Snooping. Forgivable or deal breaker?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever looked through your s/o's things? Checked their email? Spied on their facebook/myspace? Gone through their desk drawers? Checked their computer history? What made you do it? Is it forgivable or a deal breaker for you?

[NiLauRoRa]

I definately don't think its a deal breaker at all

I have nothing to hide. If I tell you you are my everything then you really are my everything. end of story. No secrets, nothing in the dark.

And for what really, The only people who keep things in the dark are the ones who don't have control of their body or their mind because if they have to keep it in the dark that means they're not proud of it.

I don't snoop, never have. I always think your s/o should be totally honest. It'd be nice to know who you're dating. I always let them know there's no need to hide things from me.

Shit I have b/f's telling me all their stories and letting me know when they saw porn and stuff cause I completely understand these things and there's no reason to hide it from me. Hell I'm not gonna judge, I'm not god or something. But the honesty is worth it.

Also if my boyfriend were to find something and he would take it the wrong way, I would explain myself as honestly as I could and if he doenst want to believe me that's his problem. Maybe he's just with the wrong person. You can never go wrong with honesty.

So yes I let my s/o snoop. it makes him feel better and eventually he stops feeling weird about anything that made him feel weird enough to snoop and gives me complete trust :D

[Shlei3]

Yes I admit I have done that before. I did it because at the time I wasn't very self assured and was afraid my boyfriend was cheating on me. This is not a way to act. If he ever did it to me I would just laugh and say, "Do you feel better?" I have nothing to hide.

[neberle]

Not a deal breaker if you snoop you may just find something on me to I don't cheat but I do want porn on occation and something about me always gets me caught afterwords someone always finds it. Oh well so people think I'm a porn addict big deal. There usually more pissed at what they find than me that they found it. On the other hand I find in anoying when people downright snoop through my shit and then complain if I ask them questions about how they spend there time. So let me get this strait you don't want me to ask what you do with your time when you åre away but you want to go through my computer phone and everything else you can think of a? It's forgivable but a pain in the ass and just makes me loose trust.

[WaitingAtTheDoor]

I would only do this if I had good reason to believe my partner was involved in something criminal. Additionally, they would have to be living with me. If they lived in their own place, I would not do any checking up.

For me, it's a deal breaker. There is no reason not to trust me, I'm not involved in criminal activity, because I have everything to lose if I was, and further I don't do anything that is sneaky or mysterious. I am readable after a few meetings. I would definitely end my relationship with someone who rummaged through my personal affairs without my knowledge.

[Da-Boss]

Nah. I don't snoop. And if I caught a girl I was with snooping, I would end it right then in there. Catching something by accident like a text message or a phone call isn't snooping to me. But deliberately looking for something just shows you are untrustworthy and not worth being with.

And if you do snoop on me, you won't find anything. I don't cheat. If I find someone better than you, I'll leave you. Simple as that.

[nesterhaus]

I would not dig a chick doing that with me. I have been cheated on before and even after the fact with other girls I have not had any interest in snooping. Either I trust them or I do not. It would possibly be a deal breaker to have someone do something like that as I need to be trusted as much as I trust. Have fun.

BC

[wally]

everyone has a past , there's no way who can change that . but what we can do is try to stay close to the person that we care about just to make sure there's nothing going on ,

[secretsmiles]

deal breaker! if anyone did that to me I would be totally creeped out!