Do you regret treating someone badly?

[Anonymous]

like in your immature days, you were mean to someone and they did not deserve it? especially in the love category. I liked this guy and he would pretend to like me too but then later started being mean to me and being cold/rude. I lost a lot of respect for him but I wonder if he ever feels bad? especially since we went to school together for years and had on/off flirting moments.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I regret hurting someone so many years ago. I did what I did with good intentions thugh. I thought if I could shut him off, I will stop him from getting too attached to me. I thought it was for his best interest. I think I was a bit harsh though. He couldn't understand me.

The story is about a guy who was a friend of mine in college back in the days. He was a good person, treated me with respect, was very kind with me, etc...but the problem was that I didn't feel anything for him except being just a good friend of his. We weren't compatible and I felt that he was getting attached to me.

Whenever he tried to flirt, I would shut him off. He didn't understand why, but I did so because I didn't want him to break his heart later on. I wanted the best for him. He never asked me out or said anything bluntly, but I knew he liked me.

I treated him well except when he tried to flirt. That's all. Oneday he approached me and said "Don't be mean and coldhearted, or else people won't like your company". At that time, I didn't reply because I knew he didn't understand why I was a bit mean to him.

I'm not a mean person at all, but I'm not easy to understand. Sometimes I seem coldhearted just to help others or save someone else. Reality is I'm very emotional, sensitive and warmhearted. People who are close to me tell me that all the time.

As time went by, I regret what I had done. We remained good friends since college and I'm kinda happy for what I did because he "moved on" and found another girl he's happy with. I could have led him on like many other girls do, but I never did.

This is my story. :)

[Anonymous]

Yes. Even though most of my actions were reactions for the way I was treated, It still bothers me.