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It's impossible to forget them once you have grasped. But i heard about them MORE than a 100 times. And still kept forgetting.

No cognitive issues. But it was a defense mechanism. There is no way that to study it as extensively as i did and keep forgetting it is just a coincidence with me also fearing to be changed. Wanting to be changed but there is a huge reason why i became this way, to survive.

Both of my clinger-pusher parents are fearful-avoidant because of their pretty bad traumas growing up, till this day they get scared when complimented, for example.

And i learnt that the most widespread recommendations are very harmful, like; "it's no use overthinking" or "love your parents" These spoken excuses always push the anxiety further down so tightly it overflows out as irrationality.

i rarely see my parents and when i do i cannot bring myself to tell them:

Forgiving should come naturally, not through ideology. Just like breathwork never worked for me until opening up my emotions triggered the breathing changes naturally. It is ok to look like you're possesed for days while pouring out the repressed anxiety.

They still press it down with either "we blamed them, they wronged us, now forgive and move on" (my dad) or "they suck, let's revenge forever" (my mom).

Last time i told mom "i have had this bad habit forever, it is finally going away!" she rudely acknowledged and dismissed it in one same sentence.

I think everyone who refuses to investigate this topic and to persist until trauma psychology becomes as clear as adding 1+1, is afraid of finding out they have issues - even if they know they do - because we developed our issues as a means to survive. letting go of daddy issues frightens us to death, it has been our survival strategy.

The tragedy is that 40% of all adults have UNRESOLVED infancy anxiety issues and seek relationships to cope with them instead of fixing their body's repressed panic.

ex broke up with me not because l did anything bad, I was good. But she felt resistance and that we would clash. She was a little dismissive/mean at the end. She did say we could be friends.

I unfollowed her and told her not to contact me again as I was hurt. It has been 7 weeks with nil contact between us. It was a shorter relationship but we met each others parents, stayed overnight and she is literally the most beautiful girl in the the world.

Message: (I will start the conversation asking how she is)

I do understand there’s a good chance you may have moved on. Looking back on our relationship, I thought what we had was special and unique! Despite how it ended, I would like to try one last time to reach out to you as I thought what we shared was genuinely meaningful!

It would be nice to meet and catch up with you again!

I respect your decision if this is simply not what you would want.

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I mean the whole Cowgirl Jessie and Buzz Lightyear "relationship" is getting crazy.

Surely the last Toy Story should ship Woody and Jessica and Buzz and (female purple haired space ranger insert name).

Duh. And of course, all go home to adult Andy and Wife. Even with Prospector Stinky Pete.

My ex broke up with me. It wasn’t a nasty breakup. Although she was a bit mean/dismissive at the very end. Nothing bad happened. I met her parents she met mine. Marriage talks despite a shorter 4 month relationship

I stopped contacting her and removed her off of socials. I have spent the last 6 weeks really depressed. I lost a connection and literally the most beautiful girl in the world 😭😭

I’m a guy I can lose my pride/dignity for a girl I like? Who cares?

I won’t beg her or send her an essay. But reach out check how she is and explain how I think what we had was really special. But also be like I understand if she has moved on.

No pressure or desperation in the message.

My stunning girlfriend of 4months broke up with me and she listed a lot of reasons. It was a very intense relationship and I apologised and agreed with her on things and promised her I’d do better.

I didn’t beg her but acted scared of losing her. In the end no amount of convincing worked. I also feel like it made me pathetic as she was quite mean to me and I was accepting everything she said to try and retain her.

She said we could still be friends. I said no.

I told her to never contact me again, proceeded to remove her off of instagram. It’s been a month and I’ve not messaged her once and she has not been in contact. If she really likes me she still can get in touch I guess.

What do my actions communicate?