They have a great personality but just looking at the person you just aren't attracted to them physically so you reject the person. Shallow or no? Why or why wouldn't you think so?
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Yes and no.
I think that sexual attraction is important. If you aren't sexually attracted to someone, it's not going to work. But I find that sexual attraction and aesthetic attractiveness don't always match up (more common for women than men, men are more visual). I don't think it's shallow to reject someone where there is no sexual attraction.
However, sometimes sexual attraction can grow. I think that if someone rejects another purely based on appearance, despite knowing what a great person they are and so on - yes, they're being a bit shallow. But preferences aren't shallow. Requirements can be. I don't think being shallow is necessarily bad - I think most people are to some degree or another.
The danger comes only when people put shallow traits (money, looks, status, etc) before personality and the person themselves.3
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