Have noticed this my entire life. Is it racism? Or an unspoken expectation within Asian families. Or is it more openly discussed?
Why are Asian women (excluding Filipino) Chinese, Japanese, Korean, etc usually against dating black men?
What Girls Said 17
So instead of bashing on your question. I'll answer with what I think. It's a combination of both combined with how society affects judgement. I've always seen Asian families really weary of breeding outside of the race in general. Even among st other kinds of Asian nationalities. FOR EXAMPLE. I am half Laotian and half Vietnamese. My dad is Vietnamese and my mom is Laotian. When I started my first year of college he gave me 'The Dating Talk'. Word for word he said: Find yourself a nice Vietnamese boy. Don't go dating those Laos guys. They're bad.
I snitched on him to my mom.1
they're not against it, it's just they're more comfortable with their own nationality where they can communicate with their partner instead of struggling with the language.
you're from the US, so imagine a 24 or 25 year old Chinese woman going to the US. a place she knows nothing about and it's easier for her to find familiarity with another Chinese man..
also, as a part Korean, Chinese and Japanese person, i can say that they really care about blood purity. Chinese, Korean, and Japanese people don't really like the idea of halfies i guess. my mum is like 1/4 Japanese and 1/4 Korean and 1/2 Chinese whilst my dad is 1/2 Korean and 1/4 Chinese, 1/4 Japanese (my maternal grandmother is 1/2 Japanese, 1/2 Korean whilst my maternal grandfather is Chinese) so people like us are shunned upon. we are mixed blooded as they would say.
although those ideas are fading away, it was really serious years ago.
i know that they're also against adoption and stuff because you don't share the same blood line and stuff...
it's sort of complicated... but i think it's because they care about the purity i guess and also it's easier to relate to the person from your own nationality..0
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are u sure about dis qst
are u really sure
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Well Asian culture still revolves around what would affect as a whole, not as individuals. I don't think they would like to be ridiculed by their surrounding peers. Black skin isn't exactly seen as desirable first hand. And they can be nitnicky about their choices.0
That's not true. Three of my friends in hong kong are married black men and they love their hus :) i know old Korean and Japanese think black men are dangerous due to the media though =/ but younger generations are different1
It's questions like these that made me ask this question
Some of my girl friends and I date black men tho0
Well forget those certain asians. I like the ones who want to create more beautiful Blasian babies
Some guy said a similar thing the other day on here. I think this whole black guy divide is an American thing to be honest, most girls in England find black and mixed black guys attractive. I was seeing a black guy while I was in LA ( and I'm a type of Asian just not any you've mentioned) but I felt a bit intimidated by his girl mates because they made me feel I shouldn't be going out with a black guy. I never thought it was an American thing until I went on holiday there and ended up sort of dating a guy from the states0
What Guys Said 12
Out of all the answers given, I'm surprise nobody told the truth. Probably because it's harsh, and of course nobody wants to make others or themselves look bad. But I'll be honest about the reason why.
-Dark skin is viewed as ugly and low status by Asians.
-As COCOCHANEL said, it's about image. In the words of my Korean friend "Asian girls are very aware of their image and status." Which leads to...
-Racial status. They "won't date down."
-In the words of my Chinese friend "Asian girls who date Black tend to rebel their culture in general."
-White colonialism led to respect admiration (Racial status).
Addressing comments regarding "preference." "Individual race preference", and "race preference trends" are two different phenomena's. I don't want to sugar coat it, if you're looking to date Asian you have an uphill battle ahead of you.2
I think there is a bit of racism and stereotyping going on. Unfortunately, races, or any group of people in general, are judged by their portrayal in media. Stereotypes associated with Black men are usually not positive so that basically explains it. This shouldn't discourage you though. Unless they're EXTREMELY closed off mentally, you can make them overlook the stereotypes and have them judge you based on your individual qualities. As a Hispanic, there are mainly negative stereotypes that people are inclined to associate with me but as soon as they get to know me the negative stereotypes dissolved.0
Generally speaking, A black man is not exactly the type of thing perceived by an average Asian girl as responsible, trust-worthy, presentable, romantically handy, etc... someone said this perception has to do with the image blacks themselves have portrayed to the world within the past 30 years. True, especially for Asian girls between 23 and 32 years and some older ones without 'non-asian experience'. Individually speaking, 'reaction to perception', manner of approach, mood of the girl, her level of exposure and past experiences can determine if an Asian woman discards her snobbish tendencies for an encounter with a black man.
However, there are other sides to this coin:
1. Asian girls have fantasies beyond being with a nice romantic cissy white/asian guy. Sometimes in their minds are ravished, man-handled, by male from a world apart, etc...
I'm black and got at least 135 Asian girls (mostly Chinese, few Koreans, Khazaks, Mongolian, Malaysian, Sing, 1 ) in the past 7 years. As I recall, most of them either had a cold feet the first time they saw me, they almost never know how to react to my calm presence, something like that. I have the kind of look that captures and scares women at first, but mostly comes to their fantasies later, and they try to see me again. I don't know exactly why, just something natural about women I guess. Societal norms do not define their every tendency.
2. I have experienced the positive sides of this 'black-hater' trend in Asian modern materialistic societies. As a black man, if 1 Asian girl likes/loves you for whatever reason. It's not for money/wealth, not for blue/green eyes, not for a foreign passport or a future in a 'better-off country', not for a mixed white baby, not to show off to her friends or colleagues, not to satisfy society; But love in its raw natural state without logical reasoning. This kind of love from an Asian girl is a wonderful thing as I have experienced. I doubt men from other races had the privilege.0
@theperfectdater It's pretty obvious that @Cocochanel is attracted to Asian men and this is her preference. What's the big deal?
The reason why a lot of Asian women specifically don't date black men is because, as someone has already mentioned, white men are seen as the top dogs - due to media, film, history etc. So either they'll go with their own race (Asian) or they want the top dog (White men). Every other race is seen as inferior to those two. It's racist, yeah. But that's the world we live in, it's not fair.0
Because black men are terribly represented by the media. You're either an athlete, musician, entertainer; or; a criminal, drug dealer, drug addict, or gangster.
And yes, most Asian families would prefer their children marry inside their race. It makes it easier for them to still connect with their grandchildren.2
There's nothing you can do about it man. Everyone is not going to want to date you. I'm currently dating a japanese woman, and Im her first black boyfriend. Don't sweat it so much. In my experiences, its mostly SOME asian- americans who dont date black guys. They can do whatever they want. Its their life.1
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you are totally wrong dude , a lot japanese female tourists here hunting for dark tanned men ( i life in bali-indonesia) ;p.0
it's you, not your race, sorry to bear the bad news0
Bruh in Asia they have this fucked up obsession with looking as white as possible. I'll say no more.2
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