My mom says I should break it off and become just friends with my boyfriend who is a private in the army. But I'm not shallow, and do you think it is easy to get married to a rich guy? I really like my boyfriend, he is kind, sensitive, protective and funny. I'm not even flying a B747 yet and I am just going for my private pilot license in a small aircraft. No idea why she thinks I am entitled to rich, 6 ft+, young men. What can I tell her without pissing her off that I'm not a gold digger she wants me to be?
Who knows, maybe 10 years later, I may be a first officer of a B747 and my boyfriend would rise to be a lieutenant? Of course, people don't start out flying B747 straight away in theie training just like soldiers don't start out as General straight away.
She says he is getting low pay at the moment as a private, which I don't even care about.
I'd consider what your mom sees in your boyfriend before you assume she wants you to be a gold digger. I'm not sure how well your mom knows your boyfriend, but I can guess not too well. She probably imagines that you dating a private in the army means he will be away for long periods of time and won't be able to support you/be a stable boyfriend. I'd just tell your mom how much you like your boyfriend and that wealth doesn't matter to you, she'll get the idea.
Well, tell her exactly that. Tell her that you aren't a gold digger, that you have respect for yourself, and that you like your boyfriend the way he is. Also, don't tell your boyfriend if you haven't already, it could lead to problems between he and your mother.
Marry who you want, but for crying out loud, give it a few more years. You're still too young for it.
It is unlikely anyone in the military will ever make much money and your mother is basically just trying to advocate that you get the social and financial security. Which is understandable but certainly not her choice.
Rich people tend to have very high standards for people who aren't also rich. Rich, nice, 6'+ and handsome, you're better off asking for a pet unicorn.
Sorry but your mom sounds like a monster. Just tell her to buzz off it's your love life not hers.
And yeah marrying rich is kind of hard. Money likes to stay with money. As in most rich guys also still want another rich person for their partner. To build their wealth more and to avoid gold diggers.
My mum is Asian (Cambodian) and she has told me the same thing. She rather me be single and get married to a rich man. The thing is she wants my future partner to be able to take care of any financial situations to live a happy, carefree life. She is very traditional, but she simply can't think that way anymore. Every time she has told me that, I tell her "Mum, I'll be happy with knowing that I love someone for them and not there money. I'm pretty sure whom ever I marry will take care of me" and she hasn't said anything. She knows I'm in a relationship with my current boyfriend. She accepts it for what it is.
Normally parents who say this just want you to live a happy, carefree life (not like how they did) and she is looking out for you. But what I figured out is that my mother doesn't know how love works anymore.
I'm in the same situation. I understand my mother's perspective because she wants me to have a financially stable future, but we love who we love for a reason. And I'd much rather get married to a person's soul than their wallet.
I've never seriously discussed this with my parents, but god... I hope I would never be put in such a situation! I do think that my Mom wants me to marry someone who can financially support my future family but I don't know if she wants him to be rich af :/ I think you should follow your heart on this one... I mean, your boyfriend might not be Bill Gates' son but he has a job, he's not homeless or unemployed.
I am going to throw some gasoline to this fire. And I don't wish to argue with you. I don't care who you marry. Rich poor tall short who cares. But I will tell you one thing at age 19 you are too young to make a decision on who you're going to be with the rest of your life. Now everyone is going to come in and say that's not true that's because everybody age 19 thinks they're very mature. Everybody needs time to grow and you are no exception. The mistake is not rich or poor state is when you make the decision