Moving in with my boyfriend, any advice?

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Advice on how to make it work and not get on each other's fucking nerves.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I found a dog shock collar works great, the kind that shocks if he says anything.

Kidding of course, communication is the key. Sooner or later (if you haven't already) you'll find each others 'buttons' that really set things off, just don't intentionally go for them and hope he doesn't either.

My experiences have been when he finds those things that set me off, cause almost nothing does... he likes to push them a lot over and over, just to see what happens. At least it feels that way.

My man is moving in this weekend though, after my first two boyfriend's that I lived with said I'd never live with another boyfriend again but since we are engaged, he is more than a boyfriend now.

Also I suggest dedicating You time (for both of you) so you can do whatever you want, read a book, play a game, but also make sure not to ignore each other, still have time to talk and do other things.

I already told my man, I do not want to be disturbed right after work, unless he wants to hear me vent, but I'll make time to give him attention and we can talk and stuff.

menina · Accepted Answer

Congratulations girl!!  You need to be patient and sometimes you'll have to give in if you want to avoid arguments. But I guess you already know that...

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

None.
Getting on each others nerves is inevitable. Neither of you will get much alone time anymore and you'll be around each other all the time. One of you may not be neat and bother the one who is more neat. One will move things and the other will be running around all the time saying "where is my such and such". One may be a sleep cuddler the other doesn't like it. You'll be sharing a bathroom. It is inevitable that you will get on each others nerves.

How you each respond to it, deal with it and communicate to the other person is the only thing you can address.

motownplayer2000 · Accepted Answer

Lol. That’s life.. no matter if you had just roommates…. You will get on each other’s nerves.. only difference with your arrangement. You can leave without consequences. If you were married, you have to go through a ton of red tape.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Talk about whos paying for what and sort out which chores each of you will do.

Mangospacho · Answer

Whoa. Isn’t he long distance though? Is he moving closer to you or are you moving closer to him?

RealMarek · Answer

Treat each other with respect. Remember why you are together. Don’t argue about irrelevant things like how to squeeze the toothpaste tube.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

That’s a hard adjustment. Just be patient and talk everything out. You two are now invading each other’s spaces and that will be an adjustment

InvoluntaryCelibate9 · Answer

I don't know, that's gonna be hard, I have no experience in this so I can't really say, But like still-alive said. Try to establish boundaries

Iron_Man · Answer

Get your own car and get a full-time job that will help a lot

Still-alive · Answer

Try to establish boundaries if you haven’t already. Set times to be away from each other from time to time. Also plan things to do together to spice things up or keep it fresh.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Maybe find his love language or whatever it is called

SlothySlob · Answer

YanDev made a phone version?

Xtendable · Answer

Be respectful and remember why you’re doing it

noohair · Answer

Too young.

Moving in with my boyfriend, any advice?

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