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I've always have been and always will be a personality person. I find, even if I didn't originally think the guy was attractive, the more I get to know them the more attractive they become to me. That has never changed. And I know for a fact that men have felt that way about me.
There have been guys who had great personalities, but the chemistry just wasn't there. I don't think it has anything to do with what they look like, but more to do with incompatibility.
My definition of shallowness has more to do with allowing the opinion of others to dictate who you decide to be with. If a person goes against their heart because they fear the judgment of others - well, that's shallow. Attractiveness is subjective - we all have different ideas of what makes our heart beat faster. If the only reason not to be with someone was because their looks didn't match society's idea of what was appealing, then in my opinion, they are being shallow.
But if you're not attracted to them despite their great personality - that's preference.
Yes and No
I agree with pretty much all the other answers. If the personality is good, then that's awesome! But even though some people pretend that looks aren't important, they, in fact, are! I mean, if you thought this person was hilarious and cool to be around, but say he/she looked like a pig... would you really want to make out with a pig? The physical attractiveness [unfortunately] is an important role in a committed relationship. A person wants to feel comfortable having sex with a certain someone that they really do have a physical attractiveness to. It is shallow because that's what the world or to some, our parents and role models, have made it out to be. But the underlying factor, the truth, is that you still gave them a chance for friendship. But that's all you can see them as because you don't feel that physical attraction... I don't know if I made that hard to understand [sorry if I did] but that's about it. My opinion is yes and no.
Yes and no.
I think that sexual attraction is important. If you aren't sexually attracted to someone, it's not going to work. But I find that sexual attraction and aesthetic attractiveness don't always match up (more common for women than men, men are more visual). I don't think it's shallow to reject someone where there is no sexual attraction.
However, sometimes sexual attraction can grow. I think that if someone rejects another purely based on appearance, despite knowing what a great person they are and so on - yes, they're being a bit shallow. But preferences aren't shallow. Requirements can be. I don't think being shallow is necessarily bad - I think most people are to some degree or another.
The danger comes only when people put shallow traits (money, looks, status, etc) before personality and the person themselves.
Yes and no. Believe it or not, I believe everyone is shallow, just to what extent and percentage of shallow.
Take this for example, Say there is a guy?girl who has the personality you always dreamed off, but looks completely unattractive to you, like you can't stand looking at their face. How could you date someone you can't stand to look at for more then a minute? Even if you tried to dating him/her, you would be lying to him/her and yourself. It would give them false hope and faking love for them.
There is different versions of shallow, the normal, the decent amount, the up tight shallow,etc.
I know a girl who is a bit on the heavy side but demands and will only accept a guy if he's skinny/ripped. It might just be her preference but at the same time, not being lenient is what determines your shallowness. Meaning not bending some rules for the sake of reality.
Dream guys/girls are not born and just automatically destined to be with a harry or Lisa. You realize you have your dream lover when you finally open your eyes.
Don`t see it so much static, more dynamic. (dialectic) Concrete: It`s dependant to which time it happen(ed). If it will happen by the first date, that`s one thing, another if it will happen later.
If it will happen later, then it`s only a part of the totality. Totality means in this case, that there are still other reason like behavior , acting, character, feelings etc.
If it will happen by the first date, then we must accept such. We all have a special imago in our head. We are dependant from this imago if we take our feelings serious. We can`t see a relationship only with the eyes of moral.
Moral is something for to adore anyone, but crave for (desire) has mostly the first place. Desire is much dependant from the appearance. To this belongs not only the form and size of the face and body, also the mimic, the gestures, the timbre, the sound of your voice and how you speak. (quick or slowly, long sentances or short one, with attributes etc.) First this bunch/boquet makes your appearance.
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Shallow shouldn't mean 'cares about physical attraction'.
'Shallow' should mean 'only considers one factor, and not the person in depth'.
If you _only_ care that someone is pretty, or rich, or popular, or give bj on request, or has a good car, and don't care about the rest of them as a person, that would be shallow.
Wanting someone you connect with on many levels is not shallow.
