Do guys really not care about personality?

I've heard many guys say on here that the girls personality doesn't matter if she's good looking.And I asked a Q if guys like girls who are dumb or play dumb and they all basically said "yes" and that smart girls are the boring/unattractive ones.

So is personality not that important?

So,what should girls who aren't gorgeous or sexy do?I guess we're doomed forever?
Wow,guys really don't care about personality.Never realized looks were the only important factor in a relationship for a guy:( Thanks for answering though!I should probably save up for plastic surgery at this point.Thanks!


Most Helpful Guy

  • Ignore evangelina on this one. I can say first hand I've dated people with so-so looks and great personalities for long periods of time, and I'm generally considered an incredibly superficial/vain guy who does vocally admit that looks are damn important.

    Guys are so simple, but I think you're even oversimplifiying us. I'll make this as simple as possible. Looks matter. Personality matters. Confidence matters (which is really a subset of personality, but its a CRUCIAL subset of personality).

    people keep trying to assume that only one matters. that's not the case. They both matter. and I'll up the ante. They are both *vital*. If you lack either of them. If you are seriously deficient in either looks or personality YOU WILL NOT BE DATED. This is a broad assumption, but anyone who says attractive girls are being dated despite having no personality is being a bitch. That person who said that is being a bitch, because clearly she is judging someone unfairly and being whiny and p*ssy about it. Grow up. Clearly the woman has a personality because the only thing every guy agrees on, from warm hearted good guys to cold calculating assholes like myself, is that you need both a personality and an attractive body to be dateable. A lack of either one REALLY limits the amount of time people will stand being near you. no matter how interesting you are, if we can't stand looking at you, you're done for. No matter how hot you are, if you are boring we want to stab ourselves in the stomach just to have something interesting happen. Sure someone who si attractive but has no personality could get a date or two. I';ve dated such women for a date or two. Then I wanted to committ suicide from boredom so I cut them off.

    Here is my argument that maybe, just maybe, if you have to pick just one, personality trumps physicality.

    Most guys are aware they aren't attractive enough to get every girl out there. They realize they are a 7 or a 5 or a 3. They then go and rationalize that they need to find someone in the same attractiveness vicinity to them. If they are low-numbered they won't care that much if the girl is not as attractive, as long as they are on par with the guy's level. It is extremely rare to ever see a guy compromise on personality, even if he is the most boring guy on earth. We demand great personalities from our women. So in this case, personality is MUCH more make or break than looks since a guy can rationalize lowered expectations on looks, but never on personality.

    still... both of these are equally vital and if you do not meet the expecred standard of a guy in EITHER category you are simply unliekly to get a first, let alone second, date.

    • So ignore me,but you're correct.Why would you of all be correct but no other person in this whole damn universe isn't?

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    • Yea,bye,couldn't care less to read anything else you post.Everyone else is wrong but you.Bye

    •'s as if you're reading an entirely different thread than I am....

What Guys Said 10

  • When I was young and stupid, all I really wanted was two boobs, a pretty face and a pokie-bun between her legs for my personal pleasures. As I grew older and wiser, I quickly realized that personality is what is most important. What man wants a woman who is nothing more than Hell-On-A-Broom? I don't care how hot a woman is, I have nothing for A BITCH! There were times I preferred the chuncky chick or the ulgy chick with a splendid personality over the other girls who were hotter and...well...wackos. Appearance only goes so far.

    Personality counts mostly for older men. The one exception is only if it's for sex and sex only. Even counting for that, we just can't F**K a witch...ruins the mood

  • I wrote an article entirely about this, and how it works... It's on here if you look under my articles on my profile. For the record, smart girls are the only ones who interest me, as dumb girls can't talk about anything I find remotely interesting. It's dumb girls who are the boring ones. My current girlfriend and most of my exs are very smart and they were attractive. So stereotyping doesn't work.

  • Once you re pretty,and v a nice body,Most Guys dnt really care about a girls personality or background,..

