I have a dilemma, anyone want to give me some actual advice?

[Anonymous]

[Rosexøxø]

Well you didn’t share it, and you’re anonymous. I’m pissed off 👌

[Asker]

Basically, I need to say "no, thanks" to a girl, that I am having a really hard time saying it to

[Rosexøxø]

Oh just say it. Honesty is good for the soul, I’m serious.

Make it a “you thing,” and not a “her” thing. People always take rejection soooooOoo DRAMATICALGLY introspectively, and then they’re world is automatically smaller.

Best you can do as a good citizen, is to deliver honesty and explain what this scenario really is- you not rejecting her- you just naturally preferring something else which can’t be helped or you having no time for a relationship rn, I don't know just be honest.

Maybe offer to be her friend until she finds someone else? That’s what I used to do, anyway. 🤷‍♀️

Girls don’t mind friendship. They’re more open to it than most guys would be.

[Asker]

Eh, well, it's not as cut dry as you made it sound, that's my problem right now lol

[Rosexøxø]

Lmaoo you know what? You wanna go deep deep deep? You’ll have to either know a whole person's life story to *know and explain* what will be a source of comfort to them. Which psychologists and therapists need hours and hours of sessions just to do just that, in a near-accuracy, way.

You’d either need that previous method

Or you’d need to know exactly how they *think*

To help them *understand* which would be a bloody miracle lol

Or you’d need to at least offer to “walk and be in their life,” so they have basic companion/ support and try to “mourn/ grieve” through this process and move on from something that “could have been.”

They may either find your company an alleviation to loneliness, or a “salt on wound” ordeal because your constant presence shouts at them “they weren’t wanted,” or whatever, and you stay so close, yet so far- in their eyes.

So you decide- maybe flip a coin.

You’d have to KNOW the person and have had a history with them to just try and decipher which of the three (real only optional) methods I described, to use for this person, and have a *smooth separation.*

Since you don’t… because you’re at a “never made it to third base” or whatever

You’re out of luck on your end, and like I said, to achieve the methods above- would be a bloody miracle…

[Rosexøxø]

You’d have to have been in their life before to have some foreknowledge or insight

And even if I’m their life here on out you’d have some difficulty helping them find mr right.

It’s a common thing. Most people can barely do it for themselves, but if you wanna do it for you and them, then go for it.

You don’t want cut and dry IT SEEMS.

Maybe you just wanted someone else on Gag to cheer you on or something.

I don't know just don’t take any boredom’s to a whole new level. Thanks 👌

Good luck to you both

[Asker]

You done?

[Rosexøxø]

I’m never done till I die. You’re done, though.

You clearly don’t need or want advice.

Here’s a badge for you:

“Troll of the year.”

*pats it twice*

“There ya go bud..”

[Sparkie460]

Nobody can give you advice because you don't say what the dilemma is

[Asker]

Basically, I need to say "no, thanks" to a girl, that I am having a really hard time saying it to

[Sparkie460]

Is she coming on to you and you want to easily turn her down

[Asker]

Define "come on"

[Sparkie460]

Approaching you and Hitting on you

[Asker]

Uhhh, maybe?

[Sparkie460]

Why don't you explain what is going on so I can understand and give you the best advice

[Sparkie460]

I'm not really into guessing games

[Asker]

Basically, it SOUNDS like it but, in reality, it's not

[Sparkie460]

I need more details instead of beating around the bush

[Asker]

I'm not

[Sparkie460]

What do you mean it sounds like it but it's not

[TroyDT2]

Just be honest about it.

[In_Trance]

dump her