A guy who isn't very attractive and has a great personality..is a friend, and nothing more. The guys I've dated have been average looking guys with great personalities and personality does make someone more attractive, but that's if you already thought they were at least somewhat attractive to begin with. There's some people who just do it for you no matter how great their personality is. I don't think its shallow, its just how it is and no one here can they never turned someone down because of their looks. There's also the other side, a really good looking guy with a not so hot personality can make him look less attractive, but if you have neither personality or looks, good luck! I think people say things to not make themselves not look "shallow" but its the way it is for a lot of people.
I don't think it's shallow. Attraction is important in a relationship, physical or otherwise. If you're not attracted to them, how are you supposed to enjoy the physical parts of your relationship?
This isn't about always dating a "10" by any means. Personally, I "see inner beauty" and I'm attracted to people's personalities after I get to know them. That way, it's better for me to date friends and people I've known a while. They aren't perfect looking, but I think they are. :)
that's not shallow. you aren't going to be totally happy being with the person if you're not physically attracted to them. honestly it goes hand in hand personality & physical appearance. unless you can look past it.. but it's not shallow. :p it's human nature to like what you like & not like what you don't. haha.
If the person is physically unattractive to them even after they get to know them, and the person who is unattractive asks them on a date and the person says "yes" I think that would be worse because they already know they are not interested in the person romantically.
I voted "no" because you said they have a great personality implying that the person knows them. Sexual stimulation has to be there.
Yes, I believe it's shallow. I've read the other answers and it seems that even if the personality is great, if the looks are not on par then you can't be more than friends.
My boyfriend is not that attractive. He's certainly not ugly, but he's not a handsome or attractive guy either. My exes were better looking. However, I love him as a person and he has an amazing personality, and I would never throw that away just because he's chubby and average looking.
In a way. If you reject someone because they aren't the most beautiful or they aren't exactly your type then yes it is very shallow. We need to give people chances to prove that they are more that just looks. Sometimes we run across people that we can't even look at because the way they look is so odd to us...that would not be shallow. You have to be able to at least look at the person you are with. There will be someone out there for them that thinks they are pretty
Great personality and bad looks will get that person frienzoned real quick!
They may find them funny, interesting, cool, wanting to hang out with them.. but if they'll try to flirt to them they'll be grossed out!
For a relationship there need to have it all! Need to have it all!
Nobody wants to have sex with someone they have no desire to touch or to be intimate with!
To each their own, but yeah, I think it's shallow. So much emphasis is placed on looks alone these days, people can overlook the person underneath. I don't care who says what, but I've said it, and I'll say it until I draw my last breath. Looks don't define who you are.
the way you said it seems a bit harsh and yes that would be shallow, but you could be not attracted to someone.
It IS shallow, those that say it isn't just say it to feel better about themselves.
IT IS shallow, you are rejecting someone BECAUSE OF A GENETIC LOTTERY basically for something had NO SAY IN WHATSOEVER, unless I missed the program installation of "modify your appearance to look however the fuck you want" ability, if that is the case then I would greatly appreciate if someone can send me the program. If this is not shallow, then at least it is THE DEFINITION of unfair.
Now, this is not the question you want to ask. The question you want to ask if it is ACCEPTABLE and YES IT IS!
So it is shallow, but at the same time being something we have no fault in, is acceptable. However, do not be confused it is NOT nice by any stretch of the imagination.
Yes it's shallow but over time I learned to accept it as fact, that people rejected me because I'm unattractive. But someone looked past that and realized I was nice to her and that was probably more important.
i said it depends. I've got to be attracted to the person for it to work. it may be shallow. but that unattractive person will find the one theyre suppose to be with. and its not me.
Not really, while personality is the core of attraction, you have to also be physically and emotionally attracted to a person to stay together. If you just are attracted intellectually then you are friends.
It's shallow. Anything based upon appearances is a shallow reason.
As long as you like them fo rthem I'm sure you will devlop a liking for them.
VERY shallow, and the person rejecting has a lot of what my Jewish friends call Chutzpah for being that way.
i'm surprised on what the girls voted
It should be shallow but I actually do it
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