I am currently living with my boyfriend in the basement of his parent's house for a year now. Our relationship has always been on and off before this happened. He used to physically abuse me to the point where I had to go to the hospital. He has a anger management problem for sure and when he saw that I was hurt he felt bad and stopped hitting me. He still emotionally abuses though. By name-calling, rude comments, and putting me down. Every time I talk or try and get close to him he always kisses his teeth or slams an object. I'm very scared to talk to him and to especially about breaking up. It's like I'm walking on eggshells. I work full-time and I'm doing a program in high school to get out of school. I have to be home for lunch, make sure I call on my break, and go home right away. I can't even go out and left all my friends behind because my boyfriend did not approve of them. I feel so controlled. He demands me to do things for him, when I do it wrong (because I'm so clumsy) he yells, and amazingly I try and correct myself. I'm in my late teens. I should be having fun but instead I'm miserable. Oh yeah, I might be having his baby. I don't want to keep it or let him know because he would want to keep it and this relationship. I plan on moving out while he's at work so he doesn't get violent and crazy. I'm scared he would come to my school or my work since it's so close to his house. That's another problem, if I leave I might have to throw away my education and job. SO CONFUSED! I've been thinking about this for months.
Wow! If you are that miserable, you need to get out of dodge and don't look back at all! You should never be scared of another human being especially your boyfriend-sounds like a pussy to me! No reason for him to ever put his hands on you-at all. If he's that much of a man why doesn't he go out to a bar and fight a man that is a complete stranger rather than lay hands on you-just a punk that does those things to you because he's not capable to do it to anyone else. Don't hesitate to get the police department to help you by escorting you to gather your belongings-they won't allow him to hit you. Than if necessary get a restraining order on him for your own personal safety.
Wow hun, you need to get out of there ASAP. NO ONE deserves to go through that. Life is too short to have that happen to you. You need to go move in with a friend, or family or anyone that you can hun, even if temporarily. I would let people at your school and work know what is going on, so if he does come to your work, you can have them call the cops. I'd even put a restraining order on him to make sure he stays away. That way, if he comes within the distance of the restraining order, he can be put in jail.
Omg! You know what. Leave. I am dating a guy right now that is really controlling too. Not like your boyfriend but yells at me as well when I don't do something the right way. Calls me an idiot and blah blah. I own my own company and I am graduating from college in a couple months. I am not the idiot he calls me. I don't think that once a relationship goes to this type of extreme that it can ever be good again. Don't be a dumb girl and get out.
I live with my boyfriend to and although I kind of stopped talking to my friends they are there for me. I am moving out May 1st. There are many grants and student loans available that you can do it on your own. Talk to your parents and just call your friends. Develop a plan and stick to it. It won't get better. Just take a breather and some time away and know that you do have the strength to do this. Do not have his baby either if you are pregnant. You don't even have a college degree and you are living in his parents basement and this guy is a total ass to you. How much of a life will this child have? Just gather some courage and leave
As scary as it is, you should definitely go to the police. You are too young to be dealing with such things, in fact, no matter what age you are no one should ever have to deal with an abusive and controlling relationship. The situation is not a joke or anything to be taken lightly. Go to the police. Get a restraining order. Something, anything other than leaving and letting him come after you.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
I would wear a nice shirt,with a good pair of jeans,with my favourite sneakers,I would start the night out at some place chilled where we could get drinks,and get to know each other,then hit a karaoke bar,have a good time, stay till we get kicked out,and then I would drive her home,walk her to the door ,thank her for the night and give her a goodnight kiss
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
She will learn that,I can't sing lol,but I do like to make people laugh and have a good time.and although I may seem playfull,I can be very mature and gentlemen like (:
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