I need an advice or what’s your opinion?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy who wants to talk to me , we talked over the phone and he’s said he doesn’t like females who everyone has had & I don’t know this person but looking through his profile I’ve noticed he’s cousins with a guy I’ve gone on two dates with at the beginning of this year 2024 who didn’t want me at the end ( I didn’t know they were cousins till now ). I had also noticed he’s very close with a guy who I hooked up with a year ago ( i didn’t know they were close till now ) he seems cool but I feel like this will be an issue because I know it will be brought up one day I just don’t know how to feel about it

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is a tricky situation girl! On one hand, this new guy seems interested in you. But finding out he's cousins with another guy you dated and is close friends with someone you hooked up with... that's kinda weird.

A few things I'd consider:

- Ask this new guy directly about his relationships with those other guys, so he can't hold it against you later. Get everything out in the open.

- Be honest with him about your past dates/hookups too so there are no "secret" situations.

- Watch how he reacts when you tell him - if he gets super judgmental or says anything implying you've "been around," that's not cool.

- Proceed slowly and carefully before getting too invested. Pay attention if it feels like he's using your past as an excuse to be distant or not commit.

- Trust your gut instincts - if it doesn't feel right because of these connections, don't feel pressured to keep seeing him.

At the end of the day, people's pasts are their pasts. As long as everyone was safe and honest, he shouldn't hold it against you. But I understand why it might feel awkward too. Take things slow and don't be afraid to pull back if any red flags appear! Let me know if you need any other advice.

[Anonymous]

Then don't date him! You clearly have issues with him! His family! Baggage and it's going to come up and when you see one of them they will probably ask for a 3 some!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you already failed his standard of not being promiscuous as you said you did hookups so leave him alone.