Search Results: i like him, should i let him go

It's impossible to forget them once you have grasped. But i heard about them MORE than a 100 times. And still kept forgetting.

No cognitive issues. But it was a defense mechanism. There is no way that to study it as extensively as i did and keep forgetting it is just a coincidence with me also fearing to be changed. Wanting to be changed but there is a huge reason why i became this way, to survive.

Both of my clinger-pusher parents are fearful-avoidant because of their pretty bad traumas growing up, till this day they get scared when complimented, for example.

And i learnt that the most widespread recommendations are very harmful, like; "it's no use overthinking" or "love your parents" These spoken excuses always push the anxiety further down so tightly it overflows out as irrationality.

i rarely see my parents and when i do i cannot bring myself to tell them:

Forgiving should come naturally, not through ideology. Just like breathwork never worked for me until opening up my emotions triggered the breathing changes naturally. It is ok to look like you're possesed for days while pouring out the repressed anxiety.

They still press it down with either "we blamed them, they wronged us, now forgive and move on" (my dad) or "they suck, let's revenge forever" (my mom).

Last time i told mom "i have had this bad habit forever, it is finally going away!" she rudely acknowledged and dismissed it in one same sentence.

I think everyone who refuses to investigate this topic and to persist until trauma psychology becomes as clear as adding 1+1, is afraid of finding out they have issues - even if they know they do - because we developed our issues as a means to survive. letting go of daddy issues frightens us to death, it has been our survival strategy.

The tragedy is that 40% of all adults have UNRESOLVED infancy anxiety issues and seek relationships to cope with them instead of fixing their body's repressed panic.

What has she thrown away?

I am a good guy, sensitive and I don’t drink/club/smoke. We got on and had chemistry. I am a guy who ticked all her boxes on paper, same culture and religion. In the same top career like her, I’m from a really good family that is very wealthy. Her parents liked me. I’m tall, good looking and in shape. It’s like I’ve got every gift out there and still wasn’t enough :(

In the end I was fighting for her which is kind of crazy because she should be fighting for a guy like me too.

In the end I didn’t do anything fundamentally wrong I was a good boyfriend. Her reasons were just a bit retarded thinking I’m a player, it could get messy, didn’t make her feel special.

We all make small mistakes, but I tried to be a good boyfriend and invested a lot of my time and energy and was committed. I don’t think I will ever understand how she just let me go. Very painful.

Apparently, I'm talking to this girl who recently gotten out of a courtship that went wrong. It appears she's healing from it and needs some time to get her emotions together.

I was just curious. I was thinking of talking to her once a week for a month to see if I could conjour anything and give her some time to heal, but also not stay in it if she's on some forever friend ish.

Was just curious on this perspective. Should I move on, continue pursuing, or a little bit in between. Thank you.

I wanted to call her but she said she wanted to get to know me first. Eventually she opened up a bit as we got to know each other and managed a call. It went pretty well. Maybe she's a bit hesitant cause she doesn't want to get hurt again. It's a bit of a confusing situation but just let me know.