I need help, I am in dilemma?

[Anonymous]

So after 2.5 years of relationship, my boyfriend told me that let's keep this relationship at bay for now , and let's take space fr now, cuz it's hard for him to manage both studies and this relationship... he told me you study and i will too, cuz if he is unsettled after few years as has no job , he can't marry me? So he wants us to stay friends for a while , if he gets a job early the he told me we can get back , this way you won't be hurt.. for now just focus on you and your studies bla bla... so now I don't know , I am so confused , what should I do like is this okay or red flag? and he doesn't treat me like he used to do anymore? so what should I do, but also he doesn't let me go!! is he playing with me?

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I’m going to say it like it is. Tell the joker to GO POUND SAND because after two & a half years he’s bringing this bullshit up now. In addition he’s calling the shots, setting terms & your relationship is hanging on a job offer thread.

You deserve better & if truth be told I think you two should part ways & when you find your special someone & start a new relationship I guarantee the joker will come crawling back & when he does laugh in his face & tell him you are with a real man now.

[OneViewpoint]

He's trying to have it all. A girlfriend but also his freedom. Focus (maybe) on school but also keep you on the back burner. Indecision is pretty common in your age range for both men and women. Decide if you want to put up with it and play the field yourself or you want to end it.

[Jessica405]

He is saying, very politely, that it is over. He is leaving the back door open in case HE wants to come back to you.

Preemt the situation. Find a new guy.

[spartan55]

I'd tell him to go fuck off. That's the weakest pussy ass excuse I've ever heard.

[bowenw]

He may have another girl, or wants to play the field while keeping you on the sidelines.

[Alex-Snow]

He sounds like he is trying to figure out life. How old is he? It seems like he has a plan and is not open to changing things. Has it also messed with your sex life with him?

[Asker]

He's 28

[Godihateyou]

Dump him. Now. He's about wasting your time.

[In_Trance]

Dump him and move on