spontaneous interesting people, we enjoy the same things and have lots in common

[snackthatsmilesback]

Bc guys need friends too?

And no not really. Especially if you date someone else during the friendship then you'd have no reason to look for attraction in the friend if it wasn't there initially.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Cause she's sleeping with him as friends why bother dating her

[spartan55]

No guy wants to do that. I think you have it backwards.

[Nazgol]

How are you so sure? You speak so confidently like you know if that's how all guys are. And no I dont have it backwards. Some do infact just want to be friends and are not interested in dating

[spartan55]

I speak confidently about it because I AM A GUY. DUH. I also know and have known hundreds of guys throughout my life. Not ONE ever wanted to just be friends with a girl. They have been friendzoned but that's different.

[Gwenhwyfar]

The trouble is usually one catches feels but not the other

[jerdanro]

Been there. It sucks

[MrCommodore]

It can work if both people are already in relationships and maintain healthy boundaries.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Yes, why would anyone have friends to do fun activities with.

[RHK36]

Sometimes compatibility stops and doesn't go past friend level. Why would I only be friends with girls that are potential future dates, that's so underhanded.

[Sevenpointfive]

i just like having her around because she's cool. i've had many female friends

[Gosceewual]

i was wondering the same thing about girls, i didn't know guys do this too... i thought it was mostly girls who friendzone guys...

[Gosceewual]

anyway to answer ur question... its probably cos he's not attracted to her

[Still-alive]

It works. Feelings can't be controlled but actions can

[Anonymous]

nah, I have a lot of friends who is girl but never I felt attraction towards them. Some felt though. However, I have strict policy about not dating friends.

[scott04sa22]

I have made friends with them were like that. Those girls sometimes suck

[Shy_Steve]

The same reason you Girls want to be friends with Guys and not date them.

[SamFromFL]

If he friendszones you then you aren’t a sexual option for him

[Bklynbadboy12]

Thats cause most girl there friends with their already fuckin so why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free

[machismo69]

I've wanted to date the girl I had been friends with.

[Shihab91]

they think she has a boyfriend... or they want to start it as friendship to see where it goes

[joeblow123]

@shihab91

If she has a boyfriend get out of there. If there is a boyfriend or husband in the picture get your ass out of there. A lot of guys may go to violent extremes if they get jealous.

[Hotboy_booblover]

Yes true.. I can't stop feeling horny with any girl.. sad I m not able to make friends with girls bcoz I always intend to take them to bed

[joeblow123]

@Hotboy_booblover

Go to youtube and search for pick-up artist videos. That should help you out.

[JesseJayNeak]

The danger of rejection still lurks in that possibility

[Zygum]

Testing for friendship

[BUNroaster]

Arise! My penis!

[jaeminshypewoman]

why not?

[AhmetMiraç]

I don't know 🤦