Should I stay in this controlling relationship or finally leave?

[Anonymous]

Been dating a girl for 8 months around Jan. things started to go south. I'm just gonna get to it please read this list. As a side note I did meet this great girl at a community event and I really like her. I been debating this for a while even before I met her.

Fight everyday over things she thinks I said.

Thinking I'm trying to sab. when I'm not by asking a question.

Can't bring up her past but she can even though she said never bring it up.

Never comes to my house.

Doesn't let me talk when we fight she talks over me can't get a word in.

Costs about 160 to go see her in rideshare she lives an hour away.

Not sure if she's cheating with her abusive ex.

When asking why is he on her FB she flipped.

When asked if she was cheated with him same reaction.

Everything is MY fault she thinks she's perfect.

If we don't roleplay in bed it's no *** at all.

No intention of moving out from her mom and sis.

When asking are you gonna ever live on your own with me she said when I'M ready as in her.

She wants to live next to them when she moves. (As they are in temporary house right now.)

Wants to stay in her town and me to move there.

Won't let me meet anyone else in her family.

Cares more about family and friends.

Have to spend every holiday with her family because of her traditions.

Every holiday I would have to go to her because she says my family is important to me.

If I ask to spend 1 holiday with me she says I'm trying to keep her away from family.

If I ask anything about our future and living alone without the others she hangs up.

She said she will spend the holidays with me when she's ready.

Never goes out. Past 8 months 3 times.

in the past few days I haven't brought anything up. Nothing about her so called ex or about living alone without people. And we been getting along. I know she loves me that's why it's hard to let go. I know it's really gonna seriously hurt her. But seems only things are good when I don't mention these things.

[SueShe]

I did not need to read past the first few lines of what is causing you to have issues with her.

She is a walking red flag and you should never tolerate that unilateral things that you have to endure and go through with her. You should have taken the initiative to leave her a long time, at the first signs that led you to have second thoughts. If someone cannot admit their mistakes, that is one major issue that needs to be addressed and if no corrective measures are taken, then you know it will always be like that.

Yes, sever that relationship at once for your peace of mind.

[objective_calendar]

She's not ready to have a relationship. It's not a cause worth pursuing.

[dudeinohio]

You are in an abusive relationship. You should break up before it escalates.

[Anonymous]

is she your girlfriend? Are you satisfying your duties as a boyfriend? Do you pay her bills?