My mom banned me from seeing my boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

my mom banned me from seeing my boyfriend because the way he dresses is that fair?

[shadowcat517]

Well, if I walked into the house with a guy that had on skinny jeans and eyeliner, my parents would have my eyes and head examined, regardless if he's really a good person or not. And, yeah, I'm with the guys here. You're under 18. Once you go to college/move out/whatever, date whomever you want. If you have to get your mom's permission to date a guy, then she has the right to prevent you from dating him. Yeah, it sucks, and yeah, he's probably awesome, but unless you can convince her that he's awesome, it's probably final.

Think about it this way: If you had a daughter and she walked in with a guy that looked like crap, would you be entirely happy about it? Be honest, you probably wouldn't. In your mother's defense, you probably could have warned her first while explaining why you like him before meets her in guyliner and skinny jeans. She was probably predicting a typical guy with semi-messy hair, men's jeans, and a t-shirt.

[Asker]

Shes know him for years but just as my friend

[shadowcat517]

Oh... Well, then, that's a bit of a different story. She might be being a bit unfair, then. Is there something else that she doesn't like about him? Or has she always had a problem with the way he's dressed but never said anything because she never thought you guys would go out?

[Asker]

She says it is is age he's 18 and I'm 16 but her and my dad are 4yrs apart the started going out when she was a freshman and him a senior

[mntnre3]

Well if he's 18 and your 16 she is actually looking out for him considering you are an adult aand you are a minor. If anything happened between you he could go to jail and then have to register as a sex offender when he got out ruining the rest of his life.

[shadowcat517]

Yeah, the age thing makes sense. Once you get past 18, it doesn't matter as much.

[Heelee5]

I think you need to try and talk to your mum, Because at the end of the day she is still your mum and that's not gonna change. You need to have a big talk with her and say that you want to talk to her and have a positive relationship with her but you can't do that until you both agree to get on. Tell her how you feel when she says horrible things about your boyfriend and say that you can make your own choices and you don't care what she thinks. If worse comes to worse make some sort of agreement that as long as you two are getting on you won't talk about your boyfriend or mention him at all. Just as long as you tell her how you feel and that you won't stop seeing him just because she disapproves.

[Asker]

Tried and failed at that approach....she refuses to drop the subject....i hate going home to her house all of last month I stayed 1 week..i didn't say a word to her

[Anonymous]

I don't think that is fair at all. Your mom is probably more worried about you growing up before she is ready for it than she is about his clothes. Maybe sitting down and having a calm conversation with her about why you are ready for a boyfriend and how beneath the clothes this guy is really great. Good luck!

[Asker]

I tried that she says I can't see him beacuse the way he dresses scares her

[mntnre3]

If you're under 18 yes it is fair. Your mom has the responsibility of doing what is best for you and if she thinks that your boyfriend isn't good for you because of the way he dresses then she has every right to ban you from seeing him. I know its not what you wanna hear but its the truth...

[Asker]

But she didn't even give him a chance for her to get to know him,,,i have know I'm for years and she was fine with it know that were dating there's an issue.

[mntnre3]

Yes that is an issue also. However, with my kids, if they started dating someone that looked like they were not the best for them I too would ban them from seeing them. I would first ban them from seeing someone four years older though...

[Asker]

Hes only two years older tho..i guess I can see him at school and when she's working

[mntnre3]

Misread your first comment sorry. Did she never meet him before that she didn't get to know him?

[Asker]

Yea she did but they didn't really talk she was fine with me hanging out wih him untill noe

[mntnre3]

That is strange that she would just change her mind like that. Have you tried to talk to her about it?

[Asker]

She won't listen to me if I say his name...b4 all this she even let him stay in my room and sleep over a few times now I can't even see him

[mntnre3]

Sounds to me like there is something more going on then just how he dresses...

[Asker]

I have no idea what it could be tho

[Kotten]

I don't like the way he looks, but your mom shouldnt by just "banning" him just because he dresses funny, its not a valid argument IMO.

[Asker]

I know...but she said he's a bad influence

[Kotten]

Hmm, bad influence? what kind of influence does she think he will have on you? make you dress funny as well?

hmmm, you could ask him to try and dress "normal" or in a way that your mother would approve of, when she's near by. Its completely ridiculous, I know. Then again if he loves you, then he wouldn't mind changing the way he dresses, to get to see you.

again, its ridiculous, but you should try.

[Asker]

I did and he said he will

[AKA_Kiwi]

No you shouldn't judge someone on how they dress because that's not what makes a person is there something else that bothers her about him some times moms knows best so how does he dress if you don't mind me asking ? And maybe you should sit down and talk to your mother and ask her and tell her how you feel

[Asker]

He wears skinny jeans and eyeliner so I guess it scares her

[JeVousAime]

No, that is not fair!

Everyone has the right to wear what they want.

(Well.. there are limitations. :P)

I think that your mum is possibly covering for another reason?

Maybe she doesn't want you to have a boyfriend.

[Asker]

Yea that could be it..im 16 tho I'm bond to have a boyfriend at some point..she says the way he dresses scares her

[JeVousAime]

Be the better person and explain to her that he's a lovely person on the inside, and that you shouldn't judge people on their external appearance!

[Asker]

Ill try thnxs

[Anonymous]

everyone has a right to wear what they want but it seems like that's not the only reason your mom would ban you from seeing him.

[anabur]

it's only fair if he wears ICP shirts

[Asker]

Idk what type of shirts thoes sre

[anabur]

ICP.....Insane Clown Posse.

[ILoveElectroHouse]

i wanna see the pic the link dosnt show the pics

[Asker]

Try now

[ILoveElectroHouse]

Where's the link? it's not there?

[Asker]

https://www.girlsaskguys.com/user/wanttobeblond1013#pictures

[ILoveElectroHouse]

your mom should not ban you from seeing him

[Anonymous]

Stop dating a crossdresser then!

[Asker]

He isn't a crossdresser..well he does barrow my skinny jeans some time sience were the same size

[Opinion Owner]

Weird. date a guy with some size to him!