Disclaimer: obviously both are vital but...
I'm asking this after a short chat with someone on here and he insinuated women crave love more and men crave respect.
For me, I place respect much higher than love because if my partner doesn't respect me-where does that leave us? He can love me up and down but if he doesn't acknowledge my autonomy, we have a much bigger problem than 'the thrill is gone'
Anyways, curious to see what other women think.
- Love is more important than respectVote A
- Respect is more important than loveVote B
- I'm a guyVote C
I think a lot of bad relationships have this type of set up.
Most Helpful Guy
I think you're going to get confused answers here.
I think that you might also get different answers by age.
I think that the way that men and women love one another is not the same. I think that young people tend to assume it is, so they look to be loved in the way they themselves love, and are surprised if they don't find it.
Men, at least, seem to as they mature become comfortable and enjoy the way women -actually- love.
Women... I'm not sure, some do some don't from what I see, but I haven't made a big study of it.0
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Most Helpful Girl
I would need respect first and foremost. I have been disrespected so much and it as made me feel that the person does not really love me at all. I ended a friendship for brief (sorta - it was a 6 month NO talking period) time because I felt that he didn't respect me and I was sick of it. I knew he loved me, but I felt no respect from him and in turn, that made me doubt his love. I made it clear to him that in order for us to be friends again, he needed to respect me and if he couldn't then there wasn't a point to us talking anymore.
I agree with others saying that love and respect go hand in hand, but in order for a relationship to be able to grow to love, it needs to have a foundation of respect.2