Okay, I've been dating a guy on my course at University for about 3 weeks now; we get on really well and have a lot of fun together. Recently he asked me: "so, are we exclusive?" to which I replied, "I guess so, I don't have a problem dating you exclusively and nobody else." He even said he was comfortable to changing his facebook status to "In a relationship."
This confused me, as it was far too soon. Apparently he thinks girls like to change their statuses and stuff; not me, I'd only split up with my boyfriend a month ago and he'd split up with his ex of 5 years, about 9 months ago.
Anyway, I'm more than happy to date him exclusively but my problem is, is that he NEVER TEXTS ME. I know he's not much of a texter but the occasional "hey how are you." wouldn't kill him. There's rarely communication between us when we're apart and I hate it. I'm too stubbon to text him because it will just turn into a habit.
I went home from University for a weekend, and as I left his the night before, he said to me: "drops us a text or something over the weekend." And I refuse to, until he talks to me. Even when he's online on Facebook he doesn't talk to me and I know he plays on his xbox most of the time.
This guy has been in a relationship for 5 years and I can't imagine it was just his ex texting him all the time. texting is a key part of communication and if he can't be bothered despite him wanting an "exclusive relationship" then why should I waste my time.
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"texting is a key part of communication"...really, is this what we as a generation has come to as a key part of communicating...what ever happened to phone calls, actually TALKING rather than having time to think before you text...anyways lets get to your question or issue you're having. Going out of your way isn't an issue, you can say hey what's up just as much as he can. why not try calling and seeing how he is, people are busy...dont rush this, you said its not what you want to do right...so take things slow. IF it really bothers you then talk to him, in person. in person communication is way more important than texting or phone conversations...
dont over analyze or think about that kind of stuff...hope this helps0