He stopped replying after opening up about stress—should I text him?

[Anonymous]

Been talking to a guy we met everything went well shortly after he stopped texting less he said it was due to having more hours at work then he opened up about him not being able to see me bc his parents wouldn’t let him use the car bc of an argument they had currently his car need to be fixed he also said he was stressed bc of things he had to pay and figure out and he needed time to get right I told him I understood everything and he didn’t have through go through things alone that I was there and we were a team so we would figure everything out together I just didn’t want him pushing me away bc of that but he read my message and never answered back what should I do is that my answer? Should I text him?

[HollyK21]

I could be wrong but it sounds like you guys aren’t on the same page. In my opinion, he was telling you all the reasons why dating you won’t work: you’re basically long distance unless you can be the one going to see him (since he can’t use the car), he works too much, his money is tied up, he needs time to get right before a relationship. Meanwhile it’s like you are on a whole different wavelength, saying you’re a team and he doesn’t have to go through this alone. You’re trying to lock in and he’s trying to step back.

[Asker]

I just don’t get it because before we were both on the same page which is why I decided to open up and move forward with things he knew I was scared to bc of my past and he said he was here to hurt me like the past but to heal I get everything going on I’m going through similar things

[Asker]

I even said if I wasn’t what you expected let me know I’ll be good no hard feelings and he’s like I really do like you and that’s when he brought up all those things he said he didn’t want to bring me down with him and he needed time to get right which I understand but if im willing to stick around and be a team through everything I don’t get it

[HollyK21]

Actions speak louder than words, so rather than falling for everything he says, read between the lines and see what’s really going on. I get it — you’ve been hurt before, but unfortunately it’s a risk you have to take if you’re going to date because ultimately, there’s no guarantee it’s going to work.

You also have to keep in mind that just because you’re willing to work through thick and thin doesn’t mean he will reciprocate. If a guy is showing that he’s trying to let go, you shouldn’t dig your nails in deeper. Just understand it isn’t going to work, and walk away.

[bowenw]

It seems like he is making a lot of excuses why he can't see you. I suggest you leave it up to him to contact you, but don't waste much time waiting.

[Danny_dan92]

How long has it been?

[Asker]

I texted him this yesterday morning

[Danny_dan92]

So it’s been more than 24hrs?

[Asker]

Yes it has

[Danny_dan92]

Send him one more text, checking in on him

“I hope you’re ok”

That’s it, nothing more. If he doesn’t respond he either died or isn’t interested

[Iron_Man]

Call him on the phone

[slatyb]

No, forget him.