  • of course we care, but only as soon as you are hot. and if you are not sexy then yes you are doomed to date losers

    • I imagine you aren't too much of a winner

    • I'm sorry for being so confronting

  • There are still some people who do.

  • to be honest if you're good looking guys won't care about your personality

  • Personality is a bonus,isn't a must but definitely a bonus

  • "Guys are visual so we are automatically attracted to the attractive women.Plus,it can be cute when a girl plays dumb.An attractive dumb girl will always be chosen over an ugly smart girl...maybe you're not attractive as you say you are"


    People agreed with me,so I am correct 100%

  • I'm going to be brutally honest and I think most if not all guys can agree.If a girl is attractive and seen as attractive by ourselves and our friends,we can overlook the personality.Looks are what attracts two people to one another,but us guys are visual,we don't have to emotionally connect or talk or communicate to be happy with our partners.Yes an attractive girl will always be chosen over the ugly girl even if the ugly girl has the best personality in the world.And playing dumb can be cute and a turn on


What Girls Said 3

  • There are a lot of men who don't like smart girls. There are a lot of men who do. Find one that does.

    I do think for a large portion of the male population looks can override personality. Or it could be that certain guys are not attracted to any kind of complexity in personality. Simple girls may turn them on (like the guy below who admits that dumbing it down is a turn on). I can't deny this because I have seen a lot of attractive girls who are not the brightest bulbs when it comes to academics with boyfriends. I think for a lot of guys intelligence or intelligent conversation is not on the list of things important for a girlfriend, especially if the guy isn't intelligent in certain things himself. Even some intelligent men may like girls who aren't as well read or learned as they are in whatever area or topic. I've seen this happen time and time again.

    I have friends who are intelligent in different areas but have dumbed it down and they see dramatic differences in how many guys are interested in them. It's not the best thing and its kind of sad but its the truth.

    Still, there are many guys out there who do value personality and brains although I'm not sure they are in the majority and I would bet money that men who see these qualities as infinitely MORE important than looks are definitely in the minority.

    I saw my ex boyfriend once in Urban Outfitters with my best friend and I chatted for a bit with him. He had his new girlfriend on his arm and I know her from high school. She is like the diametrical opposite of everything that I am, everything that I stand for, etc. We are both good looking but she still has a completely opposite look. She is kind of a dainty looking blondie. She's cute but she gives off a lot of blank stares. She's not the smartest girl in the world. I had a class with her in sophomore year of h.s. I think and she said the most ridiculous things. She asked me once if President Kennedy was still alive. I gave a report on welfare and poverty in America once and she said it was informative because she didn't know we had poor people, unemployment, or poverty in America. She had to check with my friend to make sure she knew what gravity was. Just in general a kind of stupid girl. She didn't have a bad personality though. She was sweet, probably in part because she's so simple. I am a very intelligent girl, always debating about things, etc. So our relationship when we dated was really passionate and intense but also lots of arguing. I'm always questioning things and talking about issues. maybe its refreshing for him to date a girl who just is simple, quiet, and calm. Someone who doesn't challenge him. Idk. I wouldn't be surprised though. Intelligence doesn't necessarily mean you have a perfect personality for everyone to love though. I love my personality but I am kind of difficult to deal with at times.

    I wouldn't worry if I were you, don't dwell on this. just be open and I'm sure you will find someone.

  • Duh.Look around you,if guys cared about personality Maxim would have been dedicated to personality.Even other guys said it,as long as you're hot,personality doesn't matter.Duh

  • Guys do not care about personality.Guys go for looks,not personality.Looks can overshadow a bad personality(for a guy).And girls who play dumb are the ones who guys always go for and ignore the smart ones.

    So,no,personality is not important to guys.If you're attractive you can lack all of the personality or just be plain mean,bitchy or rude,they'll still go out with you or even marry you.

    This question can be found if one were to use the search engine.Duh.